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My Bf just recently popped the question but im starting to have doubts all because of his one female friend.. I dont what to do? any advice?

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It is difficult to tell him who his friends are. Before you take the plunge be comfortable with 99% of everything.You are consideringalifetime commitment!

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What else can anyone tell you but to talk to him.

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I have talked to him and her, my problem with it is the lack of respect she has for me, she wanted him to have a "secret" friendship with her, that makes me even more unsettled.
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do you want to marry him?

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I do, I truly love him he's very supportive and hardworking and loves my children from my previous marriage, His "friend" is the only thing really causing me doubt
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then it seems you have a good relationship and this friend person is not important except that you should not make him give up his friends for you, also congratulations talk to your future husband about your doubts without raising your voice or accusing him or her of anything but tell him your emotions in clear and frank terms but start with i love you and never use the word "but" to address your doubts
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I'll try thanks for your input
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Don't think I'm stupid, but what question there's a lot of questions in a relationship that you could have doubts with.

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Lol no judgement no worry But he asked me to marry him
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Well how old are you?
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I'm 27 and i have been divorced to to my husband leaving me for his "friend" that introduced us, i feel like im in the same pattern i've been in before i fell for it once i don't want to again
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Well if you really love him and he really loves you, you shouldn't have doubts, go for it, say yes.
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If he is spending to much time with her I would tell him it is either her or me. If it is your friend tell her to get lost.

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he doesn't spend Physical time with shes just very clingy and blows his phone up
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All you say is he has a female friend. What about his and her behavior that makes you uncomfortable?

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Just the fact that he gets mad at me when we are out on a date and shes blowing up his phone, im the one in the wrong or when we argue about her he's always defensive over her and angry at me, and its alot of little things that i dont completely put on blast
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And with her behavior is she's very clingy and i personally texted her about it i was even nice ( i wanted to scream and cuss) and she comes back at me with disrespect and forwards him the message even tho i already told him, then he talked to her the next day and she wanted to have a secret friendship which to me is really shaddy. Im very open with him and since he's met this woman hes very closed off from me.
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Sounds troubling, I agree with you. Kind of like he is untrustworthy since she's come along and treating you differently than he did before. Also sounds like she's the type of girl that wouldn't think twice about stealing another girl's boyfriend. With all that said, what are you going to do?
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Honey, I have a couple of concerns with this guy: 1.) If he loves you like he needs to in order to make a marriage work--noone and nothing could give him doubts, and 2.) How weak does a guy have to be to let a friend influence his decision about whom to marry? I understand that you love him and he's a good guy, but really....?

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I think you're mixed up. She's having the doubts, not her boyfriend.
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I get that, but read her other comments, and you can infer that he's letting this other woman affect how he treats this lady.
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Talk to her, and ask what he's been doing with her lately, or just occupy him so he can't spend any time with her, just you

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If you're questioning it then it probably isn't meant to be

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Your comments to other answerers, send up red flags, in my opinion. He's putting his friend before you. There's no way that I'd put up with that. I'd move on, right now.

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