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Is it acceptable to date an 18 year old boy if I'm 13?

I'm 13 and met an 18 year old boy on YouTube and we really like each other, but aren't officially dating,
When I'm 18 I'm moving in with him in California (I live in Australia).

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Whoa, whoa, whoa! 13? GIRL, YOU GOT SO MUCH MATURING TO DO. Don't spend 5 years holding back just so you can be with this guy!
It's illegal in some states for a legal adult to have a intimate relationship with a minor (you are technically a minor).
Personally, I think it is unacceptable. In those 5 years you're waiting to be 18, don't you think there's a chance he finds someone else more mature?

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I'm really mature for my age.
we haven't actually met so it's not like we would 'do' anything. But we get alligator and I really feel like he is 'the one'.
And when I'm 30 and he's 35 it isn't as bad, so why is it bad now?
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It is bad now because you are a kid...
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You and few others may think you're mature at your age. But 5 years? A lot of things can change. You and him is like seeing an 8 year old with a 16 year old. The 8 year old will be 20 and the 16 year old will be 28. Not the hugest difference when older but don't you see the different levels of maturity there is between an 8 year old and a 16 year old?
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I'm not like fully mature, it's just I'm pretty independent and I can take care of myself.
But 8 and 16 is double the age...
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8 and 16 is double the age, yes, but is it when they're 20 and 28? It's perspective. And from mine, 13 and 18 is a long shot. And especially since you're "pretty sure" he has feelings, it's even longer.
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No...not at all.

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Yeahhhhh NO. Not okay

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No it is not! o: I'm sorry! But NO not under any circumstances

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Have you actually seen him post any videos? Are you sure he is 18? Even so, it is wrong. You aren't even a legal adult yet! And moving in with him when you are 18? You might not even be with him by then. 5 years isnt a big difference, but with young kids it is. I suggest you don't. He could be charged with having an intimate relationship with a minor.

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Yeah lots of videos. We also talk on Skype all the time.
I'm sure he is 18.
I am, but not even necessarily as a couple just as friends. I'm pretty sure he has feeling for me, but even when we are living together he wouldn't pressure me into anything I want ready for.
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Can he get charged if we are just, like, dating and nothing inappropriate?
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You're pretty sure he has feelings? He either has them or doesn't. Don't take a gamble and end up twisting up your life in ways you didn't want it to.
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I think he has. I'm pretty sure, but even if he doesn't I am sure happy if we are just friends.
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I know he may seem sweet and all, but it isn't worth it. He might be charged because he is an adult now. If an adult has any kind of relationship with a minor, it isn't good news in the law. If your parents find out, they might even press charges.
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He is sweet, he is so nice. What age is it legal for us to date at then? I'll date him at that age.
Naw my parents wouldn't find out, they don't care that much about me.
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How do you know that? How do you know that your parents don't care about you much? To the 13 year old mind, it's quite hard to differentiate between parents caring or not. The slightest negative mood can tick off your hormones and keep a bad image of your parents.
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As soon as you are 18, a legal minor, you would be able to date. But I don't want you to get caught up in the idea of being with him untill then. It might not work out. No one here would want you to get hurt. I'm not saying you will, but it might happen. Best to be aware :)
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Crap, a legal adult I meant. Lol, sorry!!
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Jessipanda it's not something I really want to share to everybody on ask.

Kyoskitten1 thankyou. I will wait now :D
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you're in way over your head. The chances of you moving in with him in 5 years is sooo slim. He's probably not even who he says he is. A boy that age would not give so much attention to a 13 year old halfway around the world unless he's lying or has something else in mind. Don't date him.. you'll regret it in probably a year. Trust me.

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We are really sure about moving in, he even has a spare bedroom for me.
I know he is who he is, I just know.
He didn't even know I was 13 when we started talking, he didn't even know my gender or location.
He's just not that kind of person.
Are you sure I would? It could work...
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I'm perfectly fine with you set on moving in with him but for you be so set on dating him and probably restricting yourself from dating experience...that's something I'm worried about.
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Listen to a girl from experience. I know exactly how hard it is for everyone to try and tell you that the guy you really like is a pervert or whatever. Having a connection with someone is a beautiful thing. I have plenty of oversea friends and I adore them. But having a RELATIONSHIP is not ever going to work. Save yourself the heartbreak and just realize that it's not realistic.
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Okay I guess we can stay 'just friends' and when I move over we can see how things go past there.
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C'mon dude, you met someone on youtube and in 5 years time you're gonna move halfway across the world and live with him?

Good for you.

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bwahaha :')
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No I don't don't find this ok. So what they are a youtuber. You guys just met and all the sudden your gonna move in with them. SLOW DOWN. Meet people your own age. 1. It's against the law and 2 your rushing like crazy!

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Well it's been like a year so so that we've been friends, so not really rushing
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Did you mean to type don't twice?

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There's nothing wrong with this as long as you don't date until your 18, otherwise it could cause problems and no matter how nature you think you are( or even if you are mature) still don't waste five years with some guy you haven't met IRL. Your about to start highschool, which will be some of the best and worst years of your life, don't waste it and get heartbroken over some guy on youtube.Live your life, and if he really likes you, then he won't mind waiting till your 18. but in the end it's your choice, just try to make the smart one

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Oh wow *mature*
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Okay, we won't date until I'm 18. He really likes me as a person so I'm sure he wouldn't care :D
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Then that's just great
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Hell no u can't

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uhm, no...

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Girl?! No.

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Obviously not!!!!!!!

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ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!! don't even think about doing it.

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Kind of creepy and... your parents will not like it.

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My parents suck they are probably happy I'm moving away
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You aren't going anywhere till you are 18. Maybe not even then. Grow up a little.
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yeah um wow very mature of you to say your parents suck if you where mature you would have already gone through the stage where you accept them soo yeah...
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Girl you have your head in the stars. No red blooded boy is going to wait 5 years for you to grow up. You live half away around the world from him. You need to be seeing kids your own age upfront and in face. You have a very negative opinion of your parents have you even told them you are talking to this man.

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He would because he generally cares about me, and I haves. Negative opinion on my parents for a reason and I haven't because they wouldn't care,
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Oh I bet they would. This is not a good situation for you to be playing with.
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Well my mum would say finally, you need a man. So I don't think she'd care too much
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It's been almost a month. Have you talked to your mother about this GROWN man?
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Imagine your child saying this to you:
I'm moving to another country and will date a guy who I believe likes me back and waited to date me for 5 years.
Not exactly persuasive.
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I can't wrap my brain around half of what these kids say. Lordy it is so sad to read some of the questions. Is the world really this messed up?
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Unfortunately...although there are worse that I know. There's this one girl at my high school (freshman) that actually wrecked two marriages by making the husbands cheat on their wives with her. Ugh.
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That's illegal..

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I think your the only one that said its illegal... lol
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Just telling the truth, because it is. @StupidStupid.. :O
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ABSOLUTLEY......................NOT NEVER when your older

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Um..... NOOO, it's inappropriate especially when you're only 13 you're 5years apart and you have a lot of growing up to do maybe when you're older but definitely not now.

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no dont do that
im 14 and even im telling u its not a good idea

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Defiantly not. Since you meet him on the internet he could be lying about his age. Also you are way to young to be talking about things like this of even thinking them. And he might find someone his own age in the next 5 years. You should waste your energy on someone your own age. You can still be friends just not that type of friends

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dont try dating him at all. dont dte him your too young to date an 18 year old. im 14 and i wouldnt eve say its okay for me to dat an 18 year old

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Wait is she joking? If not SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU GIRL, teenage girls get crazy sometimes, ik that, but THIS is INSANE, not only are u way to young to move in with a guy, u have never met him to, he is 5 years older than you, and you MET HIM ON YOUTUBE, like WTF

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wow this has to be the best answer!
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This could be really dangerous. He could be lying.

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He's not lying. I know he isnt
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You can never "know". Plus, don't you want to be with other people instead of waiting around half a decade just to go move in with him and have a relationship? In the 5 years to come, he could have found a girlfriend in that time. If you're fine with just being friends, okay. But I'm thinking you should maybe ask to meet up somewhere to confirm that this is a guy you want to move in with when you get to Cali.
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how do you know? you don't know him!!! you just dont know him. don't say you do because you don't. you proved that by saying you are half way across the world and met on youtube he might say he likes you but is just messing with you!
he could be a nasty 43 years old who just wants some fun on the internet!
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We skype all the time, I know he couldn't be 43
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Read the answers above this question. Obviously no.

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Yeah i suggests you wait out those five years till your 18 and see what you wanna do then. You dunno might meet someone else.

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I wouldn` t nasty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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No, you shouldn't do that. You met her on YouTube with means you don't even know him. You can't just move in with him after a few years, you don't even know him. Also your only 13 so I don't think its good to get serious at such a young age. He is an adult so I would suggest you find someone else. It might seem hard right now but the right person will come to you at the right time. Just remember to have hope.

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no. 13-16 is ok

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Wut? What kind of question is that!? NO! Dear god.

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i have a bad feeling about this. dont do because about 98% of people that do this are fake and really dangerous. it is totally unacceptable

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Hell no. Did you read the answers before this? I thought it was obvious.

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1. he is not going to wait for some chick he found on the internet 5 years younger than him across the world.

2. ok so what if you do met him? what if he wants to have some... lovin? what are you going to do? it is wrong

3. what about that guy who likes you and isn't so cute now but gets super cute nice smart and funny? yeah he is there!

4. please girl!

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wow. no. dont set your life like that. 18 is so far away for you. dont tie yourself down with a guy you've never met

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i just turned 18 this month and it is not ok. i made that mistake my self. i ended up getting in trouble with the law. it is not worth if please get through collage be for dating. you will meet more mature boys in collage too

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why would you want to be in a serious relationship at 13. I think you should date around have fun wait until you have to become more mature. if i was in a serious relationship at 13 i think my life would be boring.
But i do think that you can date him but please dont do anything sexual with him. Unlike the other answers i believe you should do what ever you want to and that people shouldn't affect your decisions.

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I want somebody to care about me I guess.
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If other people don't tell her what to do who will? Where are her parents? Do they know she is talking about going to live with this MAN half way around the world from this CHILD?
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No. Absolutely not.

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I'm not saying this in a condescending way but.. you really dont know this boy? He could be an old man for all you know.. please dont meet him

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I've seen heaps of his videos, I know he is 18
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13andsingle- you've seen videos. How do you know for sure that is the 18 year old you are texting.
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He can be some creep on the web trying to trick younger girls into moving in, and he'll you know...rape you....Just a possibility...

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um…NO!

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