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why do girls always friendzone or reject the guy they actually want or what they're looking for?

like a girl might say ohh I wish I could date a giy like you... n the guy thinks...wait...I am a guy like me... but the girl still says ohh but not you...
??? why!? do girls naturally choose what they're vaginas want instead of their heart? god I'm so confused... I'm a good looking guy people always tell me...I workout n trying to build muscle too and I'm caring and smart and reasonable but I'm confused oh so confused... help?

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If they're friendzoning you you're not the guy she actually wants.
SHE is the only one who knows what she wants, you're not to say that for her.
Attraction is very important in the beginning of a relationship... mental and physical. If they're not feeling one, the other, or both, you'll be friendzoned.

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well its not necessarily me I realized the girl was a lost cause so I quit it before I would get to that point but I know it may happen I just see it around and wonder why
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As I said, just because a guy is nice and there for them doesn't mean a girl will want him. There has to be more to it than that. Relationships take two to develop. If you feel like she was friend zoning you, or about to, it's because she's just not interested.
I feel like a lot of guys like to use that as an excuse... that girls just don't know what type of guy they REALLY want. Us girls know exactly what we want. What we want just always isn't the best for us unfortunately. Eventually her wants may change, but for now all she sees you as is a friend.
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I don't believe in the friend zone but for most of the time, it is true that women say they want one thing but when they have it, they don't want it. Women don't really want nice guys; nice guys don't stand up for themselves. At least not as much as the bad boys do. Nice guys are easy to take advantage of, and bad boys will make them suspenseful.

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so a girl would rather get beaten n controlled by a bf rather than go for a nice guy who will care for her...
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I said "bad boy", not guy who disrespects women all the time and hurts them. There's a difference between the two.
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Maybe its the way you go about it. I have a friend like that but he sometimes can be to subtle about his feelings and moves. Also he would go for girls who were stuck on another guy or just out of a relationship. So he was more like the shoulder to cry on. To be fair he worked out too but was not aggressive about anything. not much manly behind the man.
That or she just isnt attracted to you (and I dont just mean physically). Girls use the friend zone excuse as a nice way of saying you are not her type. She just means a nice good guy in general.

PassageOne has a great point too. They dont have to be bad boys though. I know I want to find a nice guy but i want a strong one too. Again not just physically. Confidence goes a very long way!!! no one likes it when someone throws and forces themselves on you.

Be nice. Be confident. Strong. Show chivalry. Opening a car door says a lot these days. and cologne is an aphrodisiac for a lot of women.
Avoid clingy, unconfident, controlling, timid, or weakness. and dont talk to her like one of her girlfrinds.

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BTW humans are animals. Girls dont like bad boys cause they are asshole. They are attracted to the alfa wolf. They want a nice guy that treats them well, but they want a MAN. lol
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Honestly, boredom and immaturity. Or, you aren't what they are looking for. Simple as that.

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It's because they feel loved and wanted and going out with the guy might ruin it in their mind?!

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