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How can i support my child and go to school as a teenager because i'm too young to get a job

Im only 13 and im too young to get my working papers. by the time I turn 14 it will be the end of the summer and I wouldn't be able to have money for my child. what do I do?

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Put the baby up for adoption. There are married adult couples on the waiting list praying to adopt a baby.

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You. I like you:D
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Where's the father? (assuming you're the mom)

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she probably doesnt want to talk about it.
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I feel like she doesn't even know who the father is, if she's getting pregnant at effin' 13...
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How many guys do you think could be the father?
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I'm thinking at least two. I knew this girl in sixth grade who got pregnant and had five guys that were possibly the father, which is pretty pitiful..
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This is why they actually need sex ed in school. But the teachers are too squeamish and the parents want to pretend it doesn't exist for their children.
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My whole sex-ed class was just the teacher saying, 'These are your reproductive organs, a baby is made there - don't get pregnant,' because some kid's parent the year before threw a fit about how their kid was learning too much about sex in sixth grade. Thing is, kids NEED to know what'll happen to them.
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Yes I know who the father is, but its complicated.

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Sounds like the father is 18 or older.
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In which case he can go to prison for a long time, then be labeled as a predator for his whole life. And truthfully, if he's over 16 he's still going to jail for a while, at least by a majority of state's rules.
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You're only 13, you are literally not capable of having a child. You need to put them up for adoption

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Your answer made no sense saying she is literally capable of having a child. I get what you mean but your wording is wrong.
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It really depends on the whole puberty thing...
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I think they meant more of not being able to take care of a kid, but who knows.
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True, sorry if I was mistaken!
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I hope that this isn't a joke...

Ask someone like your parents to help support you financially and aid the child while you continue going to school and until you are capable to take care of the child yourself.

Either that or put the child up for adoption.

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no this is not a joke, I wish it was tho but my mom said she wouldn't help me because it was my mistake
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Good. Your mother has some sense!
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She abandoned you?
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You have a great mother. It's your fault that your 13 and already have screwed up your life. You should truly be ashamed..
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Tell your mom that the mistake you made, and she is not willing to help you with, will be her living, breathing, grandchild. She may want to help you with your decision on what you should do. Ignoring it will not make it go away.
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arent u living with your parents

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You can't, if this story is true you would know that.

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Here's what you do: give te child up for adoption. You are just a baby yourself, and if you try to raise this kid it'll only end up as bad as you; giving it up for adoption may actualt give the kid a chance in life, though sadly IQ is hereditary.

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If this is a true story and you're not a troll, and you are the age that you say, then you have a support system already, you have parents at home or an extended family that will assist you as you raise your child and complete school, if you are asking this because you resent the help that your family is trying to give you, you might as well get used to it, because legally you are not going anywhere...

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No im not a troll,l this is true and m mom says she is not going to help because I screwed up badly and its my responsibility.
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Your mom is making a big mistake, now, herself. Her decision not to help you make decisions with what to do, since you are only 13, is a MAJOR mistake. A human life is involved here.
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don't put him or her up for adoption. that is your baby. so your parents for some help with money.

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They may help, but that nowhere near changes the fact the she is thirteen. She is still a child.
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Children should not raise children. Every person I know whose parents had them under 16 is a druggie, a ho, etc. In other words, kids raising kids is a bad idea. Plus, you do not have full mental development until 21, and have not the patience of an adult under about 20... So no, you are very, very wrong, and this fool should by no means keep their child unless their poor parents decide to be good people.
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Exactly
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I think that this is a great part of the reason that society is messing up so much. Kids should not have kids.
Back in the day when people had to have kids young as helpers, people were much more mature and responsible; now kids having kids are irresponsible and only want to party and be kids, plus they're not married like people were a couple hundred years ago..
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You don't have a child at thirteen. Simple. Yes, I know it's possible, but don't be stupid enough to do that. This girl is still a child herself, no one at that age is fit to be a mother.

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It actually is possible.
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T.A.R.D.I.S :D Epic
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it is ?
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I didn't mean it that way,Hulk, I do know it's possible. I was saying that don't be an idiot and have a child at thirteen. She's still a child herself, and really could not care for one like an adult should. And thank you, RED. :D
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From what it looks like, she's already made that stupid decision to have a child at 13.
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Yup.
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Even though I agree this girl cannot raise this child and made a stupid decision, doesn't It kind of reflect on the way the parents raised her?
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It doesn't always reflect on the parents. She could just be a stupid child. Her life would've been fine if maybe there was an abortion involved.
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True.
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You can't. How do you support a kid when you still are one? You don't have the responsibility. Put the kid up for adoption.

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Where is the baby's father? How old is he? You have parents, he has parents, it might be a good time to have one big family meeting.

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Besides everyone else's suggestions on adoption you FIRST and foremost need to see your doctor and an OB/GYN. Why you ask? You're only thirteen, and while you may be physically capable of getting pregnant your body may not be physically capable of sustaining a pregnancy and birth. There are all sorts of weird things that can happen - your body is trying to develop while also creating a child. This could be very, very dangerous for you. So you need to speak to your doctor and make sure that it is safe for you to even go through with this pregnancy, or if there is significant likelihood your body will reject it at some point.

I know I just made that horrible suggestion of abortion. Personally I do not consider abortion appropriate as a birth control method, but this is a legitimate medical concern that you need to discuss with your doctor. There can be real long-term consequences for you and you need to consider them very carefully. Your MOTHER should also be concerned. I don't give a dam if she's not interested in financially supporting a baby, she's responsible for your welfare and dam sure better be interested in your health.

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I think the child may already exist.
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Then this kid already has several grand in medical bills from the hospital, and ought to have made a plan by now. I mean, she had nine months to do it. I kinda got the impression that the baby was due sometime between now and when she turns 14, but whatever it is, a 13-year-old cannot and should not be expected to raise a child on their own. I wouldn't be surprised if some abuse allegation or the gov't was already involved in her case.
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No my daughter is not born yet.
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Have you been to a doctor yet Zharie? If not then you need to. Pregnancy can be dangerous even for healthy adults. Get a doctor's advice, do what they tell you, so you can be healthy and your daughter can be born healthy.
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You're practically a child yourself! Many people cry and hope that they would have this opportunity...I suggest thinking this through...A LOT. I'm sorry, but you felt like an adult before, so you better be prepared to be one.

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Powerful last line:D
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Thanks :)
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If you are responsible and want to keep her then go ahead. But how are you going to pay for diapers, crib, stroller, high chair, toys ect. Im 13 and would love to have a kid (dont know why). I have a job, do you? But if you do keep her then get a job, like car washing, babysitting, dog walking, stuff like that. You should also have a name picked out, I love the name Sofia maybe you like it too

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ZharieH do you want to give your baby up for adoption? Do you know that you are going to keep her once she is born?
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It is impossible for you to support the child by your self! I hope your child is allright and healthy! In this situation you need to get help by adults. Better from relatives! Or you can find a local Teenage-Mothers Organization to help you. There are some organizations that help young mothers! I wish the best for you and your child

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