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Why do some people don't appreciate my kindness for them?

I try to be nice to everybody because I always do them a favor. When it is time for me to ask them do me a favor, they laugh about it in my face and refuse to do it. When i do stuff for people, they don't say thank you or nothing. They always talk negative when I try to do it the right way. All I can is that I try and I am tired of being nice to people who do not appreciate my kindness.

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haters... sad but true :'( try to meet new people (better people)

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sully56

Then try doing for yourself

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this is just me but if they are mean to you ignore them or ask why must you be so mean or something that's how i fix my problems at school

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What you can do are 3 things:
If you go to school try to talk to a teacher about this
talk with a parent
don't do any favors to see how you feel when they don't do any favors for you

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If they don't appreciate your kindness then why go out of your way for them. There are plenty people out there that would appreciate it an tell you they do also. When you don't get a favor in return then don't do anything else for them or they will use you.

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stop letting people walk all over you i suffered long enough and then put my foot down find people you can trust. saying no will make you a better stronger person

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They are greedy. Some of them use you like puppets. So when they ask you to do a favor, say "No. I wont do it without appreciation of my hard work."

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you have the wrong friends, but when you do something for someoe you should do it out of the goodness of your heart, expecting nothing in return. Tell them how you feel, then watch for a change in them. No change find new friends.

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I do this to, people don't seem to like me despite my awesome personality :-) and kindness, I just ignore them.

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They could think you are sucking up to them for a certain reason

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You're gorgeous! <3
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My mom was going through the same thing as you were, so I think I pretty much have an idea of what you feel like. Can I say, devastated? Might be the case, so the best thing to do when someone asks you for your help is to simply say, "I'm sorry, I can't." not too straightforward, which is a good thing. If they take it up the butt, then explain why you can't. There are better people out there, ones that will appreciate you and your hard work. :)

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Well, a wise person once told me "you will never regret a kindness but you must give with no expectation". She went on to say that kindness is rewarded but not always from the source we want. I think you are giving with expectation of return from those who do not appreciate your kindness. And, I think you are trying very hard to get jerky people to like you. Show yourself some kindness and move on to those who will appreciate you.

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"Act like a doormat & you will be treated like a doormat." You're very nice, but maybe too nice & accommodating? Learn to say no sometimes. It's totally OK. Not easy at first, it's an art you must learn, but you can do it. When you're less available maybe these rude people will appreciate you more. Regardless, find & hang with people like you instead; you'll be much happier. (There's a poem you can Google, "Do it Anyway." Will make you feel better.)

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Thats because they're stupid. i have a classmate who is like that. Everyone hates her........................................

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You know, that's a hard one for me too. It's super frustrating when people aren't kind to you in return or they don't seem to even have the decency to at least smile and say thank you! It makes you feel unappreciated. But sometimes people just have bad manners or they just expect it. But never let this stop you! Always be kind and helpful to people, no matter what. That's a very wonderful trait you have and I can promise you there will be a time where someone really appreciates your kindness and it will have a huge impact on them. In the meantime, keep being nice! What helps me is to remember that it's not always important to get a thank you out of being kind, just remember that God appreciates it, that you are really serving HIM. Matthew 25:40: and the king shall answer and say into them, verily I say unto, inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

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Unto not into... Darn auto correct!
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It was also my problem. I have only one answer for this. "Don't do stuff because people can't, do it because you can and be happy that you did it."
If you do something, you create ideas in your head and LEARN YOURSELF. Do not take it as a favor, take it as a possibility to be even better :) Doing lots of thing for other people will make you universal or and expert.
Yup, it is hard to go against your own feelings but it is totally worth it.

P.S.: Einstein said that only the life lived for other people is worth living. :)
Don't worry, be happy.

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