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Getting married at 18

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I am currently engaged at 18 also, I think its fine as long as both of you are totally committed and mature enough to know that marriage is forever, but a good idea if you both don't already live together, move in. People think that just because we're 18 that we are somehow not mature like them, or that we don't know what love is, but don't listen to anyone, its ultimately your choice and your life, we're people too online, but we aren't in your life, and we don't know your situation, I think marriage is okay at any age beyond 18 obviously its not a good idea at 16 or younger, at 18 we are now adults in the world, but if you have someone who you really love and want to be with for the rest of your life then GO FOR IT good luck :)

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For my personal reasons I don't want to move in with him because I wanna save myself and that just puts me in a situation where things can get way too intense . He feels that way too! And thank you for being someone who doesn't think I'm a stupid child. Seems to be a lot of that in the world.
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With all due respect I have to disagree. Listening to people who have lived through the experiences you haven't had yet is a good thing. I know at 18 you think you've got it figured out, but the reality is that kind of maturity and wisdom is gained only through life experience. I know this because I was once your age. She may be more mature than most people her age, but is he? You said you have to realize that marriage is forever, which is true, but you also have to realize that marriage and love both take hard work and dedication from both parties involved to maintain. At 18 you're legally an adult. However, you're also an inexperienced young adult. Also, scientific studies have shown that the brain isn't fully done developing until the average age of 25. A LOT can change in 7ish years. I wish you both the best, but please be careful and do not rush into things. If these guys truly love you...they're not going anywhere.
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Honestly part of this is for a paper I'm writing but it is also something that is going on with my life. And I do know for a fact that has nothing to do with it. In my family both of my uncles and aunts got engaged and or married at 17 and 18 On my dads side theyve been married for about 30 years an on my moms side almost 30.In family his parents are divorced(Got married at 23 and out of college were married for 40 years) and his grandma has had three husbands(Also was married out of collage) His aunt and uncle are in the middle of a divorce also we're married out of college and his other aunt and uncle are both on there second marriage. Also married after college and were older

Sooo being older has nothing to do with it. Its has to do with you as a person and the guy or girl your going to be with as a person. It has to do with trust loyalty being open and being there even when its hell. And trust me we've been there. I also know you didn't have any of this information before therefore I'm not butt hurt about what you said. And I'm also not upset at what your option is. Weather I think it's wrong or not. And I'm sure you have reasoning behind it
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Well I wish you the best of luck. Just be careful.
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And no. I know I don't have a lot of things figured out. I'm not a know it all like most 18 year olds I know.
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Sorry I didn't see you had commented that. And thank you
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I was just trying to help since we are going through kinda the same stuff...
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I didn't think I said anything wrong
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You didn't. A lot of people think that its way too young and get upset about it. It's just different opinions
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Not. Because at 18 you're not done maturing yet. By 25 you'll be a different person. A lot will change. Everything from the food you like, to things you look for in a potential spouse will be different.

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make sure you are planning on spending the rest of your life with that person. kinda too young though but good luck

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probably not a good idea. You'll have to probably live in the same house as all married couples do. When 2 people get married they join their budget. Financial problems are the number 1 reaaons for divorce, so unless you or your partner have an awesome job, it's probably a bad idea. Besides no need to rush it, if you were meant to be with that person you 2 will eventually get married. Give it some thought and my best wishes to you!

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I don't think that you should, if you really love someone what do you have to worry about? You'll still be together when the right time comes (perhaps a little later on in life when you have lived a little more) and when you have more money to make it extra special-if you want it to be like that. I'm 18 and I have been with my boyfriend for five years but both of us have said we won't even consider marriage for quite a while because we are still so young but I guess really it's up to you.

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