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Why do I feel bad when others staying silent and I am supposed to speak up on meeing them or on phones?

I really feel bad meeting someone when he/she is staying quite, my inner force me badly to break silence,I feel I have nothing to speak, often bad jokes.I have to keep myself calm n stay relax forcefully not to feel restless. This is all to make my company feel comfortable with me.. but I really feel restless. I want others be involved in conversation. Also I smiled too much. Why cannot I stay serious? Why this hapens to me? Am I irritating?

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If you don't know the person that well ask questions: what are their interests, how their day went, etc. Just don't talk about politics or religion. If you're with guys discuss sports, vehicles, etc. I have the same problem with smiling ;) Smiles are not bad just keep them under control. In my opinion I wouldn't tell jokes- they could be taken offensively or whatever. Also don't be like, "How's the weather today?" Think of questions to ask. That will keep the other person talking, and hopefully more comfortable. :)
Hope this helps!

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Try not overthinking things so much, ask them questions about what they are interested in or what they plan to do after high school, or for spring break etc. to get them talking. That way you don't feel the need to just ramble on and feel awkward. I am not sure how old you are but those are just examples. Think of different events or whatnot that are happening in your area, ask them if they are interested in those sort of things.

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