you have been conditioned. Remind yourself that each woman deserves a chance. At the first sign of a screamer/control freak...walk away. the next woman you meet may have never raised her voice, was able to discuss issues like an intelligent being, who is rational, strong, independent, comfortable in her own skin, capable of making good sound decisions, but is just fine w/ what you wanted to do. Would you really want to miss out on a woman like that... chalk your ex up to "things I have already done that wasnt fun" and when a woman starts acting like the ex...you exit stage right and be done w. her. Be sure you are compatible out of bed before you get in it. Saves a lot of headaches and heartaches.