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Did you feel your epidural interrupted your bond with your baby? is it a blurry memory?

I'm aware of the many health risks of the epidural. I would prefer opinions from mothers that have experienced birth both with the epidural and without. Thank-you in advance!

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Unless you have a deep desire for pain, go with the epidural. You will be awake and can experience the birth without the stress it put's on you. Bonding will still happen and you will be relaxed and can enjoy the moment.

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then she can eat some chicken and gravy lol
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helpful and fun makes u nbr 1
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Lol...luv ya dustee...I need to catch up and give ya some stars....:)
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An epidural only blocks pain from about the waist down, it doesn't make you loopy or anything else that would affect your mental capacity. Honestly though I would suggest trying to go without if you can. I had one with both of mine and the first one (due to complication) the pain was so bad, that even having the epidural didn't really help. And with the second one, if I'd have known how quick and easy he was going to pop out, I'd have not bothered. Especially since I've had severe pain at the injection site ever since.

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I had an epidural and later a C-section. My advice is get the epidural. There is no sense in enduring that kind of pain. You will bond with your baby, trust me.

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No .. it doesn't negatively affect the bond with a baby .. In fact, if anything, it improves the bond because you don't have the associated pain interference. The epidural only reduces the pain you experience .. you are fully awake and aware of what is happening.

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I have not had an epidural but my declining it was due to my fear of needles. I have three daughters. My first was 21 minutes of pushing. My second was 4 minutes of pushing. My third was one push. I am pregnant with my fourth. I have considered the epidural because I am 17 years older then I was with my first child but I hesitate still because I am afraid if I do have the epidural, it will slow down the labor/delivery process. Everyone tells me that I will have just a half of push this time! Lol! :0)

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Most women are not that lucky. Hopefully you will have a smooth delivery this time, but if not it's the only way to go. Don't be afraid if you need it. When are you due? :)
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Thank you for the encouragement and advice. I am due June 22. :0)
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It won't be long now...:) congrats!
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Boy or girl?
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Yes it seems to be coming very fast! We are having our first son. :0)
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cool...are you done? lol that's what they kept asking my sister in law after she had 4 girls, their 5th one ended up being twins! But got another girl and a boy!
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Lolol! Wow! That is an amazing story! :0) Well (lol) I said I was done after my first, then I said I was done after my second, then I was for sure done after my third....... so far James Jr. is my last. Lol! They are considering me high risk even though I feel fine. (My age makes me AMA, I have a white coat phobia so my blood pressure concerns them and they "claim" I am diabetic even though they refuse to give me my lab results which I really think is WEIRD considering I have every right to know.......)
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Wow...that's a lot of prom dresses and college money to save for...lol You should demand to see your records tho...just sayin, I'd be on them like flys on honey! ;)
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Yes I am possibly debating switching drs also. I have an ultrasound (routine cuz of my age lol) tomorrow and this Dr is a specialist so I am gonna politely ask if they could request it for me. Maybe it will work! Lol! Yes it is a lot of prom dresses and college. But at least they are all spread out! Lol! We have a 17, 10, and 7 year old. Plus I am 5 and a half months pregnant. :0)
How about you my kind and wise friend? :0)
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Oh I see...well, we tried to have another child after our son was born and it just didn't happen, so life went on. Then when we were handing him the car keys, we got pregnant with our daughter! I was a little distraught because I was then 38, and couldn't see myself doing it all over again. but when I found out she was a girl after the sonogram, I smiled all the way home....she has been the biggest blessing in my life and I don't remember what I did before I had her LOL
She is now 15, what a beautiful and smart girl, she was always like a little adult with her thinking. I'm so proud of her, it breaks my heart to read what the kids on Ask are going thru and the things they ask....I consider myself blessed indeed.. Anyway, you can do this no problem...:)
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Thank you so much! :0)
What a wonderful blessing! A boy and a girl! She sounds lovely. I bet her big brother is very protective! :0) We joke around saying Jr. will have pig tales and a tea party at least once behind mamas back! Lol! Did everything turn out OK with you being 38? If you don't mind me asking. The drs try to scare me a lot because I am 35. I now they are being cautious but there is a fine line between cautious and making me paranoid! I am a natural worry wort as it is but I am really working hard at changing that about me.
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Yes, everything was fine. my Doctor at the time made me feel terrible. He kept saying things like "at your age"...and insisted on me getting the ...oh, sorry brain fog...what's it called when they want to stick a long needle into the stomach and get some embryotic fluid to test for Down's syndrome?? Anyways...I researched it and decided I did not want to do that, so he started giving me a male attitude ( like being a female I didn't know what I should do with my body), and I went home in tears and told my husband. We found out that I had every right to not get that done and we changed Doctors. the new one was a very kind ( Mormon) Doctor, who treated me with respect and asked "MY" opinion on how things would be done, since I had to have a CSection ( I did with my son also because of problems having him). He was wonderful and we loved him. He even loved my beautiful Enya music that played while she was being born. I had epidural so I was awake and he looked up once and said to me and my husband, 'that is some of the most beautiful music I've ever heard thank you for the experience." Coming from a Mormon who loves singing and beautiful music, I was very happy with his response. Anyway...you will be fine, and don't be afraid at this point to change Doctors if you feel it necessary. Those are 'Your' Records and You and your Husband are the one's having this baby....don't let them make you feel bad about asking.
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I am so happy everything worked out! Yah they pushed for an amniocentesis also with me. I did the blood work but said no to that test. I am considering switching drs. This Dr first thing he said to me after asking why I did not take the nutrition class was "Do you now the number one reason why baby's die when they are born?" I said no. He said "Well 60% is unknown but the second most common cause of death is baby's being born to mothers with diabetes!" Yes that is great bedside manner...... let's scare her into doing what I say! :0(
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Wow...yeah that's pretty much the same attitude I was getting...no thank you, I wanted to feel good when I left the Dr's office...mine was just scaring me too.
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Wow, thank you so much for your great advice. It is great to hear a success story about a Dr. Have a blessed night and I will catch you again on the next question. :0)
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Having an epidural won't necessarily slow down labor. My water broke at 36 weeks, I waited 18 hours before going to emerg (I thought I had wet myself, so sad :( lol). They confirmed I was in labor but I wasn't having any contractions so after 46 hours they induced me at about 10:30am. I laboured, without drugs, until about 6pm when I finally agreed to an epidural, I had only dilated barely 5cm so it looked like it was going to be a long night! It took forever for the anaesthesiologist to get there it seemed like! Lol. Had my epidural about 6:30pm and had 2 wonderfully manageable contractions before they got very intense again. So the nurse told me to push the button to get another dose of the epidural. It did nothing so she checked and I shot up to 10cm dilated in no time. My son was born at 6:54pm. So the epidural didn't slow us down at all, complete opposite actually it greatly improved my labor time! My doctor didn't make it in time, they called another doctor in and he walked through the door as my son was coming out lol the nurse pretty much delivered him!
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@rav! WOW! That is very inspirational also!!! Thank you so much for your words! :0)
Definitely gives me something to think about! Congratulations on your baby! :0)
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I had so much pain I did not even feel the epidural! Do not think it changed the bonding experience at all.

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That is amazing and inspirational! :0)
I am terrified of the needle!
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Honestly, did not even feel it. Had three sons.
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Wow! That really is inspirational! I have three daughters, never had an epidural. But I am pregnant with my boy. I have thought more about the possibility of an epidural this time...... The drs love to point out how old I am and "high risk" so I am being realistic as far as them gonna try and push an epidural or even a C-section. O_O. Lololol!
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