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Why do my parents not want me to date anyone of a different race?

They never do or say anything racist and they have friends that are a different race than them.

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I guess they don't wanna have the cutest grandbabies EVER! Show 'em this picture of mine! haha :-)

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hahaha
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true!!
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XD Lol, Tony!!
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Best response ever more fun than help buy Woot!
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Your kids are so cute!
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nice
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Beautiful children:)
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Thanks :-)
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It's really their opinion. If you want to have an interracial relationship with someone, go ahead. Just be prepared to see your disappointed parents.

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Like it or not, that makes them racist. Discriminating against someone based on their ethnicity or skin color is "racist."

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I believe it to be a form of racism, flat out. My parents are the same way. I hate it. When it comes down to it though, you need to date who YOU choose to date, regardless of what others think and believe. Follow your own heart, not someone else's.

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I suppose you can ask em' why

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You should always talk to them about it.

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It's probably to keep your heritage and culture mostly pure. I've found that some families don't like their cultures to mix with others, because they fear it may be lost in future generations.

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I think you really hit on it with that last sentence, Haund. I can't speak for this girl's parents', but that's really the crux of the issue for me.

What I want for my children more than anything is for them to find partners who will love and respect them and make them happy--regardless of those people's race, religion, or even gender.

But I'd still prefer if they married Jewish, in my heart of hearts, only because Jewishness is such a big part of my own sense of identity, and my grandparents, as holocaust survivors, suffered so deeply for the right to pass it on. If my children's choice to intermarry means that a hundred years from now, my great-great-great-great-great grandchildren won't identify themselves as Jewish, however wonderful they are as individuals, something precious and irreplaceable will have been lost.

I care about my children as individuals, above all else, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't also care about the legacy of my people. We've fought so hard for so long not to disappear.
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It is possibly because some different races include different religions in some cases.

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Ask them. It may be because they do not trust anyone not form their race. Or it could be a personal choice (you know...to keep the family lineage "pure"...)

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You SURE they're not racist?

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You should perminently dye yourself black and see how they like it.

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Japanese culture is deeply steeped in racism. If you are Japanese this is just how things have always been done sort of but many asain cultures are like this. Its not like western racism with the whole vocal opposition to the race, its more about preserving racial purity as politely as possible. None the less, it is racist.

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Thanks Jackie :j
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It may be they are traditional

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O.k. Here I am answering your highly sensitive Q. I don't want to say the wrong thing, this is such a touchy topic. I think your parents come from a different generation. They grew up in a world where you were judged harshly by your decision to date outside your race. They grow up in different environments, different beliefs & in life..you realize it's hard enough without complicating & making things more difficult for yourself. The younger generation is different, but people are like this all over the world. They don't want you to make bad choices, out of lust or ignorance...I say ignorance of what kind of world we really live in sometimes. Don't make your life more difficult

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ask questions
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Because they would prefer to stay close minded and somewhat ignorant ; '

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I was married outside of my race, divorced now for many years. Some couples can make the difference in their cultural backgrounds work within their relationship. I am so open minded & understanding of other cultures, I grew up involved in a wide variety of cultural differences with family friends. In fact I am proud of my understanding & involvement. I always thought, "If I am open minded, respectful towards others beliefs & cultures then they will see that & accept mine." This is not always the case. I was subjected to discrimination about my race in public often, which was the least of it & I was able to blow it off. What was toughest was my ex husband had many views that didn't protect me or our marriage. I only found these differences after we were married. He always took his race/cultural backgrounds side, his friends of same natures side & I always felt abandoned. When people would verbally & physically attack me for nothing more than my race (minding my own business) he never helped me, & it resulted in me feeling scared. Please take my advice & find out if your significant other is willing to protect & honor you, & if you are willing to do the same... love cannot conquer all. If you decide that your partner & yourself will always be there for one another through EVERYTHING, then your relationship can stand a chance. In my opinion, not one of us is purely one race... we tend to all have a mixture in our genetics, large or small. Best wishes.

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Chances are 1. They're not comfortable with a race they're not familiar with, except for what they heard or read. That's called stereotype. Therefore, it makes them uncomfortable around that person. It's not natural to just open up to what feels like a 'stranger in the house' to them. They need to have a blind conversation (by phone) with this person before they judge. Go slow.

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Because they are ignorant. It doesn't matter what race, color, or creed someone is, what matters is that they are a good person.

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Your parents feel that their heritage is an important part of their identity, and they want your children to feel that same connectedness. They don't hate other races or think yours is superior, but they are--and should be--proud of their heritage. They know that you can't control whom you fall in love with. But if you date someone of your own race, you're less likely to fall in love with someone who isn't.

Your parents will still love and accept you if you wind up in a mixed relationship, and your children can still grow up with that sense of heritage if it's important to you. But you'll have to consciously decide how (and whether) you want to give it to them, and your parents would be more comfortable if it were taken for granted.

Please know that this isn't about hate. It's about love--love for your family's history and identity, and love for you. They would be happier if your life were simple, and they want to protect you from having to make difficult decisions.

They can't protect you forever, and you can and should make your own choices. Just know, when you do, that this is where your parents are coming from.

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We cannot expect every person in the world to think and act like us. You can tell them what your views are and how they should respect it. If you want to date someone from a different race you should be free to do so provided the guy you are dating is a genuine and good person. But do remember that there might be a million different things in the way you both are brought up. So if you think you guys match then others shouldn't be having a problem about it.

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Maybe your parents are religious, ask them

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well it may be there belif not to date anyone from any other raice

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They want their grandchildren to be the same race. Also with another race, comes another culture that may not fit in with the way they do things at all, and you could fall in love with a person from another race as well as from the same.

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They were probably raised in a time where you couldn't date someone of a different race. Blacks could only date blacks & White could only date whites. I would sit down with your parents and explain how race doesn't matter, Personality is key! If you dated someone of the same race, there's a possibility he's a jerk. But if you dated someone because of their personality and heart it'd be different. Race is not important, Being treated wonderfully is. Plus it's your life, do what you please.

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i agree with you 100%.
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Tell them that God, our Creator, is not partial, so they shouldn't be either. (Acts 10:34)

Hope I helped!

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It may not be that they are racist - but they may have seen some of the many ugly challenges some interracial couples have to deal with in addition to just life normal ups and down.

People are cruel especially during these time - you would think that in 2013 that people would be more open to it - however, they are the same - they tolerate but hold the same resentment. Some honestly do not care who you are with and sometimes, it is not racism that makes some go crazy - but outright JEALOUSY!!! Which can be even worst.

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I think that that's stupid because if that person makes you happy then they should be happy too, i mean as long as their a good person then they should be ok with it.

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to keep their race potent i guess.

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