Speaking as a married man: I have lady friends -- single, divorced, & married themselves -- & I'd be appalled if one of them tried to seduce me. Furthermore, I couldn't live with myself for breaking my vows. ***** You call it a "FWB", I call it a "mistress". And trashy.
It isn't a good idea. Those relationships nearly always end up with someone getting hurt. Adding the fact that he is married makes it more likely that you will be that someone. Not to mention that his wife will find out and she will also be hurt. Plus, it's morally wrong.
You should know that there is no definite "right" or "wrong" in this situations. If you'd ask me you should live your life in joy. And if everyone understands the situation there wouldn't be a problem. In this case if his wife knows about it then there is no problem. If you are lying to his wife, that is disrespectful. Of course that doesn't say that you "can't" do it. But you two just need to talk about it and acknowledge the moral values of your actions. That will keep you from start lying to yourself.
Any benefits derived from a relationship with a best friend who is married will fall away, bit by bit, as the relationship between you cools. You will be left with less of YOURSELF than what you had when you entered this relationship. Don't do it. In the end you will feel used, betrayed and only after the breakup will you reflect and realize the devastating situation and consequences you will have to emotionally and financially endure while trying to get your head and life back together. You will lose pride and self-worth if you continue down this path you're considering. He will go home to his wife (and children). You, on the other hand, will be considered a gold-digging family wrecker, whether it is true or not. It is NOT worth the risk of placing your welfare in the hands and wallet of someone else other than yourself. Wait for true love and then marry. You'll then have a friend, partner, lover and a life together. Don't let this man persuade you with power or influence because he will wash his hands of you when he decides he is done with you. Your personal welfare reputation and pride will hopefully keep you an "honest" woman rather than in this proposed and temporary "kept" situation. He will be in complete control of you if you allow this to happen. In the end it will be YOU who did this to you, not him. You have the choice. Tell him "no thanks" and bow out gracefully with your pride and dignity intact. He has a wife--you find yourself a loving husband. You will thank yourself later by ending the friendship NOW.
Help me get this straight please. its the moronic terminology I don't understand. Is the potential for broken homes, marriages really a benefit? if so, I'll pass thank you. what is the benefit? a fleeting orgasm? cheap lovers make for an expensive existence. What is your so called friend thinking? Guys like that are anemic, meaning they have two heads and only enough blood to operate them one at a time.
you can, not morally right. but hey shit happens like that all the time. its 2013. sounds pretty kinky though:) kinky damn well rules. in her bed and as for his wife maybe she deserves it maybe she don't. is more likely up to him really. if hes willing and you can live with the possible guilt, and him tearin a piece whilst shes in the other room lol then do what you want. just don't ruin his kids family if you can
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You go right ahead and you do what you want ...you are having serious doubts or you wouldnt be asking others for answers a lot of people say it's best you ask people you don't know Some things,,,but hon this isn't one of them,
Since you should be asking yourself this, I will tell you I have been on the other end of that it is ver very hurtful first the hurt then then tears then the anger then you need to run like the wind and not look back when the anger sits in ; ) I wasn't in fighting mood but. I did let them know how I felt and when I did get in that rightful mood would find them heck it wouldn't be hard at all it was my brothers wife and my husband the most famous excuse( it just happened)
Imagine if you were married to the best person in the world. You love them so much and you would do anything for them. Then one day maybe a friend or your husband sits you down and tells you that he has a friend-with-benefits, but hey, that's not bad right? WRONG. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLDWhn8HZfY Hope that helped...
It's so incredibly destructive - you are going to ruin your friendship. And he might be fine with having sex outside his marriage, but his wife would likely be devastated. And what if you end up having romantic feelings for him? It's such a bad idea on so many levels.