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Should I put my second baby up for adoption

I'm 18 & due in less than 3 weeks I have nothing at all for the baby and on top of that I have no job. I still live with my mom and she provides for me and my son. She says whatever I do is my choice. I don't know what to do I want to keep my baby but I don't want to put it on my mom but I can't provide for it with no income. Is there any thing in Ohio that can help me provide for my kids until I get another job? I'm so depressed that I don't even feel connected to my unborn child :-(

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Well the reality is if you cant support your kids you need to learn birth control but things happen you can check with the states human services department for assistance but just keep in mind usually they keep close tabs on what you are doing so be resposible if you go that route. But if you think there is no way to support the baby keep the childs best intrest and allow the child to live a better life and put the child up for adoption.. I went through cancer treatment when I was 17 and can not have kids so at the age of 37 we adopted and thank god for that ability so it is up to you but think of the child first.

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Give up your baby it's the best thing for it. That child deserves every opportunity possible at live a good life. You can't provide that. And yes stop having kids. Please

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Do whatever you think is best for the baby because it is another human life that you are responsible for.

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That is a very personal decision. Seeking advice here wouldn't be my choice. You really need to be more responsible in the future, assuming your having unprotected sex, rather than the condom broke line.
Hope you find a job!
No one likes a freeloader.

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Honestly, yes. I feel like a jerk telling you to do that, but it sounds like you know it already. Please, stop having babies, and be a good example for your son like get some job skills, find good job, help him with homework, etc.

To be honest again, you shouldn't be having sex at all right now in this situation, you need to be caring for the boy. When he is grown, you can have a midlife crisis and have fun. It's consequence of your actions.

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The best for all of you is to give up the baby, he/she deserves good. Only you can change your fate but without your commitment everything would be another liar like men probably have given to you for sex. Respect yourself, your mother, and your child, fight to change your temporal situation and you will see how little by little everything begins to line up for the best. Good luck

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Excuse you! My kids have the same father and he's the only person I ever had sex with!
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Dosnt your husband have a job
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Or your son's father
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As a mom of 5, the youngest 2 being adopted at birth, I think adoption it an amazing option.

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If u can't support it then maybe u should put it up for adoption. But it's up to u

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There are services everywhere that can help you. They help with money issues, child issues. Everything. They check up on you to make sure you're doing alright. I suggest finding the nearest place and giving them a call, they have plenty of great help to offer. Just remember that you're not alone. Especially after hearing the opinions of some of these people it can bring you down. You're a great person and you made a mistake, so what? people make mistakes everyday. Good luck!

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Its so hard to find them, and thanks so much this made me feel allot better after reading most of these comments.
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There are definitely services you can look into for help if you do decide to keep your child. In the end, it is your decision, no one else can make this decision for you. You will have to do a LOT of research to find some of the places and services for help but if you are determined enough to do what is needed to be a parent, you can and will find them. I know it is hard to find a job with a kid and being pregnant but it can be done. Granted, yes, it may be some little minimum wage art time job but anything will help you. Even if you can only afford diapers and formula...it's a huge help to your mother and I promise you she will appreciate it. Thank your mother for the help she has given you and for giving you the option to keep your child. A lot of parents wouldn't do that and you are blessed to have such a great mother. I hope you make the right decision for you and your child, whatever that may be. Good luck hun and don't let these negative responses get you down.
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My friend is adopted. Her parents are fantastic and she has a much better life than she would have had if her birth mom kept her. You need to put the baby up for adoption so that he or she can have a better life instead of a cramped space with a mom who doesn't work. Focus on getting a job and trying to make things ok for your first born. You mentally cannot handle a second child. And for God's sake, USE DAMN PROTECTION.

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There are many agencies that can give temporary help to you and your kids. Stepping stones.WIC will provide formula and food, social services, church, women's shelter, homes, you have to do the research, the help won't come to you, you need to find it, and it's out there if you really Want this baby and are willing to work very hard,

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Wic is easy. But idk where to start or look for the other stuff.
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That's ok, your WIC case worker can help, she can lead you to other help, agencies, if she doesn't ask to speak to the supervisor!
Stuff is out there, you have to spend time and energy to find it. Not easy.
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don't do it. you will probably regret it and get even more depressed. just get another job and do your best. if nothing changes and you can't take care of it, then consider it.

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I only have less than 3 weeks.
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anything can happen. if you had to think twice about it, you'll regret it. you'll find a way of you want to raise your baby. I'm also 18 with a 5 month old and I couldn't imagine giving up my baby or my future babies. go to a church. churches help you a lot. maybe free daycare at church while you work? I don't know but trust me, once you have him/her, you might change your mind. and there's always free (if not really cheap) baby things on craigslist. so at least prepare to keep it if you really want it. I hope I helped. and congratulations on your baby. babies aren't mistakes. they're blessings :)
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Where is the dad of these kids? Where are their grandparents? Many are pointing out YOUR responsibilities but where in the heck is HE? Can he provide some support here? Ultimately you must choose what is best for their long term interest. Don't do it while your are despondent and desperate. Breathe a minute. Talk to the dad. Think about what two years, five years, ten years from now will look like for these children with you or another family. It's a great deal to consider. Give it the time it deserves.

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I say keep the baby...i also have to rely on help from my mom and gma because the dad is not around...there are jobs out there that are understanding when it comes to you having kids and will work around your schedule...good luck

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Do what's in your heart, there are supports you can utilize such as WIC, food stamps and financial aid. But adoption is also a good option. You have to make whatever dicision is right for you, so thAt you have no regrets..good luck sweetie.

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Adoption can be a good option for someone in your particular situation. There is an online booklet that contains information and things to think about when considering adoption: http://tinyurl.com/kpuvpop It might be helpful to read!

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There are open adoption agencies where you get profiles of the prospective adoptive parents and you get to pick them yourself . Then you also get to hear how your child is doing yearly get pictures and even see them as a "family" friend once a year. This is how my niece got her two boys. She sends the moms pictures of them at Christmas and writes notes about special achievements. She also attends a picnic every year where the moms can come and see their child as a friend of mom. It works well. The boys know they are adopted. They treat their birth mother as a stranger but a known person to their mom and just say hi. The birth mother just comes by at the picnic and greets the boy and has a few minutes to chat then goes to picnic where she can also observe her child having that picnic with his family. She gets to see he is ok . Some day when the boys are 18 my niece will tell them more.

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that sounds so great
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if you don't feel like you can care for the baby it may be in its best interest to give it up.. that way you can focus your attention on supporting your son the way he deserves and being a good mother to him... and not having any more pregnancies until you are ready... best wishes

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