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How do I confront my boyfriend/fiance about lying to me?

Today, I found out that my boyfriend/fiance lied to me about something very important to me, how do I handle that without him getting mad at me? PLEASE HELP!!!

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If he's your fiancee ... you *should* be able to just ask him about it straight out.

If he gets mad at you for asking him why he lied to you about something important ... you should probably think long and hard about whether you want to continue a relationship - even to the point of marriage - with someone who would do that.

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You should be getting mad at him and not the other way around. But please don't base any of your information off of he say she say.

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Oh, I know that he lied, because I seen where he messaged the other person... But thank you!!! :)
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No problem, but yea confront him, if your emotions get the best of you while doing so don't worry about it.
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Ya. Thanks again!!
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Hey Marq you doin good?
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I'm doing great, how about you?
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Great
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Good!!!!!!
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ok!
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Do you forgive him for the lie?

If not, then break off the relationship right now and move on.

If you do forgive him, then remind him you are the best thing he's has in his life and he better not do it again or you will resort to Option 1 immediately.

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And the bad thing is, I actually am the best thing in his life because every other girl that he has been with, doesn't rub his head or his back when he's not feeling good, and I'm the only one that actually cared for him when he had cancer and I atleast deserve to be told the truth about everything and not lied to all the dang time!!!
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A relationship is based on trust. If you do not trust him, you do not have a relationship. You have options, too. You are allowed to break it off if you do not trust him. Enjoying his company is not the same as trust.
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I had alot of trust in him, until today when I found out that he lied to me... I trusted him with everything... and he broke that trust!!! :(
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If hes hiding something from u before marriage just imagine the afterlife

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Thank you BrittLynn!!
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You are welcome hun (:
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oka! (:
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Don't shout. Keep calm. Kiss him him when you see him. Sit him down and have a civilized conversation.

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tell him "liar liar pants on fire".

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Just lie to him about something really important to him...Then when he confronts you about it tell him "Yeah it don't feel good does it?" He'll get the point real quick trust me...I know from experience.

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Thanks. Can I follow you?
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Me? I don't mind...Yeah you can follow me...
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Ok!!
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Hmm calm down don't get mad and hug him and says sorry :)

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Thanks, but he lied to me about something that is very important to me and I can't really forgive him for it.. But :)
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Can you tell me what is it ? I will help you all :) let share about it to me :)
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Was it something for the relationship or against it? If against it, consider not moving forward. Whatever happens before you get married honestly doesn't go away after you say I do. If he's ok lying to you now, he will be ok with it later when he thinks "he's got you" committed to him completely. And lastly, if you are AT ALL AFRAID of talking to him then I suggest moving on a second time. You deserve to feel protected by your mate, not afraid. Grown up balanced people can have a healthy relationship & communicate effectively. I hope you are watching out for yourself, it doesn't sound like your fiance is.

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thank you :)
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You can't marry someone you can't even communicate with. Are you going to spend the rest of your life in fear of angering him? Put the brakes on girl. Straighten this out before it's too late.

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Thanks milburdine!! Can I follow you on here?
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Sure.:)
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It doesn't matter if he gets Maas. You are the one who got lied too. Just be sure it is worth the drama. Sometimes a simple so I found out blah blah blah and I'm not going to fight with you about it but I'd appreciate not being lied to. Thanks. Is enough.

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Oh, its something bad enough that I need to confront him about it...
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I wonder if he can be trusted. Good luck.
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Thank you!
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Either you trust him or you don't trust him That is the important issue. Whether he lied or not is not really the point. If you no longer trust him, the rest does not matter.

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I did trust him until he lied to me!!! Now I don't know weather to trust him or not trust him!!!
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really depends on what he lied about?

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