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Alr. I have a friend right? and she met this guy ok? and they exchanged numbers. Its been like a month and they've been still texting and calling but have seen each other only once after, the first day they met. But he suddenly stopped texting her its been 3 days now shes so sad, does anyone know why? like there has to be a reason, he cant just drop her after a whole month of talking. Opinions please

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Unfortunately, because the relationship consisted almost entirely of "talking" and not of any kind of face-to-face contact, you can't really know what happened. Maybe he met someone--in person, face-to-face--and hit it off. Maybe he was involved in an accident and hasn't been able to call yet. Maybe he's traveling. Maybe he just lost his phone, or his contact list. (Because really, who actually memorizes phone numbers any more?)

Is there a reason why they never saw each other face to face? If he's local, it's fishy. Either you're interested in someone, or you're not. Phone calls and text messages are a way to keep in touch in between face-to-face encounters, not a way to carry on a relationship.

If he's local and simply wasn't interested in seeing your friend, whatever the reason for his dropping out of sight, it's probably for the best. Any relationship--even a friendship--has to be built on something stronger than a data plan. Otherwise the message is "you're not worth my time"--and a foundation like that isn't strong enough to support anything lasting.

Here's hoping your friend finds the answers she's looking for, and that she gets those answers face-to-face. <3

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Thank you that was helpful, and yeah the reason she cant hang out is because her parents are strict, and never let, and she dosnt like sneaking out
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Good for your friend for playing by the rules, but she's setting herself up for failure if she doesn't let other people (like this guy she was texting) know that she's not actually available to date. I understand that she's feeling repressed and wants to have a social life, but she's leading him on, and it'd be understandable if sooner or later he realized this couldn't go anywhere and cut bait.

I think your friend needs to start looking for a way to have a social life within the framework her parents have set out for her. It sounds like her parents are pretty old-fashioned, so maybe she needs to take a more old-fashioned approach. Invite the boy for dinner to meet her parents, and have him at the house when they're home a few times so they can get to know him and get comfortable with him. Go out with a chaperone. Yes, it's a little restrictive, but it's better than constantly implying you're going to see someone and never following through on it.

Your friends parents are trying to protect her, not to make her miserable. If she lets them know that she IS miserable, but doesn't want to betray their trust, they may be willing to meet her halfway. It's all about communication!

Best of luck to your friend!
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we are not him so... but that sucks

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ask him

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no thatd be so weird. I mean I have offered to talk to him but my friend is telling me to not too because itll make it seem like she really cares, when she really shouldn't since she hasn't really known him for a long time. But she does of course, because that's how girls are yanno
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Like, ok, maybe he's found a new girl, right?

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idk maybe? right?
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Hey, my friend was in the same situation and he texted back a day later saying how he was so busy with school and stuff. So maybe your friend is overreacting or maybe because they have only seen each other once he has met someone else, there's no way to be sure unless she asks him outright. Another thing is, don't text him more than three times, u don't want to scare this guy off by seeming to clingy. Hope this helps :)

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Ok, so your friend met this guy randomly and they exchanged numbers. They have been texting each other happily for a month....and one day they decided to meet. All of a sudden he stopped texting her? First of all I don't think it's good that she likes someone that she just met twice and only texts otherwise. If they are friends...or something then they should see each other more often. The reason why he probably stopped talking to her was because he realized they don't have a lot in common. Or he met someone else and feels guilty hanging out with your friend.

he might also be busy and just forgot to reply:) You can always ask him!

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Yeah she like can never hang out and stuff, its hard. But yeah your prob right
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Of course there's always a reason. And yes he can because he did. She needs to go ask him why.

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ok

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Try your best to cheer your best friend up and keep her mind off of the guy and on to someone else you can't base life on a guy she has to do more get her out of the house and doing more with her friends,you or her family plus there could be many reasons why that guy stopped talking to your friend but helping her move on before finding out why he didn't contact her would be the best thing to do so shes less affected by the situation.

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That's true thankyou
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your welcome =)
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