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I left my things at my ex boyfriends apartment & he won't return them

My ex moved to another state, we reconciled & I brought many of my things to his apartment, planning to move there. I also purchased an I pad, coffee maker, clothes, food, thousands of $'s worth of stuff. I went back home & he suddenly told me to move on. He texted he didn't have my things, he was with someone new ( he's 35 & hes with a 21 year old single mom, who is now pregnant with his child). He texted also he mailed all my stuff to me, but he never did. When I started texting him I would file a police report, he went to the police & filed a complaint against me to stop contacting him. What do I do? He lives in Mc Candless county P.A. & works at a hospitol there. He also told me his new girlfriend made him throw out my things...please help me with this situation

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im so sorry this happened what a prick, but dont listen to the first guy dont dare go to his houde will cause so much problems thats for sure the best thing you can do is contact the police but i think they will ask you for proof of items missing at court but i dont know how your going to prove that even, for all its worth i would just suck it up look it as a lesson learned rather than go through all the stress and hassle with court and you will end up having to spend more money for a lawyer

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Thank you so much. I feel do bad about the situation. I don't understand how he could just get rid of my things
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Noo lol karma I wasnt telling her to go to the house. I giving her options and what could happen xd
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hmmmmmm........have to get on one of them court shows that is on the boob-tube.

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Lol...I know it sounds like a springer episode
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yepper, but they do have something like Judge Mathis. bout the only thing you can do. have to consult a lawyer.
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Maybe judge judy...eeewwwmathis
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Wow your in a pickle. Not just any pickle but kosher. You have 2 options. One do the crazy thing and drive to where he is. And demand he let you come in and get your stuff. If he hasnt already pawned or sold it. But most likely hes not gonna let you get it. And its gonna cause a big argument between the 2 of you. And what does argument leads to jail and a distubing the peace file on your record lol. Or two you could still file a report and just go to court. And if he sold or pawned anything you bought if you win the case. Hes gonna have to replace plus give extra money.

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My family tellsme to just let it go,buti don't want to. I feel like they, or he stole from me. He told me it was "our place" & my things were safe there. I trusted him & I feel very violated. Plus, while I was planning to come there, he was telling me how much he missed & loved me, he was with another woman. He suddenly turned very mean
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Welcome :)
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And yea thats not right at all. He played with your emotions. So you should defintly do something about. But the only thing I see that is civil enough is to take him to court. Or if you dnt wanna go threw the trouble of all this. Just do as your family says and forget about him. Even though its gonna be hard. But just think carefully before you make a decision.
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If you have all the receipts and have saved texts and emails, you might be able to get something back in small claims court. Do not go there. That would only mean some kind of trouble. Wish I could give you more help.

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I actually do have receipts for the I pad, clothes, everything I bought. He even lied about this girl, I was able to locate her on FB,she's not 27 like he told me, she's 21 with a five year old!. I have been so generous with him in the past, I really don't understand how he could lie to me to this extent,down to not returning my things & being with this coworker of his the entire time! It's a very difficult situation. I am not only hurt & devasted, but betrayed
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I know the feeling. Go to small claims court. Bring every receipt and email and text. You just might get something. Maybe just the satisfaction of making him look like a fool. Good luck
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If you have proof of what you bought ,small claims court. If not you paid for a valuable lesson.

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Try small claims but it might be easier to let it go and consider it a small price to get rid of a big jerk! Sorry!
( sounds like his new life is really fun!
; )

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Thanks for our answer. I still feel like I'm in shock, but I guess I have no other choice than to move on.
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Sorry D!
You have a sense of humor, you'll do fine!
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Thanks!
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Take him to court! If all else fails chunk it up as a lesson learned. Karma is gonna come back and bite him. Trust me he will get it back. You can't do wrong by someone and you not get it back. The bible says that there is a law of reaping and sewing. He is not worth the jail time.

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Thanks for answering!. I feel so bad about the situation. He lied to me about this girl & to add insult to injury, he kept all my things, after I made so many trips up to see him, which were hard enough!. He lives in McCandless county Pittsburgh P.A...I live near N.Y.C...in N.j., we used to live together here. He literally told me not to contact one day, so I did research (cyber stalking..lol) on FB & saw a pic of his new girlfriend, who is only 21, a single mom of a 5 year old& she opted pics of being really visibly pregnant. I still can't believe this has happened to me. I shared my life with this person, trusted him & only to find out all this? I didn't deserve to be lied to or treated this way. He's so cruel really. Idk, it's just still really painful for me, but thank u for your response
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I wish you good luck and happiness, it'll come. What a jerk! Wow!
Be glad you found out before you married him, had kids! You lucked out for an iPad!! : ))
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So true.. It is best to have found out how trifling and low down he really is now than to find out years later. I know it hurts. I had to find out 23 years and two children later. So count your blessings, because you sure have a lot of them. Things could be worst. Everything happens for a reason.
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