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my girlfriend is 15 and we know we messed up big time here, and we know we're gonna hear that a lot,so we don't want to he's It here please, it happened and we just want tips on how to tell our parents (mostly hers, cuz her dad is in an out of jail) and any tips you have, all welcome. She is about 2 weeks along now.

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I was talking to my mom about this question if you guys go to any sort of church or know any sort of youth group top to a minister look right now you are going to get a whole lot of ugly from a never ending breed of stupidity but don't listen to them right now your priority is your baby and your girlfriend you need to take good care of yourselves first and foremost. do not I repeat do not quit school get on the internet and find out if they're crisis pregnancy center in your area and have your girlfriend get on Medicaid right away! Christian crisis pregnancy center can help you with things you need for the baby and parenting classes just remember that you are not alone we will be praying for you and thank you for not killing your baby

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Thank you so much, and i know, I could never do that to MY future kid. And what kind if support would a church have to offer? Someone said that they would take care of it, but I would like to do that with my girlfriend.
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They offer spiritual counseling & parenting classes and can also provide you guys with things like diapers,clothes,maternity clothes and sometimes even free ultrasounds there are a lot of programs out there that can help you guys that is why God gave parents 9 months to prepare for the birth of their bundle of joy take one day at a time and make each moment count
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Thank you so much, you have no idea how much you've helped.
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this is how you start it off.. "(insert name) we got a little freaky messed around and (Insert name) got pregnant i hope you understand"

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omg umm be calm be professional tell them that it was an accident src

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Just support her the whole way thro. It'll be ok. :) People do things and sometimes it can be known as the best thing in your life. /).( Just tell them.

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I planned on it, thanks tho! She was scared to tell me when se missed her period, cause she thought I'd do the typical guy thing and leave, but that ain't me.. And we aren't the party every weekend type, and don't do any drugs or drink, so were good on all that, we just messed up once, and know we're gonna be judged forever on it...
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The best thing to do is tell you're parents they're going to find out anything it's just going to get worss every day you don't tel them

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If she's only 2 weeks along I don't see how you could even possibly know that for sure... I'd wait another 2 weeks to a month and then take another pregnancy test. It usually takes at least a month for anything to show on a pregnancy test

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She missed her period, and feels sim when she eats
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*feels sick web she eats and is having stomach cramps/pains, and signs of early pregnancy.
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JustJason: You are wrong. It doesn't usually take a month. I know. I'm a mother and a medical lab tech. It takes around 7-14 days for most women (average 10) after ovulation, if she knows when she ovulated. (Women with long cycles may have to wait 21 days after ovulation, but that isn't typical). Otherwise roughly a couple days (maybe 3) after the missed period.
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labtechgirl ; do the symptoms I described above seem accurate for if she is pregnant?
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actually it is possible to tell it just depends on the woman I just had my third baby and I tested positive for pregnancy after only 7 days
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Zaxhzaxh: Yes, the symptoms seem accurate. However, other conditions can also cause those symptoms so it isn't a guarantee. Missing her period can also be caused by stress and illness, both which can also cause stomach cramps/pain.
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That's what I'm saying... Just because she shows similar symptoms doesn't mean she is pregnant, especially if no test has been taken. And even if only a single test has been taken there are rate instances of false positives. My ex had the same thing happen, no need to jump down my throat.
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If you are talking to me JustJason, I wasn't trying to jump down your throat.
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If you haven't, you need to see a doctor to make sure she is pregnant first. Two weeks along is awful early to be determining if she is pregnant, without a doctor confirming it. If it is then determined that she is indeed pregnant the best thing is the simplest. Just sit down with your parents and tell them the truth. Honestly, telling them will be hard, but it will be a breeze compared to actually having a baby.

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About telling the parents, there is no way around. There is going to be some blowout at first. The reaction can be harsh but don't try to act like you know what you're doing, admit that you made a mistake; admit that you can't take the responsibility and stuff like that.
If you are considering having the baby; after the initial blowout you just need to stick up with each other. Show that you can be responsible and etc. Eventually everything will get on track.
But you have your whole life to make as many babies as you like, so don't go through with that at this age. Get an abortion. In some states you don't even have to tell your parents to get an abortion.

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I know that seems like the smart thing to do, and I have thought about it, but that's my kid, my future kid. He/she came sooner than expected, but Im sure I still want him/her. And I know we messed up, but abortion is not really in the question tho.
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It's okay. Either way when you break the news to parents, expect bad reactions. And in your case it is better just to take the s**t. In conversation, don't try to prove yourself, don't try to justify yourself because you are in a position of disadvantage. Since she is a minor your legal rights are limited about the guardianship of the baby maybe even none in practice; so you need to be able to work it out with your parents.
It can be difficult but that's life; you do things and face the consequences. I just hope they will react more positively.
Good luck.
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I really don't think that there is an easy way to tell her parents or yours what happened, especially depending on their moral standing. Just be as mature as you can about it; don't try to beat around the bush or avoid it until they can see the bulge. As someone else mentioned, they will be very upset at first. But please, whatever they tell you, please don't abort the baby. I know that you guys may not think that you're ready for him or her, and you probably aren't. But it's not fair to that baby if you are irresponsible enough to create her and then destroy her just because you don't think this is the right time. Worst case scenario, put the baby up for adoption or ask someone from a local church to take care of the child. Whether you are religious or not, know that they will do their best to take care of him or her. I'm truly sorry for your situation, friend.

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Thank you, and i know were young, but were not aborting it, not at all, and we want to avoid adoption.. It will be born in the summer which will help a little.. But honestly it'll be hard, but I think we're gonna keep it and raise it.
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I can't tell you how proud I am of you guys. Not for having the child in the first place, but taking the responsibility for your actions and being so mature about the situation. I wish that there were more people like you. Good luck with the child!
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Good for you!
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Thank you so much, and i know, if I could change it I would. I just hope our parents understand we made a mistake and help us through it.
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stick with her no matter what no matter how old you get

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Honestly, I know we're young, but I planned on doing that, no matter what, I want her in my life.
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Mission abort...?













u no wat I mean

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That's not in the question, and neither is adoption, it's my kid, my future kid.
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omg. Stop doing it so young! Please. You guys are in trouble.

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Okay. You ll just have to tell the best parent humbly and take what comes. Then ask that parent for help on how to tell the other parent. Saying that you know you two messed up big time isnt enough. I hope you learned your lesson. But more than that, I hope you are responsible with your child.

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