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I hit my moms boyfriend and she doesn't appreciate it

Well I'll start by saying I'm 16. Not to brag, but, I am a pretty big kid. I'm 5'8" with quite a bit of toned muscle. I was downstairs and I overheard my mom arguing with her boyfriend of 2 years. I don't know why they were arguing but I overheard a smack. I ran up stairs and saw him grabbing my mom and pushing her around. I ran over to him and punched him in the face. I started yelling at him telling him he better never touch my mom again. I starting swinging on him and my mom pulled me off and started hitting me and yelling at me that I can't touch her boyfriend. I was so angry. I went down to my room after she stopped hitting me and I tore up my door and walls. I punched holes in them and I was out of control. I was just really upset. Anyways, she is very upset that I interfered and doesn't want to listen to me when I tell her what a scumbag her boyfriend is. She won't end it with him but things are getting worse. He is getting louder and more aggressive with her and I fear I'm going to lose control one day and beat him so badly and get into trouble I need her to leave him before it gets even worse but she won't listen to me. What can I do to help her see he is a scumbag?

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You are right to defend your mother. It is honourable to do so. But you must do so with words and not your fists.

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because that would've stoped him
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I don't think my words will stop him from touching her. I made my point a lot more clear when he felt it.
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This guy assaults a woman and you expect him to listen to words??? These guys don't know anything but how to intimidate and abuse, it just escalates. Soon she may end up in the hospital. And you think words will prevent that?
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exactly
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911
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because he still wouldnt have enough time to finish beating her I forgot the police magically teloport to your exact location oh wait they cant... so no he did the right thing
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call her friends or get the police involved you did the right thing

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Will the police be upset I didn't report it until 2 days later?
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no as long as you report it they'll understand
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No, they won't. Like I said in my comment. You need to have a record of the complaint. That's definitely a necessity.
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You're a kid. Tell them you was/are scared that if you went you would get it bad at home. Tell them you are afraid of what is going to happen.
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Alright. It looks like that's what's going to happen then. Thank you all.
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No problem
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You need to get the police involved. This is a dangerous situation.

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Will the police be upset I didn't report it until two days later?
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No. They'll understand.
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who gives a damn if the police are upset?!!! we are talking about an abusive case here! let's get some protection for your mother first; your serenity second, and him out of the picture...
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Amen
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first of all he is legally not allowed to hit her and just get out of the house more often until you come up with something else. go to a friends.

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I'm afraid something bad will happen if I am gone. I don't want to let her boyfriend out of my sight.
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ok then but calm down.
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He was abusing her. There's nothing wrong with doing what you did.

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Get police involved !

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Oh wow
Ok first you did the right thing .. I would do the same thing .. I feel a little bad for you bc I can tell ur mom is a little immature .. Talk with ur mom tell her ur exact opinion about her bf
If she doesn't agree then tell her to chose her daughter or her idiot bf
I'm sure sooner or later she is going to understand (that u were right
And of course if you see him getting aggressive again pls call the police

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You need to alert the authorities of his abuse, Your mom will have to back you up on the complaint but at least it will be in the record as a reported assault. Thats the first step. If that doesn't work, then this what I would do, though I know a lot of people will disagree with me but you need to get some friends together and beat the living daylights out of him. And I don't mean just a little smack down. Beat him so bad he'll leave your mom alone period.

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People who are in abusive relationships sometimes don't want to admit it to themselves or anyone else, and aren't usually functioning with the best mental health. It was right of you to stand up for your mom and it sounds like the guy deserved getting hit back, however, the best thing to do would be to get with the police next time something like that happens and let them deal with the jerk. They will take action and maybe they can say something to make your mom realize she's dating an abuser and move on. Sadly, it will still be up to her if she wisens up or not. Talking to her friends or other family members might lend you some support too.

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Let him go to jail, not you !
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Exactly.
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Thank you for the response
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Sure.
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Your Mom is WRONG, you are a kid acting like an adult and they are adults acting like kids! They should never fight in front of you. I am so sorry!

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I'm sorry bro but your mother is stupid and doesn't deserve a son like you if she was in trouble and was still defending her boyfriend...that's pretty stupid... you don't know that kind of crap talk to her and do not ,DO NOT apologize tell her how you felt and how or why she is even with a man like that and that if that person is a bad influence for your space try to remove it but if she's into that problem again... then call the cops and explain how irresponsible she is as a mother

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Tell her when it's calm and you can tell her with sincere care, that you are confused and hurt and angry, and she never had her taught you that that was okay to man handle a lady, and you are having a really hard time with it and you need for her to tell you its cool that men are treat her like that, if not there is always gonna be a fight in the home.
Maybe that will be a wake up call. Be strong! Don't lose control of your anger! Don't let them put that on you! Go work out till things change. You a good man.

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