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Should I give up on her?

A girl and I have been madly in love until here recently when I stopped giving her all my attention. Before I knew it she left me. A week later she 'hooked up' with a guy that she's been in class with for awhile; later that night she called me saying "she did something bad", admitting that she slept with another man.

Obviously this upset me but there was nothing I could do because she is single. We tried hanging out for a few days as friends but all we would do is mess around and/or fight. We finally decided we should actually stop seeing each other for awhile so we can actually feel like we're broken up. A few days in she calls me saying that she misses me, but she said she "really likes guys" and will probably keep hooking up with guy #2.

She keeps reminding me she wont date him but likes him around because he's actually nice. Now I'm at a point where I don't want to lose her forever, I love her and she cares about me, but i also don't want to sit back and watch her be with someone else. To add to this she will be transferring to a different college in January (which guy #2 is also going to be attending).

Should I move on or keep trying?

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I'd move on. It sounds like she's messing with you. If she really cared about you, she'd stay at the college your going to not guy #2 and she'd stop hooking up with some other guy. Sounds like she wants two guys at one time and she can't have that. Don't let her get to you. Or you could sit her down and talk to her about whats really going on. Sorry if I wasn't much help but If I were you I'd move on.

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Um this is tough but i think you should probably just move on.

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I think you should move on. Make the choice of which two guys to be in love with for her. Move on, so she can move on, and be with guy #2. It's going to hurt, I can guarantee that.

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BurningGirl
yooooooooooo
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gaaaaaaaaa lol
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I'm not sure if you got that one.

You said "yo"
I said "ga"

yoga
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Yeah move on.
Don't be needy.
It's for the best hone

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You should move on, if she really loved you than she would of tried to stay with you and not of went off and slept with another man. If she "misses you" than she should be doing somethiong about it instead of going off and saying she is going to switch colleges with guy #2 that she "likes". I'm just saying that if she loved you than she wouldnt of went straight off and slept with another man, and now going to switch to the same college...Sorry, but seems to me you need to move on. You can find someone better.

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i would move on i mean she obviously dont care about you because if she loved you she wouldnt go around and sleep with other guys ....your basically a third wheel to her and no one needs that just know there's plenty of fish in the sea (:

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"If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it" or in my way of thinking, you had not established an expectation of exclusivity. You may not be able to overcome the jealous feelings of her being with another guy; that is sometimes hard to do. But honestly, the signs point to her being out of your life shortly. Transferring to the rival's school tells me she is following what interests her more.

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Shes been planning on going to this college for awhile she just needed to get accepted. Guy #2 going is just a coincidence.
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Ya coincidence my patootie
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Shes been talking about this college before she even started the class with guy #2 in it. But I understand, I should move on.
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if she was madly in love with you she would have not gone out with some other guy in the fist place and then she felt he was boring and went out with another guy again and then again she calls and says ' i miss u ' i think she 's like enni minni miney mo which one shall i date ( maybe ) or she is jest looking for Mr perfect MOVE ON stat dating an other girl then she will know what you really are

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Move on yo if she loved you guy two wouldn't have been an option otherwise you'll kill your heart yo

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i think you need to move on you don't need to be with a girl who just loves to hook up with another guy shes letting you in on that she can't be trusted and you are her fall back on guy but shes not respecting these guys or herself so she doesn't need you otherwise your just going to be a guy on her list shes trying to bring into her web so trust me i have been there move on its not worth it i was with a guy who just couldn't stay faithful to me and i was his fall back on girl and it was hard but sooner or later you will find somebody whos worthy of you and not play you like that

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