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Why do women waste their youth on the wrong guys ?

by the time women get to be my age they have at least 3 kids from some losers they once dated. a lot of them are bitter and looking for someone to be the father to their kids. it is really annoying when most women have kids that approach me. women with their constant baggage is turning me against women

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Same reason men waste their youth on the wrong women.. Youth. You see where I'm going with this? You picking up what I'm putting down? Sorry. It's late and I'm tired... :0) inexperience, upbringing, unrealistic expectations, rose-colored glasses and a plethora of other reasons for poor choices and bad judgment. However, like Ravin said, not all are like that. You're looking in the wrong places and your attitude is getting you nowhere. Strong, smart women aren't looking for another daddy for their kids. They're looking for a companion. Misogyny isn't attractive, either, and it's coming off of you in waves.. Change your playing field and your own expectations and you'll find what you're looking for.

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I agree
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Perfect!
Happy New Year!!!
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Thanks Brooke! Happy New Year to you and yours bubs!!
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Eloquently state, Slip. :)
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Thanks Dodgy! Hope you and yours have a Happy New Year!
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Thanks you .. and HNY right back at you. :D
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@freudian lol reminds me of misses doubtfire, "if I ever find the misogynistic bastard that invented heels, I'll kill him."
Good answer tho. Smart women are sexy
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Thanks sir.. Yes, I remember that line well.. And agree, lol.
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Some women just think that that guy is perfect for her then soon or later she finds out he isn't the right man

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Not all of us do that. You might be shopping at the wrong places.

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Well said!
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Very well stated:)!
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Thanks guys!:)
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I honestly do not know
I know this one guy who literally broke up with his girl over 20 times ! He said stuff like he cheated on her and slit of rude stuff but she still gets back with him, then cries when they break up

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I know a girl like that too. Actually a couple like that . This really sweet girl I was friendly with is dating a real loser. She complains a lot about him and other things in her life. She fights with him and gets lonely and runs back. All this time she could be with someone better.
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I see this more and more the longer i live. fighting and arguing. why do people think that makes a normal relationship? its not normal and its not healthy.
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My very own sister is in a relationship like that. To her anything he does is cute. The guy is a complete tool. She is old enough to make her own mess and clean it up on her own. The worst part is they have physical fights . I stay out of it. Enough of my own problems to deal with
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That is the wrong attitude to have towards women. :0(
Yes they may be "damaged" by past relationships but you should actually feel good about yourself because those women obviously see something special in you. Be nice to them. Be their friend. If you just don't want a woman with children don't date them but by being friends with them you are showing them that there are decent men out there and hopefully they will seek out better choices. You are in a position to help them. Now for your choice, DATE women with no kids. There are some out there. Good luck and be positive! :0)

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I just don't want to be the guy women settle for. I rather have someone I can start my own family with. I did go out with someone that had one kid but she had to many issues. I really don't even bother with the opposite sex at all anymore. I am still friendly to all women but I just don't feel like trying anymore.
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You sound wore out. Almost like you are trying too hard. It is good that you know what you want. Give yourself some time for you. The right woman will come along before you know it. :0)
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I am wore out. I never been in a long term relationship. If I do talk to attractive women they are just as bad as the unattractive women the women I don't want can't seem to take a hint. On top of the women part I just lost a job I had for 20 years thanks to Safeway. So I have nothing now.
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Awe, I am so sorry! Gosh the economy is so scary right now. It will get better. Keep your head up. :0)
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Nobody wants damaged goods. To me kids aren't damaged goods, but what concerns me is when woman who have chosen to remain in abusive relationships become psychologically scarred, and damaged. Sometimes I feel that as a man I am held answerable for every low life piece of garbage that these women had previously been with. Maybe the nice guys of the world aren't as exciting as the sociopathic low lifes that seem to attract women. But then again, I refuse to be their second choice. Try to find someone who's life situation is closer to your own.

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But you are a delightful exception. I've never dated a low-life. Not even once. They are too easy to read and the news isn't good.
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I'm a delightful exception to what?
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seems there are plenty of'm, but leave them be. Karma will get'm on the turn a round. I'm picking up alittle envy maybe? You gotta part in this too. So get up / dust off and jump in. Grab the brass ring, go for the gusto. I'm thinking one thing a woman finds attractive is a guy with confidence. Letting her feel right cause you got it together.

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Sure, there's plenty of those on both sides. How about women who would like to find someone who hasn't been married 5 times and isn't paying child support to 8 kids with. 5 different baby mommas.
As far as the rest of us who have worked hard and succeeded in running our lives in a good and kind fashion, you'd be surprised what a few kind words will say just to turn us around facing in the right direction will do.

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You would do good to take a long break from dating. It's a tiring process and there's nothing wrong with being single for as long as it takes. The right person will come along, it if you're too tired and have bitter feelings you mY not recognize her when you see her. Also, many times when you're dating someone with a child, especially a small child, the mother is naturally going to want to protect her child and pay more attention to that child. That's a strong secure man will realize that, and protect that woman and her child with no feelings of inferiority. Maybe you're just not quite ready yet. Is nothing wrong with that at all. Just take your time. I wish you the best. Everything will be okay.
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A great response, on point and sensitive, star:)!
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Indeed!
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I have been single my whole life. I am close to 40. Women all my life either flaked on me or went for some loser. I don't really even bother with women now except to talk to them. I don't chase them or even try anything with them. I guess you can say I am numb towards them. I don't like playing games to get somewhere. I just pretty much go about my business like women don't exist anymore
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When my son got to the point you are at and stayed there for a year, he learned some important things. It was then he was ready to find someone. He met the most wonderful girl and is going to get married. You're just not quite ready yet. Just keep doing what you're doing, have a great attitude, start going to the gym and having your own life, worry about just you and how you're going improve your own self, and the right girl will step right before your eyes when the time is right.
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I just saw in another comment that you lost your job that you had for 20 years. I'm so sorry. Whatever you do don't give up. There is still a future. This I know.
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Sin, you are a very sensitive and kind person, I for one am glad you are part of this " family"! Happy New Year:)!
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Thank you so much Huntbill! :) Happy New Year to you also dear friend.
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You should pick the father of your kids before they are born, not after

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Because we are not preparing our youth for the reality of life. We sell them realigious ideas like "just don't have sex," (which no one follows) "don't get abortions," (which most follow) and generally lie to them about the nature of humanity. These young mothers are the product of poisonous religious indoctrination. Address the real problem- Christianity. We have proved time and time again that sheltering children only creates social problems but hey, God is great right? No.

Until you can wipe that out though, just have a good attitude. Great women are out there and they are not all looking for dads. In my experience, most would settle for some casual sex and a nice guy to make them laugh every once in a while. Try to lower your expectations and understand that they can't fix their mistakes and after seeing their children's faces- they wouldn't want to.

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Because they were young. When you're young (and this applies to everyone, I don't care who you are), you're stupid, ignorant, and foolish.

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I suppose for much the same reason guys waste so much of their time on women that aren't right for them. The difference is it's so much easier for guys to walk away from the children they've made.

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