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I don't believe in corporal punishment (spanking) how do tell my potential husband?

I am a Christian and I would rather have my eyes forked out of my head than to spank or allow a person to spank a child. The issue is a lot of Christians spank children. I am not willing to consider a non Christian. I don't expect that he stop believing in it. I just want him to agree to a timeout plan instead. How should I tell him and when should I tell him in the dating relationship?

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I have four kids. What I've learned is each kid is different. Done with love, not anger can make a difference. For my oldest, 17 I spanked maybe 6 times her whole life. All by hand, all on butt. My middle required a little more. My youngest would rather have a spanking then time out. So, obviously I give her time out. Spanking a child is not corporal punishment. The first time I spanked my daughter is when she ran into the street. Warning, there may not be a second time. If it could give them serious injury, or possibly k-ll them...I don't warn, I just do. Too young to understand, I wanted to make sure they knew it was unacceptable. I can tell you by being consistent, firm, I can't even tell you the last time I've had to punish my kids at all. Compromise, if it could seriously injure, or k-ll, allow him to be a father, a dad. Unacceptable to be angry, use objects, etc. Lay ground rules. My kids are well behaved, well mannered, and not abused. Never left a mark. I think never spanking is too much, but always spanking isn't good. There is a medium...like I said, each kid is different.

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If he leaves you for THAT, you don't need him. It's not like it's a huge thing. You act like you're telling him you use to be a man or something. Just say you don't wanna spank the kids. No biggie.

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Regardless of how you discipline your child, it should always be unpleasant. If the punishment is not unpleasant than it's not punishment. And every child needs to be punished differently because every child is different. You can bring it up early on. I know it would make me reconsider my potential spouse...

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lol, wouldn't allow my comment. goofy site. time out is a bunch of bull, best to take a unruly child out behind the woodshed and bust that ass. they would think twice about being unruly again. what my parents did.
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Just ask him his thoughts on corporal punishment and go from there. Though personally, I am thankful my parents set me straight when I started to get off track, though it is your child.

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tell him after the first date it might be too much info at first. don't keep something like this away too long because feelings start coming up. You wanna make sure he's even worth anther date too. so if he can't respect what you dislike tell him to kick rocks :)

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Tell him either whenever it comes up naturally, or just whenever you start discussing children. There's no point telling him on the first date if you're not planning on having children until at least a year later.

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Just tell him. You'll discuss far more challenging things with partners than that.

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I'm Am also against "spanking" depending on how hard. I would get sore and cry and back up into corners as a little girl because I would be hurt so bad. Tell him your reasoning if why it isn't okay and tell him your not comfortable with it

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