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I love a grl but am already married, she wants to spend a night with me. What should I do?

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Dumb ass is all I can say

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me to !
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hell ya!
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Divorce your wife and marry that other chick.

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wtf will this accomplish?
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nothing, its funny though
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is not!! its cruel!!
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i'm sure this was not a serious answer...
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i hope to he// not.
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cupcake4014
Do not do it , no !!!!
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Say no dood stay loyal to your wife (if you still love her)

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lol "say no dood"
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Is that your first time seeing that :)
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seeing what? is it a meme or something?
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Seeing dood
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lots of doo dood s out there these days !
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Ikr dood
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You mean "dude".
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No dood, dood lolz
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doo doo doods !
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THOU SHALL NOT BE LEAD INTO TEMPTAION ! send one my way !

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{chuckle} or "laid into temptation", either
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i agree with you !
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mzrottnrotts

stop cheating its cruel.

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if he hasnt had sex wit her then its not cheatin.
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but still
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It's not cheating unless they are dating
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true
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mzrottnrotts
you will learn one day kiddos.
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so TRUEL ! this is true and cruel put together !
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keep loyal. u made a commitment. keep to it.

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YEP ! o
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She could just be playing people too...like what if she wanted that leverage...its hard to call...I think id just stay with the wifey

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could always be a trap ! or a set up !
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do you have kids with your wife if yes you need to think about your family. divorces have a big impact on your kids.on the other hand if you dont have kids well just talk to your wife to settle your situation.

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tell it like it is !
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sleep over, what could possibly go wrong? *coolface* :D

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wat is wrong wit u? so many things could go wrong they could fill a whole series of things that could go wrong!!
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lmfao :D
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lmao
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actually i already have the coolface in my ask profile pic. so refer to the picture :)
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that is mean
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Since you've already married that wife of yours, try sticking with her. Otherwise you have a greater risk of losing both if they realize you've been hanging out with others.
Maybe (just my advice) you should focus a little on strengthening your relationship with your wife and living a good life with her.

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AMEN and so TRUE !
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candybar

I can't believe you even have to ask. Marriage is a long time commitment and you've made your vows. Now it's time to stand up and be the man your wife thought she married.

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yeah there you go tell him ! he needs to use that back bone with his wife !
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Thanks fact.
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10n -10 my friend !
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Lol
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how can you love her when u r married seriously thats stupid

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with a capitol S !
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for real
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You can like someone, but it's...just not right to date them or anything since you've already made a commitment to your wife.
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agreed!
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Your married. Why would you even think about ruining what you have to be with someone who is just an infatuation. You probably feel like your stuck and when something new comes along you want it, you like the attention and the feelings. Truth is you had that all with you wife at one point. Try to get that back instead of going outside your marriage.

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some people are never satified - what a crying shame !
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I hear that.
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wordddddddddd !
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If u love her more marry her and divorce your wife if you honestly love her more. Ask your wife if it's okay if a friend can sleep over don't mention it's a chick

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Idiot
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get him candybar !
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You are married, are you ready to give up everything, your family & your marriage for one night with someone ? You have a commitment that is further then sex

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that would be SORRY !
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don't punk out, be a man, think with the head on you shoulders not the one in in your pants.

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i like wat u just said. awsum!! and i totally agree!!
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you the MAN and he should be so !
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elkhorn1477

Wise up! Are you seriously asking something this stupid?

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You're married-end of the issue. What you SHOULD do is tell your wife that you no longer love her and want a divorce, & I hope she sticks it top you when you do that! You aren't FREE to act like a single, horny man-got that? Tell us-would you go for your wife spreading the goodies around? No? Talk about a double standard! Males like you should be ashamed to call themselves "men".

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Your married!!!!!!!!!! If you didnt really love your wife why did you marry?!?!?! The bible says its a sin to commit a cheat!!!!!!!!

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agree hes stupid if u ask me
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Stay loyal

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Hello! You are MARRIED! If you REALLY loved your wife you wouldn't have even had to ask this! I think you know the answer. That is cheating. If you have feelings for her , GET AWAY from her!!!!!!because she is just trying to pull you and your wife apart!

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Stay faithful,I learned the hard way,my wife and I r just starting over with one an other,u had to love her then just work on it and get that spark back u two had then.

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yeah it sounds like he is fixing to learn too !
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U sir should do what u want to do and not what someone told u to

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jannicabyrns

I don't think you should do it. Stay faithful to your wife!

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right !
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ummmmm..... dont do it and tell her to go go the hell home because you love your wife too much

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yeah why open up a can of worms !
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Well who ever you love more is the answer

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If you want to give up everything then do it it's you that can answer your own question

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AnsweringQueen101

y did u even marry her when u knew problems were going to go wrong. Tell her(nicely)

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Take time to think about your question. How would you feel if your wife posted the same question ? Dont screw up both of your lives !

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yeah ! i come up with HONEY WONT OPEN UP THAT DOOR ! cause someone is going to get kicked to the curb !
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Seriously. If you were mature enough to get married, stay in your marriage. Communicate what you are lacking in your marriage (thats making you become tempted). Communication is key to a healthy relationship. Once you have tried everything you can for your marriage to work, then seek out. Until then, your wife deserves you 100%. In order for your marriage to work, you have to completely stop speaking with this other girl. (Who is obviously a homewrecker and if she's doing it with you, she'll probably do it to you).

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100 PERCENT and THEN some ! good one !
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b loyal to ur wife u azzhole!!!!! dnt u love and cherish her??

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swallex good one !
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Uh don't ...

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yeah dont and say he did !
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Whatever you do, DO NOT LET HER SPEND THE NIGHT! Cherishnship you have with your wife. If you love your wife, be faithfultand by her. I know from experience, and you should back and look in on your relationship and think, "Am i happy with her? and Is it mutual" don't do anything you might regret because it will turn out completely worthless in the end.

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do not ! # 1
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what did u do ?
did u spend ?
i say if u didnt , say no , it is very bad 4 ur wife :(

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Then, you do not love her. You've already made a commitment to someone whom you've already claimed to love. You've already established your relationship; why risk it? What you have is actually called lust. It too will pass with patience. Stay true to your first love!

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you made a lifelong commitment dude dont ruin it!

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say no!!!

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You'll be surprised if you keep loyal, you won't feel like a douche and stuff about it later.

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Here is a suggestion that I did not see posted, as your wife if she would be interested in a threesome. "Manage et trois" is not great for nothing. If she does not go for it, you have to decide what is right for you and your wife. You made the commitment and you have to decide whether or not you can live with it. Either way you need to communicate with your wife. What if she feels that everything is fine in your relationship or worse she feels the same way you do?
Think before you act. Do some positive soul searching and see what you should do by what you feel is right for you and your wife. You are not in this decision alone.

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