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How do I help a depressed friend?

I'm on the phone with him now. He's been depressed for over a year and I don't really know how to help him. He's opened up with me more than anyone else but I still feel as if he feels that he can't talk to me about some things. He's suicidal and cuts.

What should I talk to him about? This is urgent. What questions should I ask him? Should I talk about normal things or what??? I don't know what to do.

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If he's suicidal, you need to tell someone, he needs to get some help

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Well you are wrong, meow. Stfu.
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Let him pour his heart out to you and show him he can trust you. Always be there for him and talk to him with a positive attitude. Let him know he can always change his future and can make things better. Depression will always be there but for him to last this long shows that he's really strong and can fight any battle that comes his way. Show him how great he is and how sucky life would be without him.

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Tell him that you are there for him. Tell him if he wants to talk, you are there to listen.
Tell him that he needs to stop harming himself because it isn't helping anything, its just making a scar.
http://teenshealth.org/teen/your_mind/friends/talking_about_suicide.html#

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To him it helps coupe with the pain telling him what he knows is wrong will unstabilize him even more and he will believe that you are against him and taking away his " Morphine"
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First and foremost, you must make sure he trusts you. Ask him why he cuts, how often. When you ask why he cuts, it'll either be because of someone or thing, or (More likely) He'll say he doesn't know. If he says the latter, ask him if it helps him forget his mental pain, if it makes him feel better. If he knows you're truly there for him, he probably won't kill himself. One friend goes a long way. He'll keep cutting though, and that can be fatal. Tell him that he hurts the people that love him my hurting himself. He still won't stop though. Keep showing him that you'll always be there for him. He'll stop in time.

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You could tell someone, but he'll feel betrayed and that could be the straw that breaks the camel's back.
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that isnt always the case
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Also, if he clams up, DON'T PUSH! If you force him to answer, he'll isolate himself from you. And possible develop trust issues.
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if you ask the location of the cuts and the severity he will shy away from her mostlikely... i do agree that telling someone is a redflag but possibly convincing him to seek aide is the best route to go.
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I didn't tell her to ask where and how bad. I said why and how often.
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And it depends on the person. I have a friend that cuts her stomach and top of her wrist. But if I ask why, she gets really mad.
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I think there's two main parts to his depression: Self-esteem issues, and that he's lost faith in the world as a whole. He thinks nothing is or can be fun or fulfilling and I don't know how I can possibly change his mind, I mean I talk to him and we hang out and such but he still says that he never feels any joy or happiness.
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ive gone through it all... if youd like you can email me the things he is saying and i can immediatly respond advice

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