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Im pregnent and im only 14 i used protection and i dont no how to break it to the father and our parents wat should i do i need help!!!!!!!!

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Well maybe you should go to a doctor to make sure your pregnant and aren't you a little too young to be uh doing that?

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Agree, and my name is kailyn too
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Yes I agree also
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agree for the fourth time
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naw she isnt....she did fine...while she was there ....she n her bf ...should know how to handle it
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Agree four the 6th time? Maybe?!:?:?
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Why is everyone saying agree for umpteenth time?
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admit you were imature and tell them. they need to know the truth

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tellem the truth ....its better ....there going to find out anyway
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Omg honey thats horrible

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why would you do that to yourself

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Oh My Gods!!!! Your pregnant at 14??? Not good. Go to a doctor? Look, I don't know how to help, but someone to talk to is always a good thing. Anyway, I know you'll be pretty scared to tell your parents, but I can't really help. Glad I could at least talk, and good luck!

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Did you try a pregnancy test?
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yes 4 times!!!!!
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Wow. I'm so sorry about that. Good Luck I really hope you figure it out.
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Do you at least know who the dad is?
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yes iv only had sex with 1 person
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Well, at least that narrowed it down! :) sorry trying to lighten the mood.
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i guess
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Seriously, I hope you have some luck with that. I'm sorry, I know I'm not helping . . . I tend to ramble a lot . . . I'll shut up now.
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why are you pregnant at 14.and if you are then just tell them the truth and apologize.

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Apologize ? Typical of your generation , apologizing doesn't change anything. What you need to do is grow up and be responsible. Start by learning your actions speak louder then anything. Take responsibility for your actions, tell your parents, be prepared for their disappointment but know the only way that will change is to show them that your ready to put the baby first from this day forward
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i think my best chioce is give it up for adaoption but still stay in touch with the people that adopted my baby is that a good idea?
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I don't think your legally allowed to keep in touch
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You got that right I don't feel a bit sorry for her
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wow u people arre really mean
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Aww guys stop it. She used protection so she cares. She obviously didn't mean for this to happen!!!!!
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guys i feel bad stop give it to adoption that is it or get an abortion but don't keep unless you don't want a job and a life ( when i say life i mean not being teased at school, not being stared at and not being the gossip topic and not to be LAUGHING STOCK fo the school Mods don't erase this cause i got 5 deleted alrleady and nothing was wrong with them and i am a bit steamed so don't make my day worse pls pls have a heart besides i am doing a lot typing here
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okay wow
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talk to your parents, the father of the child and a doctor, then make a decision about what to do, keep the baby, adopt the baby out, or have an abortion.

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im against abortion hun
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well then, that decision should be pretty easy
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adoption then
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Sorry, honey, but you don't really have a choice at age 14. Adoption is the only possible option, unless you're parents decide to take him/her in. Sorry, but telling your parents is kind of going to happen, because after your nine months, their going to be able to tell you're pregnant.
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Please don't get an abortion!!!! I'm praying for you!!! Just be honest with your parents! They'll love you the same(:

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Ya don't get abortion!!!!!
1 million babies will never have social security.:(
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1 million babies will never see a first birthday...:( and why> no self discipline in today's youth and society.so sad...
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Do whats right for you.
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wait... if today's youth and society had self discipline those 1 million babies still wouldn't see a first birthday...
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and they would have not been aborted
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either way they would never have been born
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but they would have not felt pain had that not been born as opposed to being aborted..killed
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Haha good point! ^
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get an aboration people she is young she is a child herself and she is going to take care of a child and what will the people at school say she is going to ruin her life
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the fetus can't feel pain until week 28, and i don't think any doctor's perform abortions that late in the pregnancy
http://discovermagazine.com/2005/dec/fetus-feel-pain
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What is abortion, anyway?
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Welcome to the rest of your life. You made the choice to be a big girl now you have to deal with the big people consequences of your actions. Take one more test to be sure, tell your parents, THEN tell the dad. I say to tell your parents first because I would hate for him to talk you into an abortion. You are about to go for the ride of your life, but at least in 18 years you can look back and smile as you send them off to collage.

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at LEAST in 18 years you will see them in college ver ver very helpful and will really make a person feel better after what u said
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Well, telling your parents is just gonna be one of the first of many many hard things to do. The best thing you can do for your baby & yourself is tell your parents asap so they can help make sure you are getting the things you need, like prenatal pills and get you a dr.

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yeah but do you know how hard it is going to be this is terrible
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No offense but as others said that wasn't the way to go. Talk to an adult u trust and say if I tell u something can u keep it a secret and not freak out. Be sure to tell ur bf!!!

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First go to a doctor to see if you really are pregnant, then if you want, you can abort the baby or tell everyone if you want to keep it!

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If you are really pregnant, you have my deepest concerns. If you have a favorite teacher, a priest or minister etc, you can discuss the issue with them first. You need to address the pregnancy first, but i hope you do not date till you are mature enough to in the future. Right now the baby is the victim. Please make good choices because there are many out there for you.
Take the advice of your teacher, whoever. She/he might be able to help you talk to the Planned Parenthood Organization as well as your family and the dad to be..God bless

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Hey Tony! Always a great job! I'll give you a flag!
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thanks candy..tough question huh?
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Tell the father! Then have everyone over for dinner and break the news then

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Dont get a abortion and 14and pregnant thats way to young just think everyone four years ago u where ten am I right

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Nope 9 get your math right god
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nnooooooooooooo its 8 poeple and math today and spelling lol
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Actually 10 is the RIGHT ANSWER!!!!:
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First go to a free women's clinic. They will give you a pregnancy test. Second ask for help into looking into all of your options. Do you have a really good friend who will not gossip? ( that may be tough) how about a trusted aunt or sibling? Maybe someone can go to comfort you. If in the end you decide to keep the baby ( absolutely YOUR choice!!) sit your parents down and tell them you have big news and it will be very hard for you and ask them not to speak until your done explaining. This will probably be one of the hardest things in your life, but life does go on! Good luck with this.

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why were you having sex at 14?

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cause i can
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Yeah really I want her to answer this
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Well now you got a baby so how's that????
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well you geot a baby hope you are sooooooo happy with it
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hey,well just tell your parents first,if u were old enough to have sex,then b old enough to front reality and ur parents.after u tell them they can prob help u tell ur boyfriend and his parents.all of this aint gona be easy.but o well u wanted to b grown.good luck.and next time just think very careful bfore u take such a serious step.

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Get an abortion. You can't afford to raise this child.

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Noo sheesh
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there are better options..the baby is the victim here..adoption is the best deal unless the grandparents want to keep the precious child.
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If she willingly had sex, I'm sure she knew the risk involved. Abortion should not be an option. My opinion.
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agrees kymbo
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You have to tell them and soon. If you decide to keep it or give it up for adoption you need to be under a doctor's care to take care of you and the baby as soon as possible. If you choose an abortion you only have a certain window. It's not gonna be easy but you decided to have sex knowing it could happen so now you need to face the consequences.

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Deal with your choices. Step up and tell everyone what's going on. Welcome to the real world, you just made it 10,000 times tougher on yourself.

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Sad but true.
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Tell your parents their reaction is never as bad as you imagine it will be. Say that you used protection and that it was a huge mistake. You just wanted to see what it felt like and again you were wrong for doing it. Tell mom first and get her to make a Dr. appointment. I'm sorry that you had to learn this the hard way. But how you handle this will prove that you are at least responsible enough to bring it to your parents attention. Good luck!

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Thanks! I've seen this happen again and again.
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You shouldn't have sex at 14!!!!! What makes you think you should do that!!! Even if it's protected it's your fault you had sex in the first place!!!!

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First, find out for sure if you really are pregnant. If you aren't, resolve to be more responsible in the future and don't have sex. No form of birth control is 100%, though some are close. If you're not ready to have a baby, and no one is at 14, then you shouldn't be having sex.
If you are pregnant, you're going to have to tell your parents soon. Talk to an adult you can trust and ask that person to help you talk to your parents. The guy needs to be more responsible too and have a conversation with his parents. When you play with fire, you can get burned.

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she had it 4 times
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Okay girl let talk WeaponAdict is not smart at all abortion is murder I can see y you would have abortion if you were to get very sick from or (die) but all in all just talk to everyone tell them the truth it is hard but they will love you no mater what.

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Yeah I would never abort a baby it's sad and shouldn't be allowed :(
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You said you used protection, your period could just be late and maybe you are not pregnant. I hope it's a false alarm, you are way to young to have a child

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Ok. Just calm down and talk. Double and triple check. Make sure that ur bf is supportive. Tell ur parents and say I'm so sorry. It's a choice for u and ur bf to make if u want to keep the child or not. But be warned. U will be judged at school. U have my deepest concern I wish u the best!!

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Get an abortion, If you are ok with doing that. And by the way people, don't give me a debate. Cause I don't listen. Somehow you gotta tell your parents though, I suggest saying it really fast and then run out the door. Good luck to you.

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i am so going to folllow you i think the same onl under your permission though
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This doesn't make me sad. Or angry. Just disappointed. Disappointed in how stupid people are.
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true very true
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I'm not stupid.
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... Abortion isn't murder... But don't start an argument cuz Idc

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true it is not
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Abortion is NOT murder.its a choice. This country is already OVER populated and unemployed as it is! I don't know about the rest of you hard working Americans, but, I don't want to be working my butt off to pay someone elses way because of their irresponsibility!

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So if I were to kill a baby after it was born, that's not murder? It's still a growing baby and it can feel pain. Just like you can. It's killing a human being and takes away their life that they could live.
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At that point in its stage its considered a embryo or if earlier a zygote...not a baby, fetus..etc etc. How do you know it can feel pain?
You have you thoughts as I do mine. Good for all of us! God forbid you were 14 and pregnant or your CHILD for instance!
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What's the point of arguing? They aren't gonna change there opinion because some person they don't know told them they are wrong. I say it's their choice. If other people dint like it then I guess they dint have do it. I'll leave it at that.
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get an abortion it is not murder if it was then the government would have banned abortions a long time ago.

PEople just think imagine you were in her place would you be 14 a child well a early teen and taking care of a noisy little organism no if you are saying yes then go try it and i will seee what you will do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET AN ABORTION i don't recomend in secret but whatever you are getin in BIG trouble but these are the consequences!!!!!!
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^^^ exactly! Following animal and nitro
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well you have to tell it to them one way or an other and you have to ways two ways tell them that you and your boyfriend have a deep dating and you wanted to have a baby and you are having one or just wait til it close to when you are due them tell them

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they did not want to have a baby i think
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Wait your parents shouldn't have let that happen they should have known that it could

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well , first im not gunna judge you. check with a local doctor , go after school and say you went to a friends. have them do a test or give you a pregnancy test. know whats going on for sure. and when the time comes , well talk to your mom first , shell understand more than your father. then for him to tell his parents the straight up truth that he got you pregnant.. you all made a mistake , its true.... well i hope i helped a bit, and can you answer my question of " can she possibly be pregnant" ? please D':

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Ya you can have sex as you said to one of your answerees and you can also have a baby... That's what sex is for, MARRIED!!! People who are ready not little childrens. Take responsability and tell everyone you were free wheeling enough to have sex and get pregnant you should have enough courage to tell your family

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Don't get a abortion,i know what your going throw im 13 and pregnant and im not giving my baby up,im taking responsibility and if you don't want to tell your parent's just ask a friend to tell them and stay away from your house for a min.

wish me luck going to have my baby tomorrow

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what you are having a baby and you are 13 drop dead
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Scary isnt it!? I mean..there has got to be some LAW or something...its almost a form of child endangerment if you ask me..the parents should be punished...
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i am 13 and don't even have a bf
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Tell the father of the baby first. It's scary but it's best you tell him alone before you go to any of your parents that way you can break the ice together as a support system. Try not to wait too long. If you decide that u don't want to have the baby the sooner the better but I really don't stand for abortions.

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Sorry about your situation. some of the advice people have given is good. Mostly the ones telling you to be straight with your folks and get help from a doctor or councilor. You are going to find some people are going to be harsh and judgmental. just ignore their crap. They are not trying to help. You are not a bad person. you are just young and going through something that many others have as well. The one thing I would say is to learn from this situation and do whatever it takes to not get pregnant again. Sorry if this seems obvious but unfortunately many girls in your position end up pregnant again. If I was you I would make a promise to myself never to have unprotected sex again. No matter what.
I wish you the best sister. Things will get better.

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First off, you shouldn't be having sex at 14. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend aren't even thinking about sex right now. Just come out and tell them! If their mad. Their mad. But I got to warn you, delivering a baby at a young age is extremely dangerous!

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thats right
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Is this ashlyn or jesus?

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