Submit a question to our community and get an answer from real people.
Submit

Your Open Question: Is it my fault for being too passive and not telling my family for a few weeks about abuse?

About a year ago I was texting my WAY older cousin Richard (he's 40ish) and he was being kinda creepy by calling me sexy and I introduced him to my friend Kendra via text before that btw. I thought it was weird but decided that it probably didn't mean much because my family has always been buggy and intimate. So he invited Kendra and I to see a movie but Kendra bailed at the last minute and I wanted to get to see a movie for free (he paid for the ticket and food) We got settled in our seats and he put his hand on my butt and I didn't know what to do so I (stupidly) hoped that if I ignore it than it's not happening -.- but he went farther with full on gripping my bum but his bare hand and that's when I moved his hand and he went back down anyways :( When he asked me about why I kept moving his hand, I said it's distracting me from the movie. It got worse from there because he ended up resting his head on mine, licked my face and nibbled on my ear >.< I eventually had to get up and hide in the washroom for a Long time and when I came back 30ish mins later, he forced his lips on mine and tried shoving his tongue in my mouth -.- I clamped my mouth shut to prevent it. We talked after the movie was done before my grandparent came to pick us up and agreed that "us" would NEVER work. I told Kendra what happened but I didnt want my family to know since I thought they'd blame me (which they did btw) I thought about telling the police and getting him punished or something but I can't bring myself to do it. My only plan is to avoid him as much as possible and my family that know have promised to not allow him to be alone with me. But I kinda wonder if my family is right and it was my fault for not leaving the second his hand touched my booty :/ >.<
PS I'm 19 now and I've gone through previous abuse which has made me freeze up easily.

Report as

This isn't your fault. Freezing happens with victims of prior abuse. You may want to talk with a therapist to work through your issues and prevent this from happening again.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

It is not your fault, period.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

not your fault...he is a sick man!!

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

take it you were 18 at the time? if so, you are considered as a adult. should of smacked the hell outta him and left.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

you should stab his eye out with a fork hahahahaha nah but that shold have never happened

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

No but Yes -- He needs the snot beaten out of him and You Should of Got Up - Hollered Real Loud and Left - You are 19 and Not 13 and Need to Act like it and need to Act Like a Proper Young Adult Lady

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Not your fault. Some cousin. Stay clear of him and lesson learned.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Do you have an answer?
Answer this question...
Did you mean?
Login or Join the Community to answer