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How can I get my life back and family back?

My kids hate me my husband hates me I absolutely hate myself. my thoughts consume me I ruminate constantly I am not the same person I use to be. I fear the future which consumes my time I could be using now. I completely gave up in everything cleaning ect. I can't lice like this nomore my husband completely gave up on me we don't talk no more unless its me complaining my house is a mess in a mess it takes a lot of motivation for me to want to shower anymore. My kids don't talk nor play with me nomore they just want dad or to go to grandma's or watch TV. So I basically isolated myself and am on my phone constantly. my kids are ages 1 4 and 9. I love them to death but I feel like they hate me and I feel like u just want to pack up and go cause they my be better off without me. Same point I dint want to because I don't want then to go threw that. extremely lost on what to do counseling and meds work for some but not me I believe it makes it worse.

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These are obvious signs of depression, and therapy can help you understand why you are depressed, and if you're doing things that are causing you to be depressed like overmedicating or too much alcohol then you need to stop, if you always do what you always did you'll always get what you always got, therapy and meds will never work for you if you have convinced yourself that there's nothing that can be done for you, you need to open your mind to new possibilities, look around you, those kids and your husband, that is the reward that you get when you practice better mental health, you just have to decide if you're willing to do the hard work, you want to be a winner or do you want to be a loser, losers finish last, winners finish first, the choice is yours...

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Yes you're so right my sister went trough something similar.
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She needs support from her family and also see a doctor
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your extremely right buy somehow I don't feel like none of it works for me because I done tried numerous of meds and talk therapy also I have zero support from my family they claim they care but its obvious they don't and my husband completely gave up me due to my issues. I don't drink nor over medicate myself the worst I have done was got myself into this mess. I have an addiction to online which it sucks def not porn just Googling certain stuff ect and I believe that makes matters worse also logging in on my husbands fb just to read stuff to pass time not cause I'm shopping just because I'm so use to it and I feel like I'm doing everything wrong and I worry constantly and ruminate so I just wanna fond answers I suppose. also because I feel like no one wants me around anymore anyways.
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If what you have been doing in the past has not been working for you, maybe if you do the opposite the future will look much brighter, you can't change your yesterday's, but you can take back control over your tomorrow's, you obviously realize that you are bringing negative behavior into your relationships with your family, you need to change that starting now, you can't expect to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result, that is the definition of insanity...
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Nice answer!:)
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Thank you :)
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Thanks yes I definitely see that but now I see that my husband is worse then he use too he's on edge in seconds especially with the kids. I try to do different but we are never on the same page like we use to be its causing to much stress with everyone. we don't talk play nothing as a family anymore always fighting screaming ect.
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Well Barbie so how's that working out for you, this may be something that you may not be able to handle on your own, I would suggest getting into counseling, if your husband or you are working and he has a health care plan that will cover it, I can only attempt to give you direction, I can't fix the problem, but in order to fix the problem everybody has to be willing, if somebody's not on board the whole thing falls in like a house of cards...
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Thank you yeah it may do me some good I actually do go when I am able to and have a sitter. I don't work I'm a stay at home mom. I just wish we could be on the same page because when we were it definitely made things better and didn't feel like we were choosing sides. Or disagreeing on how we punish the children.
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I hope you find stability in your life...
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thank you I do also its a horrible feeling definitely thank you for the advice though I just keep telling myself I am still only 28 so I'm still pretty young and my kids are also I feel like I ruined them and feel guilty about a lot of things when it comes to them but then I the same point I know there is worse parents out there then me and some don't even care.
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This is serious. You need to do separate AND family

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You need to take a break and work on yourself before you can work on your family.

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Talk to some friends and a councillor, then ask your kids directly how they feel about you.

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first of all, find some counseling. get medicated for depression. that may change a lot right there.

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What you are describing sounds like clinical depression, an illness. You need to see a doctor that specializes in this disease, specifically a psychiatrist who has the ability to prescribe medications for your condition. If you have been on medication before and it did not help, you weren't taking the correct medication for your condition; sometimes it takes more than one attempt to treat the underlying condition.

Your family doesn't hate you, they are being overwhelmed by your illness. If you had cancer you would get treatment, if you had diabetes you would get treatment. Depression is just as much an illness as cancer or diabetes, please seek treatment. Good luck!

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You need help! You need to take control of your life don't worry about the future too much your kids and husband are first, start making plans for the weekends to go out with your family. talk to your mother and family about how you feel

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Thanks I definitely been trieing to get help just feel like nothings working and me and my family aren't close never really talk and when we do if I talk about my problems I feel like one they don't care or two only make it worse.
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how did your sister cope and what was going on with her cause I seen you mentioned that she went threw something familiar
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Get up, take a shower, start cleaning! Get moving! Everyday. Make yourself. Get back in the game honey and your life will come back to you!

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I am quite sure everyone doesn't hate you, maybe how you have become lately, but not you as a person. You need to just get up, start cleaning the house, shower, kinda just snap out of this dark place you have gotten into. No one wants to be around a downer right? If you keep thinking negatively and wallowing in these depressing thoughts, it just gets worse and worse. Start looking at the brighter side of things, start thinking positively, only YOU can change you. Feeling sorry for yourself won't get you anywhere, be proactive, going for even a 15 minute walk outside around the block helps. If you are really struggling, then you should go see your doctor. But you should try these things first.

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I agree I absolutely hate myself and the way I became as well I keep trying to change it but I always seem to fail because all the guilt I got built up and because all the stuff o feel like I done ruined.
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You have to overcome come that and move forward. Think about this... How short life is, if you keep burrowing yourself in these dark places, you really miss out on the good things, negative thoughts attract negative things. Whenever you start thinking negatively or doubtful just try to push those thoughts away, kinda like snap yourself outta that and think of something nice. You can control it, it is hard but doable. Seriously go for a walk, go town, do anything to get you outta that state of mind. When you are out, smile at people, be friendly, think of the people who are much less fortunate in life, help, volunteer, all these things will lift your mood :)
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You can't do this alone! The really good part is you aren't in denial. You need help, motivation, something to look forward to, someone to push you and tell you it's not so bad you can't turn it around. Don't quit!
Even if hubby isn't in your corner you have small children that need you.
The fact that you are posting this says a lot.
Confide, get help, you CAN do this!

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Hello Bubbles, it's me, J ;)
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Ok! Good!! ; )
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Where'd you... Go.. ?
The other you?
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My account got deleted, long story, but if I explain it it'll just get flagged and deleted again...(
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You need to stay out of ASK land trouble, come on now! ;)
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Ok, :)
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Ok : )
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Pills Won't help ---- Activities - Action - Productivity - Constructivism - Exercise - Fresh Air - as long as You Stew in Your Own juice and juices You will just get worse - Off and On --- Off Your Butt & On Your Feet and Get and Stay Busy - Constructive - Productive and Positive

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Call for a family counselor.

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