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There is this guy I really like, but the thing is that he has total control over me and he knows it...

... I mean this in the sense that he knows i have always liked him and that i still do and that he can make me wait as much as i want and i wont change my mind about him.
what do i do?
i feel like he has all the power

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Try to make it seem like you don't like him as much, because I know you can't make yourself stop having feelings for someone. Unfortunately he doesn't sound like the best person to like because he's doing this. Show him a little less attention than you normally do, and if he asks you to do something for him, don't always say yes. If he starts going after you, then he likes you too, but if he doesn't, then he was only using you, or sees you as a friend.
I hope this helps

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then if he knows that and he uses that he uses you stop liking him he is not the one for you. you like him because you can't have him and the sooner you except that the happier you will be and if he likes you he will fight to keep you around and if not then his lose

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The one who cares the least has the most power.

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Make it seem that you aren't as interested in him anymore (even though you still are) and if he likes you too then he might start to worry and come to you rather than you having to wait for him. It sounds like he's enjoying the fact that you can be pulled and pushed away when he feels like it and it isn't fair.

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It's up to you to change, you're only hurting yourself. And he's selfish for knowing how u feel about him and not letting u know if he feels the same way or not. Look at him one last time today and don't ever do it again until he looks at you and approaches you next. Do it for yourself. Respect yourself.

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i say like you should go up to him and say i know you know i like you but i really fill like you have all the control so can you like stop making me fill that way. it really freaks me out.

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well pretend like you dont like him a lot. take a little charge. dont let him make you wait. if you act like you like him a lot less, he will realize how much he wants you to be his girlfriend.

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...im having the same problem. ive notice that just means hes using you. like you said he no you like him and he know your going to do what ever. it just shows he not the one if he treating you like this now. try and get over him i know thats HARD but try

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Stop blaming what's happening on him.
You are in control of your choices!
You decide your thoughts!
You decide what's good for you!
You decide what's bad for you!
You may think I'm being mean but that is not my intention.
Come on young lady.... Pull up your big girl panties and decide that you've had enough of being a doormat.
Stand up and make some boundaries for yourself.
Hat you will and will not allow for yourself !
You will feel strong and clear headed once you stop playing the victim of someone else's decisions and become wiser about your own.
You can do it.
Just do it.
Today!
Written with love

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He only has as much control over you as you allow him to have

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