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How can I control my anger and become less emotional?

Whenever someone tells me to do something, I usually get angry very easily, and it's always my family members. For example, when he or she tells me to do this and that, I yell and say, "I know!" And I usually curse. I want to stop swearing and getting mad so easily. I want to be able to say "I know" or something in a calm and sweet voice, because I'm actually a very loving and nice person.

As for being emotional, whenever I get in trouble, I cry. Whenever I try to tell someone that this or that sad thing happened, I cry. I cry during sad movies.

It's all just a headache and I don't like those things about me at all.

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I have found out any problem I have, I take it to Jesus in Prayer, or I can find the answer in His Word, that's a promise you can take to the bank.

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Amen take it to our sweet Jesus
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I'm an Atheist.
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WELL, I'm an Bapticostal,JESUS still loves you and died on the cross for you, even if your an atheist.
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GO HILLOW (I'm also an atheist although I was raised in a Christian family.)
Jesus and god could or could not be real u can never prove something exists or doesn't exist!
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Whether you can prove yes or no to the existence of Jesus and God, I'll put my faith in the fact that Jesus and God most certainly exist. I'll pray toward this, and live my life with this trust in my heart. If I ever would doubt this to be true, all I would have to do is look around at nature's beauty. The skies in their vast array of beauty, mountains, deserts, forests, tropics, meadows, and oceans. I am in awe of these things along with we people of all cultures, and all creatures that inhabit our earth. I hope you will pray on resolving your emotional issues, and then God can intervene to guide you in knowing the help you will need. Also, take advice and guideance from a close family member who you know loves and cares about your well being. I hope that some of what I've written will help you.
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Way to go Katrinalee, Praise God!!!!!
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Nature is very beautiful like when the snakes in underbrush find an unsuspecting mouse and then rip it limb from limb or suffocate it to death, squeezing the life out of it, what about in Africa and those places where children are starving or in poverty, have unquenchable hunger, what about Mount Everest where they leave the bodies of people who died trying to climb up there, basically a giant tomb made of unidentified bodies, what about famines, hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes? Hunger+hurricanes+tornadoes+earthquakes=16,064,906 deaths a year, if your "creator" does this I don't want to meet him! U give god credit for all the good stuff what about the bad? And ur going to trust the bible when some loon could of made it some random psycho?
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I meant to put average deaths.sorry. :P
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You have every right not to believe in the Bible, also not to believe in God. It rains down on the just and the unjust, but one thing for sure, you will meet God as your Lord and King or as your eternal Judge. The Bible and God are very real, they are Alive and doing very well. Also as for as hunger,bad weather, and earthquakes,we not seen anything as terrible as we're going to see before end of time here on earth. The only hope is in Jesus, he's the only way.
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Look up Edward current you'll love him. If "god" created the earth then why is he making us suffer, making the entire world suffer? Why are u basically bowing to him if he is so cruel?
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Thank you nightbuzzer for your comments. I know that God doesn't cause any evil happenings in our world, but I believe that his rival does. Also, he gave man free will to make choices based on believing in him or not, as well as free will to choose how to conduct their lives. As for nature, I'm an animal lover and will protect animals whenever I can. I also understand that animals in the wild need to survive, and thus exists a food chain. Humans relied solely on hunting animals as well before grocery markets. As for world climate, though I believe God created the world, I believe that climatic shifts and pressures, and continental shifts, etc., cause the forces such as earthquakes, hurricanes, tornados, volcanos, and the like. I don't know the answers to the scientific reasons for these forces, but that's what I believe. I don't view these as "Acts of God", though that's how they are referred to through insurance companies, etc. I will praise God, I will believe in him, because though our world is not perfect, God is.
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hi new at this convo.
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020627 are u atheist or Christian ?
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I'm a Christian,and very thankful to be one.
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I wasn't asking YOU nightbuzzer. I wanted to know 020627 opinion. Obviously us atheists aren't going to change and nether are u mind less robot people called "Christians".
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Sorry about that Spur430972, mind less robot, now that wasn't very nice. I pray for your sake you get to know my Savior Jesus Christ, before you go out into eternity-Jesus gave his life for you, and He Loves you, even when your talking mean to Christians that you haven't even met or talked with before, I'm just a old country boy that's in Love with Jesus. If your an atheist, that's your choice, but I'm still not going to call You a name, you have every right to be what you want to be, my choice is JESUS.
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I am in love with my brothers and sisters on this thread!
Wow, you guys are loving, kind, and truthfully blunt.
Your facts are Biblically sound and wonderful to see.
It makes me wish I had written what you said!
Have a wonderful Christmas!
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May God Bless you and keep you, and a Big MerryChristmas to you my friend ,also a Blessed New Year!!!
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I know you probably don't want to hear this but talk to your doctor, there are medications available to help balance emotional swings, they work really well for this, otherwise, try taking a step back from whatever situation, and taking some deep breaths before you speak

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Thank you so much :) Oh, and do you know if I will have to take those medications for my entire life?
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Not necessarily, sometimes people have more issues with this during the winter, and take medication during this time! Hope this helped!
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You helped me a lot. Thank you :)
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You are very welcome my friend! :)
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that really helps : ) i agree with u
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how old are you?

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You want me to put down my age, so that you can judge me? Hmm?
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different ages indicate different ways to deal with te problem at hand for example if you're below 14 then it's just that age and must be learned by control but if you're over 23 then maybe you could be bi polar or just have drastic mood swings which can be monitored by certain medications
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My apology to you aurora... I'm 20 years old.... I do think I do have some kind of a bipolar disorder. Like one day I can be all happy, then I get angry easily; like I said, after that day, my mood can sometime switch to depressed.
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bipolar is one of the most misdiagnosed disorders, my uncle is a psychiatrist and that sounds nothing like bipolar, I have seen it first hand because I lived with him for 2 years. I have ADHD and that sounds exactly like me when I do not take my medication. ADHD is a lot more then just being hyper and not being able to concentrate. Just talk to your dr. and get tested for it, it will not hurt but if you do have ADD or ADHD and you get on medication for it, it makes the world of difference. Good luck.
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well i have the same problem(over emotional female) and you can get over it by taking a few calm breaths before answering keeping negative thoughts outta your mind and about being depressed and crying whenever in trouble just have faith you can pull through it have faith in God face your problem head on and about mood swings? got nothing on that dude i seeking for help on that one as well -_-( my mood swings are really weird)anyway hope i helped you somehow

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You helped me a lot. Thank you :)
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dont mention it :)
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Read books more

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You are not satisfied with yourself, that is why you are emotional in general. You must be also an introvert, that is why you don't like your family since you have to be with them too much, and that bother you. It is a good thing that you can recognize your weaknesses and yearning to change. Self-educated from books and others and self-discipline (remind yourself to decrease anger) are necessary to help you change. I have read many religious teachings, I have found Buddhism tend to have heavier philosophies toward controlling one's behaviors, and they are easier to understand since they are more related to real life. Find something to do that can help elevate your confidence such as volunteer works. If you are healthy physically and emotionally, you will stop being angry.

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Where is the evidence in his post the he's an introvert?
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marksThunder, please read my sentence completely (he does not like his family member, especially).If you are looking for an absolute or perfection in life, I have nothing to say. My posts are usually tend to predict. "Must be" vs. " are". After all, I like you bc I like challenging.
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like try too smile it off

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like look in the mirror smile at self and say have a nice day keep smiling at urself till the giggles kick in
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I don't want to answer every solution or every little things with drugs or proscriptions, you should do it clean. get a stress ball and squeeze it while you focus on your breathing. this will help a lot and help you control your emotions to stay calm. this is only a suggestion that's you can do. i'm not trying to force you to do what you don't want, but i believe that this is the best solution to your mood swings. if you meditate about 5;10 min. a day you will know how to control your breathing, and when you are meditating you will only focus on your breathing. I HOPE THIS WOULD BE SOMETHING YOU TRY SOMETIMES!!!!! :)

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You state neither your age nor your gender. And because we are biologically-based creatures and simian to boot, we are susceptible to evolution-inherited brain chemistry. To top it off, your diet and assorted environmental stresses could be impacting on your brain chemistry. If you have suffered early-childhood head trauma or any kind of head trauma you could be easily susceptible to uncontrollable anger fits and rage. Also, diabetes could be impacting on your moods.
Contact your physician and consult your family history. Some folks don't remember as 2 to 4 year olds landing on their heads and passing out, but sibs and parents do. That could be the source of your present rages.
Get a medical opinion from specialists.

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guess ur user name speaks for itself? hmmmm
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:).... Interesting answer! I would avoid MD or psychiatrists though bc they tend to give out psychotic drugs too easily, and it has side effects.
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a strong man is he who can control himself .

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You Can controll Yourself By Seeing Sombody And Having To Talk To Them You Must Tell Sombody What Your Problem Is Or You Will Explode.

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relax, sleep, rest get a massage just get some time alone

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i punch a pillow

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use a therapy ball,paint,yoga or,listen 2 some rock music 2 let out ur anger

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A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1).

Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm (Psalms 37:8).

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city (Proverbs 16:32).

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9).

But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth (Colossians 3:8).

.A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, and a man of wicked intentions is hated (Proverbs 14:17).

.He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly (Proverbs 14:29).

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Figure out what makes you angry and then avoid it like the plague. One thing that angers me is when the people who tell you to cheer up are the ones who made you lose it in the first place! Find the humor in life and learn to laugh more.

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yup for sure you are right about that one all the way round gee do we know that same someone???? lol
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I think it's possible we do :)
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Don't think about it

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Controlling your anger and your emotions comes with time and maturity. You will figure out what works for you when it really matters and you can use that for all your future conflicts

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You are always in control of yourself pretty much all of the time. If you want to feel happy, tell yourself that you want to be happy, and act happy or do something that you enjoy and relax. If you want to be angry than you tell yourself that you want to be angry. Same thing can apply to almost all emotions.

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get a divorce
find someone who wants more for you than you want for you.... better yet feel your emotion and scream when necessary but in private, then do a daily inventory you will find you may have been angry over something that happened a week ago which has trickled down to this present day anger action of yours. if you deal with your emotion right then and there you may find the emotion or episode there of will lesson as you get in touch with your anger and resolve to yourself what triggered it then let it go... Inventory ask self what/how am I feeling then once identified ask where it originated from then resolve it to yourself n chuck it! more you do this the less anger "outbursts" you will have cuz ur dealing with stuff head on.. eventually anger becomes more like just having a an inconvenience your willing to handle calmly....

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A divorce? where in his post does he say he's married and that's an issue?Well wise,Socrates has his FACTS right. Too many head injuries can cause this condition. I don't see you giving and any helpful answers. you obviously don't know anyone who has a condition like this, its called Bi-polar
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ignore people who irritates you think of people who make you happy

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idk what to tell u besides ask yourself is it worth it
just do be organized and prepared u will feel better
and also u dont have to worry about being reminded.

control your anger. think before u speak

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I had the exact two problems, anger & overemotionalism. For anger: pray to God for the grace of Holy Meekness. Meekness doesn't mean weakness, it means being gentle, kind and loving. I read about this grace and it has helped me a major amount. Occasionally, you will still mess up, but the instances will get fewer and fewer. Ask God for forgiveness when you do. I also asked God to bless my smile, so people would see Him in it and they would be made to feel welcome and loved in my presence. It's helped stop fights. You will find it feels really good not to lose your temper, esp the first time you meet with success. Keep on - it will soon become habit, a good one. Since I received these graces, I find I am way more patient with people, too. For your overemotionalism: I know how aggravating this can be; I have it too. Just be more cognizant of the situations you'll be in that might trigger it. Don't try to kill your emotionalism altogether, though. Understand your feelings run deep. That's a gift, underneath it all. Be glad you're not a cold person.

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That sounds like me. I have Oppisitional defiance disorder, disruptive behavior disorder, and major depressive disorder so maybe you have them too?

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I have bi-polar and his comments kind of remind me of me!
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Anti-Periodical Pills :D

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stupid!!!
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well,try breathing in and out to keep you calm and try to do things more patiently, and remember ALWAYS KEEP CALM!!!

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Nice i LOVE it :)
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meditation helps for self control

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You might be Bi-polar, please get professional examination.

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go to the doctor and see what it is

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well count to ten and see will it work
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come down and think of a happy place

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It is possible that your moods may come from an underlying physiological cause. For example I have some similar issues among other things because I have Asperger's and PDD-NOS, two of 5 categories for autism. But I was not diagnosed until after I had developed new issues and old sound sensitivities had become severely problematic instead of minor issues, at the age of 36. If I had known about the causes I may have been able to prevent a lot of things from becoming so bad.

There are many things that can cause short temper both physical and physiological. It is important that you talk to both your doctor, and a team with both a psychologist and a psychiatrist. Psychologists help to determine possible causes; they are very helpful to a psychiatrist when determining whether you should be on any medications and what options might be good choices. That is why it is important to see both.

If you delay and the issue is indeed either physical and/or physiological and your emotional issues are a symptom instead of the cause you risk the problematic issues gradually getting worse until they become so problematic as to have a seriously negative impact on your relationships.

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Use a stress ball that's what I yse

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Put reason to it. You should ask yourself why and is it necessary for all that to happen.

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Music should help. :)
Relax, spend some time alone.

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breath, take time for yourself and search yourself see what is making you grumpy

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fun

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which type of fun if i may ask?cos some may hurt u the more don"t u think so
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Well,friend, first of all you should know that no two persons on this planet are the same and so it applies that what might work for me might not work for somebody else but you see, God in his wisdom made us in such a way that whatever you believe in your heart can work for you. I have this problem too but never realize it but on my part, I don't yell but it automatically shows on my face and people do tell me my mood has changed and I tell them I'm fine. Dear, whenever someone does a thing to annoy you, just pretend you didn't hear or notice it and cast your mind on the love of God and then take a deep breath then release and trust me you'll be fine. About yelling , when anything happens, just imagine you're being tested and your angel is right there monitoring you and you need the pass to attain a reward. It's my prayer that God gives you insight of his love so you can express it towards others.

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write about your feelings that helped me

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Tell yourself not to rage whenever you die in that call of duty game!

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just chill and have a glass of cold water and take deep breath and listen to your favorite music

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Anger is the most dangerous weapon of human being, generally we used it in most of the occasions; but still not have a full control over it. So it is quite better to put a control over your anger or don't get emotional in small things. There is no specified solution to put control on anger, it is completely depends upon you to how to control your anger.

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you are a sensitive person ,that is all , all what you need to be sure from what you are doing , and at that time ,you will never ever be in need to get any order or any guiding from any one ! so by the time when those around you will feel that your are a successful independent person they will never interfere in your own business , so gradually you will feel yourself more able , more confident , and gradually you will be more quite , that is all what you need ,you have to trust yourself that is all and don't feel affected too much by what is the others saying , be sure that you are good person ,sensitive people are brilliant people ,so don't worry !

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I have a clear dosage. It's simple: you are just a disobedient person who's a big typical cynic who wishes for how things used to be. I too was this way, until I learned it's better to accept new change rather than wish for how things used to be, and all this from a South Park episode! Enjoy your new life of optimism ;)

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Know that it's very brave of you to share. Also, it is very commendable that you recognize that you have a problem and want to correct it. There are actually some scriptures in God's word the Bible that has helped and is helping me now to continue making the needed changes in my life. I'm sure they will help you as well.

Colossians 3:8 states, "But now you must put them all away from you: wrath, anger, badness, abusive speech, and obscene talk out of your mouth." This scripture has helped me to stop yelling and screaming so much because its hurtful to to person I'm screaming at and it is displeasing to Jehovah God.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 states, "Do not be quick to take offence, for the taking of offense lodges in the bosom of fools." Many times we have to just over look the flaws of others, just as we would want them to do for us. Remember the golden rule found at Matt. 7:12.

I learned that I must consult "the hearer of prayer", Jehovah God when I am provoked. He invites us to come to him so that he can help us.-- Prov.15:29; Ps. 55:22
(Scriptures were taken from the New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures)


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before I start let me just say I am a male..

now your problem is that you are not acting mean enough.. see nice people like you and me werent meant to be nice.. and when people get under our skin easily its the universes way of telling us we are not suppose to act nice..

you see all those people in rl that act mean and get their way all the time? they used to be really nice like you and me.. but they wised up and so should you..

bye now

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The idea of controlling your anger is beautifully expressed by the Bible psalmist David. He said: “Let anger alone and leave rage; do not show yourself heated up only to do evil.” (Psalm 37:8) The way to avoid saying or doing something that you may later regret is to keep from getting “heated up” in the first place. Of course, that is much easier said than done. But it can be done! Let’s consider three ways that you can get your anger under control.

To reduce anger, slow down and relax. Try to avoid saying the first thing that comes to mind. If you feel yourself getting overly excited and feel you are in danger of losing control of your emotions, apply the Bible’s counsel: “The beginning of contention is as one letting out waters; so before the quarrel has burst forth, take your leave.”—Proverbs 17:14.

Learn to Relax
A calm heart is the life of the fleshly organism.” (Proverbs 14:30) Applying this basic Bible truth can improve one’s emotional, physical, and spiritual health.

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I know how you feel. I do the exact same thing you do. What I do is I just think of the happiest day of my life, listen to some music, or just go into my own world. That relaxes me and it takes most of the stress away and that usually makes me more happy and not cranky. I hope my answer helped. ;)

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Well, you must a be a very sensitive person if you cry a lot. That's okay. It's a part of your uniqueness. But if you get angry a lot, try something that relaxes you. And realized that sometimes your family members are just trying to help.

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Just try doing it.

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Just do it

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well you could get a punching bag!:D

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I have several kids that were super emotional at one time or another. Probably just surging hormones. I found a great help to this is an all natural supplement called "PassionFlower" sounds funny because it doesn't make you more passionate, it makes you more mellow. Not like drugged out but just feeling on a totally even keel. You can see the brand I use here: http://amzn.to/1gFJk8p
Hope that helps! Sandy

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be quiet and ignore

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play online games or find more friends.

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Honestly, reading the bible helps keep all my emotions under control, especially the books from the new testament version such as the book of galatians, ephesians and James. They show you the right way to live. I hope that this helps as I had the same problems as well. Many blessings to you.

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when you become angry-
1. sit down if standing.
2. lay down if sitting.
3. wash your face and hand, leg

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It's up to you, that you control your emotions and also you can try more video games and etc things to control your anger.

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Attend 10 day's vipassana meditation course at igatpuri center.

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You can try writing down you feelings or counting, When I get like that, I have to tell one of my friends whats bothering me, or curse that person out.Your choice.

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im always asking the same question but thats why i got me a counselor and tried to control my feelings and anger

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Try to remember that you create your own calm. Other people don't make you angry or anxious, you do that to yourself.

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Yes. Take it to God. He loves you. Whenever your about to get upset just think about how blessed you are. We love you, too. So just pray a couple times a day. And give thanks in all your prayer. Try reading the Bible either before you go to bed, or before you get your day started. It will bring you peace in your heart and mind. I'd be happy to pray for you, dear.

God,
Bring this wonderful friend peace. Peace in her heart, soul, and mind.
We love her Lord and we know You love her, too.
Thank you Jesus.

I'll pray for you every night. I have faith in you. Also try going outside on a good feeling day. Try closing your eyes and taking in deep breathes of God's amazing creation. Then read from the Bible for about 10 minutes. And then just hang out outside and know that we all love you.

God bless all you angles on earth!

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well you should count to ten and if you start getting emotional just breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.

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Whenever you are angry, just sleep. :)

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i don"t think so i have once proposed to a friend but it never worked out
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breathe in and swallow if u get emotional



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have a bath and listen to relaxing music at least once a week. while bathing imagine all of the anger leaving ur body

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uhh what.
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no its a great way 2 releave anger and stress ;)
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Aaaaaaalrighty then.
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k whatever think what u want
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Don't worry, I will.
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k then. just cuz u have a different opinion
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get down and drink cold water :)

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i do the exact same thing so i dont really know

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i have a lot of ways to help so please be patient. what i do when i get mad is, take in deep breaths and think about what they are asking you to do, imagine yourself doing it without getting ticked and do it. if that doesn't help think about who is asking you and if you ever hurt them this could be a way to silently apologize.think about what they have been through and "help them out", to avoid getting mad just, imagine how they feel to know asking you something and you are getting mad over it. and pretend your favorite person is there with you and how you would respond if they were there, or pray about it and work on patience.

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Punch a hole in the wall.

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Just watch passion of Christ and see how LOVING Jesus was even when he was being Beaten and Betrayed. Those things are actually worse than being sent. They send you because they trust you can do the job perfectly well. Think of what Jesus would have done.

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relax and breath in and out.

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Get the hammer and hit something .

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Nothing beats detachment (caring less).

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i find listening to a heavy rock band or good fast rap does the trick

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Anger is often a result of fear. Your fear might be that you don't want people to know you're not perfect (let it go--if you're human everyone already knows you're not perfect!)
Also, your expectations can set you up to fail. When you enter a situation and things turn out differently, the feeling of having things be out of control might trigger the anger. I would tell my Jr. High students to stop when they feel a sudden wave of anger and think about what they fear is being threatened: freedom? acceptance? a dream, goal, or agenda?
If you don't want to talk to anyone about it, then journal about it--just have a conversation like you're writing a letter to a friend about how mad you are and then start to write about what you think is behind your anger. If you believe in God--pray, or journal (write a letter to God). Exercise, walking away prior to revealing you are angry so you get a a moment to think through and respond to the situation, not react.

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say all the things u like,u hate and ur probs . have "take it easy" policy..do not keep anything that you donot like to keep in mind.if someone say u to do something just thing that it is for your goodness.if you donot like sharing everything with someone,start writing diary just write whatever you think,think it as your friend.good luck.....

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Anger and emotional persons are very week to face the emotional situations for this cause they are emotionally week. I think this person should face the emotional situation more and more.

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I grew up as a girl with anger issues. I got mad when my family told me what to do to. My dad was bi-polar so it wasn't a very good combination. You could try going to your parents and asking if you could take medicine to help control your anger. A natural way to try to control your anger is before you get angry, think about how you're going to answer your peers. Calm down and count to 10 or get a stress ball and grit your teeth before getting angry. I cry over sad movies too. There's really nothing you can do about being emotional. I cry about getting into trouble too. It's something natural for everyone weather they show it or not.

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Just remember nobody really cares but you. Anger is really expressed for show and to get a response from others. So if you think about it and you don't need to put on a show you can control your anger because nobody cares and nobody will gives you a responds.

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This is mostly a repeat of what others have said. We get angry because we have expectations that were not met. Think about several scenarios in advance and think of yourself responding accordingly. Also, get involved in doing something you like, for yourself. For instance, maybe you always wanted to try clay sculpting or hula dancing. Do it! When you are happy it is easier to not let little things get to you. And of course, if you are religious,meditate on God's word.

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You mentioned family usually stems your anger. This probably bothers you enough to be angry elsewhere in the world. I would move out as soon as you are financially able and live your own life.

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Take a lot of good beatings...without fighting back.

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you what if he really do that
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I had the exact same problem. Someone told me to get a book about DBT..."Don't let your emotions run your life" I read it and it change the way I look at things...Honestly.. I caught myself right before I got mad and change the way I behaved.. It took some time, but it was worth it. It has these small test for you to take. Try it out, couldn't hurt.....And NEVER be afraid to cry!!! You have a big and sensitive heart....it will make you shine as you get older.

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go to counseling

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Try talking to you doctor but when I get frustrated or angry, what helps me the most is taking a deep breath through my nose slowly, hold it for a second then breathe out through my mouth slowly. It really helps in calming yourself down.

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just take a yoga and believe to our god itself

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It seems you are too emotional after you shout at anyone just take glass of cold water and take a few hour nap, wake up and think of being sorry to the person you yelled at.Don't watch too much movies that makes you emotional you can use your will power to conquer your emotions

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This is every common problem we live with our family but ignore them because of external world n relations.
usually we don't get angry with friends even we hooted some time because we love them n want to be with them.
only family is first supporter for mostly things in life so we should realize this difference.
secondly sit for 10 -15 minutes alone silently taking slow n deep breath in n out by looking only at breath n inner self.
it may take 4-5 days to concentrate but gradually success will come n miraculous.
You may follow meditation Masters also.

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just control your temper =D

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Drink water when you are angry. This works and this is a saying of holly prophet of Islam. It worked for me dramatically.

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Realize that he who angers you, controls you. Also, arguing with an idiot only proves that there are 2. Also, if someone makes a hateful or challenging statement towards you, you can say, "Is there a question?" IF he asks a question you do not wish to answer then say "No comment". If he continues to insult you, call someone in authority and tell them that the person was being "Combative" towards you. I went to the hospital one time with a panic attack and needed medication IMMEDIATELY. A nurse told Security that I was being "Combative", (Which I wasn't) and they put me into shackles.....

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IF YOU might be open to Biblical assistance , please note what kind of qualities that God's Holy Spirit(" power, "active force, "dynamic energy") produces:

Note the qualities we all need:

(Galatians 5:22, 23) 22?On the other hand, the fruitage of the spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, 23?mildness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.?.?.

Note the diabolical qualities that are a challenge:

(Galatians 5:19-21) 19?Now the works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct, 20?idolatry, practice of spiritism, enmities, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, contentions, divisions, sects, 21?envies, drunken bouts, revelries, and things like these.?.?.. As to these things I am forewarning YOU, the same way as I did forewarn YOU, that those who practice such things will not inherit God’s kingdom.


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Note please the need for earnest effort & prayer that Christ highly recommended:

(Luke 11:9-13) 9?Accordingly I say to YOU, Keep on asking, and it will be given YOU; keep on seeking, and YOU will find; keep on knocking, and it will be opened to YOU. 10?For everyone asking receives, and everyone seeking finds, and to everyone knocking it will be opened. 11?Indeed, which father is there among YOU who, if his son asks for a fish, will perhaps hand him a serpent instead of a fish? 12?Or if he also asks for an egg, will hand him a scorpion? 13?Therefore, if YOU, although being wicked, know how to give good gifts to YOUR children, how much more so will the Father in heaven give holy spirit to those asking him.?.?.
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Just take a walk out side and breath the fresh air out side and talk to a buddy about your problems it works.Trust me.

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You need help please talk to your parents about this so they can help you

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to control your anger every time your angery take a deep breath and try to ignor walk away.

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when you become angry go to another room and calm yourself

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if you wanna keep your self from crying look up with only ur eyes without moving your head. it really works!

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Eat more , it reduces the anger.

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hmm I hve the same prob but I just try to control myself think bout how u would feel if someone did same to you I try tht and then I try to calm down a bit then take bout 3-10 deep breathes and try to ignore it soz if this isn't helpful

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think of something completely different then you don't stay anger as long

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