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My boyfriends parents are getting divorce, and he's really stressed out.He's acting different and I'm stressing out. What do I do?

I'm trying to be patient with him because I know he's going to act different but he's snapping at me and it's not my fault? Do I confront this to him? Do I keep it to myself? Some stuff he's saying hurts my feelings.

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Obviously this is going to be very stressful for him but don't get to involved, this is his issue. You just need to show your support in as many ways possible, my parents got divorced two years ago, it made me mad when people asked too many questions, all I really wanted was someone to talk to, or might I say yell at. He might be feeling the same, I can't be sure cause different people have different reactions. If hes he says it's important to tell him.ing your feeling with some of the thing's hurt

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Talk to him. Tell him what's goin' on, and how it's making you feel. Listen to him, but remind him that you are not the one he should be taking his anger out on. Kindly. If it's hurting you, maybe you guys need a break. Also, you should talk to your parents. Even better, you can talk to God. I can't promise he'll answer with a yes. But I can promise that he WILL listen and answer you.

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Great answer, thank you so much!
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no problem. :) Glad I could help you!
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First id say dont take it personally, everybody handles "stress" differently but if he`s saying things that bother you maybe just give him space, and let him know you`ll be there if he needs you.. Suggest he talk to your Schools counselor if they have one

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Talk to him calmly. Let him know you are sorry he and his family are going through this, but that it is not fair he takes it out on you. Be as nice and understanding as possible. It is a lot for someone to take in when their family feels like it is falling apart.

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Show that you care. Don't get mad at him if he snaps, make him food, that sort of thing. Call or ask him in person how he is every few days, but don't do it to where it'll bug him. Just be sympathetic, or as much so as you can. My boyfriend's parents recently split, and though he was more happy than sad because he could finally get away from his crazy mom it was still pretty stressful; stuff like what I've listed really helped him out.

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My parents got divorced. The only help friends could provide was to discuss it with me. That is all. He has to and probably will learn to deal with it. I actually understand now why they divorced. It's usually a good reason. And it is extremely common and has been for a while. This teaches you that you should be very picky when choosing a spouse. Learn from other's relationships to realize how important it is.

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Sue them for breach of contract

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Console, wait and watch.

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Divorce is really hard on kids, he's probably going to be stressed for a while. I'd pray for him, and id also be there for him. I know he's snapping, but realize it's out of hurt not out of anger. Show him you're there for him even when he's at his worst

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