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This girl likes me but doesnt want to date me, i feel used but i really like her... I dont want to ruin things with her, Any suggestions?

So originally me and this girl liked each other and we both know it. I still like her, and i have never fallen head over heels for a girl like this. But se is really flirtatious with everyone and my friend texted her and she said that she does in fact like me, but she REALLY doesnt want a boyfriend and because of that she doesnt want to date me. She said maybe in the future she would. I feel like I'm being played and lead on. should i confront her? any advice?

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***** I really hate to break it to you but she's being nice, trying to let you down easy. I'm not trying to be mean, just want you to move on. Does it really make sense for someone to like someone, but not date, maybe later, but not now since all these other guys like me? You sound like a nice guy, you'll do just fine with someone maybe less popular :) *****

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You should just go with it. Maybe she's just not ready for a relationship yet.

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She does not want a boyfriend. Why are you being used? Just because someone likes you does not mean they want a relationship. She is young and having fun dating. Kudos to her.

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You don't need to confront her, but you should tell her that you aren't going to wait around. If she wants to "shop around", she certainly has the right, but you don't need to put your life on hold for something that might not ever happen, especially if there is no commitment.

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If she doesn't want a boyfriend just respect that fact. Her parents might not let her date depending how old she is. My parents won't let me date until I'm 17 or 18. She could be embarrassed or just not ready. If she had a boyfriend maybe she is still recuperating from their breakup. Talk to her about it. Don't be pushy though. Respect her. Take it from me I'm a girl too.

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Sounds childish, to me.
Young (& stupid) girls tend to think a guy is "her boyfriend" as soon as he hits on her & asks her out.
What they don't realize: we guys are still "shopping" & measuring them up at least thru the 3rd date.
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My advice: hit on other girls. This one is flaky; I wouldn't waste my time on a flake, no matter how pretty she may be.

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If she says she does not want a boyfriend, I would just remain friends. Don't consider yourself being used. She simply doesn't want to be In a relationship do not be upset

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Just give it time. She might not be that into you. In life you should date (not hook up with) different people. You don't want to put you hope into just one person. Just see where it is and if she not that into you see someone else.
Just don't sleep around date and have fun.

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