When you say meet do you mean, "hello nice to meet you-thanks for having an affair with my husband?" This is a hard situation! It takes a strong person to meet the "other" woman (and you're not the other woman, she is). This is definitely based on personal preferences because not everyone would want to meet the other woman, yet some women would die to meet them to give them a piece of their mind. Being that it is personal, if it were me, I would meet her. Why? I would want to know what this woman has that I don't. And, if she knew you were married, she should be confronted by you (but only if she knew). You can't blame a woman who may have been lied to. But because you're using the word "mistress," I'm assuming she knew your husband was married. I think this is a case where there is no wrong answer (other than violence). Just know that meeting her will not ease your pain or make you feel any better (it will probably make you feel worse). The only thing that willl heal a wound like this is time. Best of luck to you if you do decide to meet her. If you do, stay strong! Us women have certain strengths that need to be tapped into once in a while and this is one of those times!
I've been cheated on before, and instead of being angry with him I was at her ( she was my best friend ) but thinking back on it I now feel I should have really directed most of my anger at him because he was my partner, who I was supposed to be able to trust. I don't know if you've ended your relationship or if your trying to work things out but remember your husband was the one you were married to not this other woman. Whether she knew he was married or not, he was the one that is responsible for the heart ache and damage. You don't know her, she didn't pursue your husband knowing it would hurt you like he should have known. But my point is, if you do choose to meet her, try to remember she is not the main culprit in this attack of your relationship. If I were you I would try to move on with out putting yourself through any more. Why would you want to meet her, the reason he went with her is sex. Men use the wrong head to think with! Good luck girly!
No good will come from meeting the mistress. Your pride and ego are hurt so you just want to see the woman that was able to capture your husbands attention...even if it was brief. What if you meet her and she is drop dead georgous? Or even worse, you meet her and you cannot understand what on earth your husband saw in her...then you really got a problem because if she is at least pretty, you might be able to understand that. If you have made up your mind to forgive your husband...then do so and move on. Meeting her will do nothing but prolong the hurt..you will then have a face for the other woman...thats a dangerous move. Like I stated, if you made up your mind to forgive him then wipe the slate clean and work on your marriage...forget about her and hopefully he will too...no one said marriage is easy...takes alot of hard work but it can be done and through it all it is well worth it in the end. Best of luck to you and your husband.
I know who the woman is. The town we live in is small and so it's a very good chance that our paths will cross again sooner than later. I just want to arrange a planned meeting to prevent an embarrassing and uncomfortable future encounter. I dropped the ball. When I met her before the affair ensued I had a very bad first impression and she never spoke to me; not that day nor any other time when I would see her in public with mutual acquaintances. I should have followed to my instincts. Perhaps I could have prevented things from escalating. I am under the impression that she pursued him. I have questions that only she can answer. We have passed texts back and forth but she is refusing to meet with me. She wrote that I don't know what really happened and that I have more problems with my marriage than just her. How will I ever know the truth? I have left men in the past for their indiscretions. I am truly in love with my husband and I want to work things out but if he is lying I need to know. I am caught between leaving and working things out.