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How to say a guy about his limits without hurting him ?

I am a girl . I am 18. my best friend and myself had been growing up together from childhood since he lived next door. I grew feelings for him . I dont know about his feelings. Last day he touched me little bit inappropriately and I pushed him away hardly. Since that time I found his behaviour for me changed a lot. He is trying to avoid me. It hurts me. How to bring up this topic and make it normal ? Why do guys behave contradictorily ? I dont want to loose him but at same time very upset about this sudden change of behavior. I dont think that I am wrong anywhere. its his mistake . How to convince him .

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Well first off it's not just guys that do that.. I find more girls do that actually. But secondly I would just sit him down where you are hanging out and tell him exactly what you have said here. Ask what's going on with him, and how is your friendship playing out in his head, let him know how you feel.. and see how that conversation goes.

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Just try telling him. Tell him that he was wrong in doing so and that you're afraid of what to think because of he did.
Just sum up the courage and tell him what you've told the Ask community.
Unless he realises what he's done on his own and confess and apologise, I don't think anything will happen. :)

If you're afraid of hurting him in this situation, don't worry about it. BEcause you're obviously great friends, and great friends should be able to overcome something like this. Just fight for your relationship.

But then, it also depends on what he did to you, so the rest is up to you. :p

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Advise him that you are not kid anymore and say that you want him..

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Play kinda dumb. Ask him what's wrong, then when he says how you reacted just tell him how your not just some meat to grab but a person. (Not really, of course.) Also, be sure to mention how you like him, but not whenever he made you feel uncomfortable like that.

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Most people have a way of "drowning their sorrows". Among alcohol and illegal-drug use, sex is very common. So here i could say that he is going through a stressful time, and he needs you to provoke the conversation. Ask him how his life has been, or what has been going on. Be compassionate and understanding, if this is the case. Another case is if he simply desires sex, abnormal hormones are common in young adults and teenagers. If this is the case, there is not much that can be done.

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ok, I think You have to told him clearly about whatever is happens, & Make a healthy relation, most important talk open mind.

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Oh hell no. Guys should NOT touch you inappropriately, especially not without your consent. It's your body... yours, and yours alone. You did the right thing by pushing him away, so don't give in to his guilt trips. If you let him do what he wants, he'll keep trying to get more. I'm guessing that you're a young teenager, and that's how ALL teenage boys are.
My advice to you is to try to explain why the touching made you uncomfortable. If he keeps avoiding you, then that's his loss. It's a tactic to try to guilt you into letting him do what he wants.

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Why do guys do stupid things . Well you see we have a caveman side to us in which we think with the wrong head. Then we have an intellectual side to us in which we actually think things through . When he touched you that was his inner caveman coming out . If you still like him talk tell him how you feel about what happened . You should get an apology and from there set boundaries and tell him how you feel about him . My guess is he's avoiding you because he knows he was wrong for doing that .

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Keep in mind you shouldn't let people touch you willy nilly have some respect for yourself . Be a lady by doing so it will be easier to see guys true intentions .
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don't fret over it. he will come around eventually. just say hello whenever he goes by.

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