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Boyfriend moving in with me. He wants me to remove my dinning room furniture that I spent a fortune on. I really want to keep it. Help

Boyfriend wants me to remove furniture from house

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Tell him you changed your mind about his moving in.

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dustee
lol :)
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Marty1146
Kookie, Rusty B told me to follow you, he saw your post you left him before he quit ask, I hope you don't mind.
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That's very nice of him. I really hope he comes back, he's a great guy with a lot of good information to offer.
I don't mind at all, thank you, I'll follow you too if you don't mind.
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Okay, thank you Kookie!
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Tell him no . If he doesn't like it he can sleep in the dog house .

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amen!
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Horrid advice.
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Laughing...
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I think its great advice lol
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Haha, you cranked me up!
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I do my best to give horrid advice .
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Just talk it through with him, in a calm and intelligent conversation. Explain why you want to keep it, and how much you like it. He is moving in so it will become his home as well, so he should have a say in it.

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Girl, if he can't accept your style, he isn't the one for you.

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its your stuff you choose what to do with it, if he has a problem with it too bad hell have to deal with it

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Tell him he have to learn to live with it, or play around and say me or the furniture.

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Your house your stuff, what significance is the dining table must be a reason to blame a piece of furniture? any man who has conditions on moving in like that should not move in I think.

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Why? It's your home. You're entitled to have what you like in it. And what happens if you, I'm sorry, break up? Will he replace it for you? Probably not. If space is tight, put it into storage if you like. Or find other uses in your home for the extra chairs. But never give up your loved hard earned things for a boyfriend. (Husband, that's a different story. A marriage & true love is worth compromise. It's required sometimes. Boyfriends? Possibly temporary? Not so much.)

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A married man gets to remove the dinning room furniture... a boyfriend moving into "my apartment" will be happy to have a good home...case closed.

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Manners, Manners, where did they all go? Control issues. Ahh yes, ...
I like your pots. :) I miss the shoes. :)
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Lol.. I put the "RedShoe" back... I like it too...
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You said it girl ;)
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kookie u r soooo sweet
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2 key words: your place and boyfriend (well 3). He is moving in with you, not the other way around. Don't get rid of your expensive furniture. He is your boyfriend. Let's face it, he might not be there in 6 months, and then you will have gotten rid of your furniture for nothing.

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Marty1146

Sorry, YOUR house , YOUR rules! Boyfriend or not, just who does he think he is? Only you can answer THAT question!

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Totally agree!!
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They just removed your question, although I really don't understand why???? About the bully button.
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Yesterday, I pushed back as Rusty did before he quit, I'm still in my learning phase, and I hope the moderators are forgiving, they don't have much of a sense of humor either as I've also found out. I wonder if I made the right choice to come here from yahoo or not. Only time will tell. This internet thing is for the youth anyway. lol.
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I would tell him, dining room furniture stays, but you don't.
Never let him tell you, what you can or can't have. Do you want to be miserable?

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If you want to keep it, just freaking keep it. It is not his decision, unless it is his house. If he doesn't like what you do and like, you should have a conversation.

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Why would you even consider removing it?

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Tell to get lost

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Ridiculous. Must be a controlling personality you don't need. Once he moves in, you would need to evict him if things do not work out. Get another roommate who respects your taste and opinions.

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He's already trying to dictate your life and he hasn't even moved in yet? NEXT!!!

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And you are still considering staying with him? Do you realize he does not value the same thing you value? This is a major red flag.

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You really haven't given enough information. You've only given your side. Why does he want you to remove it? Does he want to use some of his stuff?
Let's reverse it. How would you feel if you were moving into his apartment and he said, his apartment, his stuff and you couldn't bring anything of yours?
If you aren't willing to make it "our" apartment, stay single and live alone.
Nobody said you had to sell it.

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