How can I tell my husband that his mother is visiting too frequently and get him to understand that I need down time?
My mother in law lives 1 hour and 20 minutes away and visits twice a month for an entire weekend. I work 40 hours per week and do not appreciate the extra work that a house guest creates. My parents live in the same area as her and they come visit for just the day and drive back at night. His mother has barged into our bedroom even though the door was closed tight, because we were sleeping too late and she was worried. She also takes over my couch and basically my house. She has brought other family members along with her when visits but never bothered to ask me if it was OK. His mother is coming again this weekend and then she'll be back on Nov 27th and this time she will be staying until Dec 1st. It's like by the time Monday morning arrives, I don't even feel like I've had a weekend. His mother doesn't work so she's on vacation all of the time. I just feel like I'm running a bed and breakfast out of my house. My parents are also angry with her too frequent visits. I see her more often than I do my own parents. Any advice?