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Why do I get jealous over my finances relationship in the past? He treats me amazing but I can't stop thinking bout them help I'm ruining us

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I believe you mean "fiance" ... not "finances"

And if he is your fiance ... you are engaged to be married ... and should have been dating long enough that you know you can trust him. If you don't know that - you shouldn't be engaged to be married.

Sounds to me like it's less about how trustworthy HE is ... and more about YOUR lack of self-respect and self-confidence. You may want to get counseling to help you with that. Otherwise, it will always be a problem - and probably ruin any relationship you have (including marriage).

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Brilliantly said, Walt.
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I think she means fiance's -- possessive, as in his past relationships.
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The question is now that you know your ruining your relationship.. what are you going to do now...
I'm guessing you have some insecurity issues that only you can deal with...

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ur jealous cuz u love him and maybe its cuz you have been hurt in the past honey

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realize that he wouldn't be who he is today if he didn't have experiences in the past to shape him that way. that includes past relationships. it isnt realistic to expect a person to have never had a relationship before you. people need to ease their ego and stop putting such destructive ownership on other human beings

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its natural to feel jealous but if you guys are getting married he should only think about you

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Look at it this way, YOU'RE the one that ended up with the ring and the promise for marriage. THEY should be jealous of you. Get them out of your head, you won the man of their dreams.

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Sweet!
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I went through that with my second wife. She just automatically hated anyone that I ever dated.
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RelationSHIP? As in...singular? Well, if he's only been in one serious relationship before you, then he obviously is a commitment kinda guy. If he has said or done nothing to lead you to believe he still has feelings for her, then you really need to see someone about your insecurity.

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Check your messages. I found a new (to me) one ;0)
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Most everyone here has a past. Some are good and some are bad.
Some didn't work out the way we would have liked through no fault
of our own and yet we reserve the right to strive ahead for the pursuit
of happiness. All deserve to be happy. Be smart enough to not take
the happiness and future happiness away from your loved one,
OR yourself. The past is in the past and should not be repeated.
Love, Laugh, Live, and continue to evolve.

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Understand that his previous experiences and even relationships have molded this man into the man you have fallen in love with. Experiences, learning from past mistakes all make us better people .. so in reality, you should be thankful for his past relationships .. without them, he may not have turned out to be the man he is now.

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You are afraid they were better than you and he will notice,truth is, you will create what you fear if you don't stop!

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