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How do i recognize a true person which is helpful and trustful?

both them ask for money and one of them told to me that "i need some money bec i am out of money and it is for my medical expenses . i will return your money when i get my next salary or income " The another one ask me some saying that "i need money urgently i am in great trouble and i am having loan too !plz help me i and my child would dead ! I will return it soon but don't have the money now" but both of them have past rival but they are putting forward this friendship in their eyes! what should i do?plz describe a trustful friend?

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The more money you loan, the more money they'll need & ask for.
Money doesn't solve money issues.
If you do open your wallet, do not loan it, give it freely.

Now on the matter of trust: Do you only hear from them when they need something from you ? Or do they hang & chat with you daily ? Do you feel like they are using you or do you feel that you can trust them ? You should be able to determine a trustworthy friend from their actions.

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tru dat
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feel like they are using you !
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sorry! me!
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yea!
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Then they probably are. Distance yourself from them & kindly remove them from your life. We all deserve REAL friends.
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yea!


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but i can't avoid one person she is my relative!
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Then outright say NO. Or give it freely. Its your choice.
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i told to her no with reason but she is avoiding it !
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She cannot make you give it. Stick to your decision & she will learn that you mean business. Teach her that what you say, you mean. Don't say 'no' & then give in, this will just make the next time harder.
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it is really getting harder and i am sticking to my decision!
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Good, No means No, right ?
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yea!surely!
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GREAT advice Shay. *Star :)
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Thx Kali,
Happy New Year doll.
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dp sweetie. You don't loan money to friends. I know this is hard, but if you're questioning who to trust, do NOT trust either of them.

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Don't send anyone any money! Seems like you're being scammed by both.

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hey missy.. can i borrow some money for come choc chip mint? please (like you.. well yk)
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how much?
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Not even a nickel for the subway..let alone cash for a cone.
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(shuffles off).. i thought we were.. (sigh) thick.. tight.. blood "brothers".. yk.. what is yours is mine.. :)..
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Um I'm going be keeping my nickels .. Shuffle dance? Off to do the snowmobiling. Maybe I'll throw you a dime sometime :)
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as long as snowmobiling ends up in a lodge with a fire.. im in
i dont do cold.. beaches and palm trees.. waves and paradise.. yes
that and warm lodges.. see you back by the fire :)
ya... id spare you a dime too.. that is IF you are nice
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Hey missy, how's your nee year coming in ?
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DO NOT give either of them money!!! It's best to not get money involved in friendships. You will not regret it.

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dp, are these people you know in person, not email or social networking people you never met? Look. I'll keep it simple and direct for you. Don't send either of them any money. Send it all to me and I'll look after your best interests. Sound good? I hope not.

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people are know in person,!
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A true friend is somebody who doesn't ask for money

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i have offered jobs.. "things" to work for/off.. and yes money
when i have given money.. i KNEW that it was gone.. AND considered the enabling in it (can be very unhealthy to give anything to an asker)

i have a couple of best friends that were good acquaintances at the time of the"gift"
they are NOW friends cause they see that our connection was always about the heart and not the money (three of which went bankrupt after substantial gifts.. they had companies in need)

blades is right.. a true friend will not ask for money
NOW they are my friends.. and in a different place in life.. and NOT because i gave them money (or didnt).. IF you give.. it is likely not the best path for them..

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I like the idea of 'work for your cash'.
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so u are going to work!
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