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If I can't say something good ....... Should I say it at all ?

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I believe that in America we're in grave danger of becoming a mealy-mouthed, hypocritical society. We say something looks great, when privately we think it looks awful, we tiptoe around people's most extravagantly ridiculous beliefs, without doing them the great service of saying they've fallen off the table, and it's got to the point where we care much more about not hurting feelings than we do about basic honesty.

So, in answer to your question, Ms Eckles, I think you should NOT limit yourself to saying just good things. You, like the rest of us, have a responsibility to 'tell it like it is' sometimes.

The world will be much better for it.

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Excellent advice.
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Bravo, Sir John.
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no, youll ruin the mood

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Probably not. But I usually do!

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Me too.
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Lol. I have been told I have no filter. Merry Christmas;)
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Depends on the situation.

Example: If you could have told Germans in 1937 that Hitler was a genocidal maniac, and following him would result in the deaths of millions of people ... that's a bad thing to say, but it's true as well.

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Hitler was necessary for germany, if they told him he would repair the world's economy, they'd follow him.
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Walt... A very good analogy.
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The Prophet (PBUH) said, "He who believes in God and the Last Day must either speak good or remain silent." [Muslim].

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Would be good for all of us.
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Thank you my brother rengle.
God bless you :)
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Yes i think so .
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You too :)
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No something bad would happen but it depends on the thing you are talking about.

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Greatly depends. If it's negative, I would save it for another time. Or not at all.

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You are great at not being negative.
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Not always. lol but thank you.
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Everyone is gifted, but most people never open their package.

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Good one.
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I wouldn't say anything that's not good today or tomorrow.

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I'll try.
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Sometimes you have to say things, even if people dont like it... let God lead you on what to say and what to not say.

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That would sure be best.
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Never

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Is this possible ?
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Not always .. use good judgment..
Better than my judgment :)

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You usually remain neutral.
He who is neutral has many friends.
(I made that up). Ha ha
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Haha.. I may be the exception :)
Merry Christmas friend
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Certainly not today. Save it for later if you think it should be said.

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Good idea.
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It eventually will be said then. Why does it matter when? Or is it one of those paradoxes where you say "I'll do it tommorow" and the next day you say "I'll do it tommorow". Like the saying "tommorow never comes."
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Ordinarily it's best not to say anything if it's not good. However, there may be a particular situation where you may need to say something "bad" or "not nice".

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Yeh... I usually get myself in trouble.
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You are referring to a long accepted ethical doctrine which is a good practice. It is however proper and even necessary in some instances to throw the doctrine to the winds and go with what the situation may dictate even when it's not "good" .

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We say, if you can't say anything nice, say it in Yiddish...

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Funny... I'll try to remember that.
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My Granny taught me to never pass up a chance to shut the heck up. Of course, Granny wasn't much for her own advice. Speak your mind, there's too much PC stinking things up.

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Ok..... Ha ha
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i cant either

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I'd say try to not say it negatively and phrase as nicely as you can. Also, don't just focus on negative things, try to think of the good things.

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Good advice
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***** If we let people get away with their bad behavior this world would be worse than it is. *****

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I guess so. Then we have to speak out. Ha ha
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Yup :)
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No. It is good to always treat other people like you want to be treated( Matthew 7:12). Although we should speak the truth it is not necessary to say everything that crosses our thoughts. In conjunction with speaking truth we should also remember qualities such as kindness, respect, and timing.

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That is really good advice.
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According to my mom, if you can't say anything good, say nothing at all. However, she always found a way to tell me when I was messing up.

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She was just teaching you like a good mother should
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Maybe not, but that's your choice. It's best to say whatever the Holy Spirit leads you to say.

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Keep your words soft and sweet just incase you have to eat them.

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You should not even say "good things." The only things we should be saying are to report scientific facts, theories etc..; compliments, orders, rational requests, corrections with proper citation and evidence, etc... Basically its best to just keep the world moving and not rub people the wrong way because at the end of life, we all die and its a lot better if we all recognize that life for all of us was less wasted when we feel good throughout.

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If what you want to say will cause damage, then yes, it's best not to say anything.

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Remembering the golden rule at Matthew 7:12 'treat others the way you want to be treated.' This bible principle can help tempter what we say and do.

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It's important that as followers of Jesus Christ, we imitate him in all aspects. Colossians 4:6 says "Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person."

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The Bible says in James 1:19 "Know this, my beloved brothers. Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking, slow about wrath". Since the way one uses his tongue means life or death and since no man today has perfect control over his tongue, it is the part of wisdom that one’s speech should not be hasty.—Jas. 3:3-8. So, by all means take to heart the bible's counsel “Be swift about hearing, slow about speaking, slow about wrath.” It will aid you to bring forth fruitage acceptable to God. It will aid you to use your tongue to the glory of the Creator. It will aid you in carrying out the divine will as expressed at Romans 14:19: “Let us pursue the things making for peace and the things that are upbuilding to one another.”



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That is definitely something most of us were taught from a early age. We should always find ways to say things that will upbuild and not tear down. The previous comment is correct. We are encouraged at Colossians 4:6 to let our words be "seasoned with salt". That however, takes effort on our parts, which means we have to to take a minute and think about what we are going to say, before we say it.

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Colossians 4:6 - Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt,+ so that you will know how you should answer each person.

Proverbs 15:1 -A mild* answer turns away rage,,But a harsh word stirs up anger.

James 3:10 --Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, it is not right for things to happen this way.

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James 3:10: "Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, it is not right for things to happen this way."

Ephesians 4:29: "Let a rotten word not come out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up as the need may be, to impart what is beneficial to the hearers."

Matthew 15:11: "It is not what enters into a man's mouth that defiles him, but it is what comes out of his mouth that defiles him."

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no wait for time !

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If it needs to be said, then yes, some people need to hear certain things.

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