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Is it possible to change something about your personality but still be yourself?

I'm way too straightforward. One example is that I always compliment people in a very dense manner (ex. "you're pretty") and eventually it just gets old and seems cheap. Is it possible for me to deliberately become less straightforward but still be myself?

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Yes I think that it's a good thing to try to improve yourself. You'll still be you. There is nothing wrong with complimenting people as long as you mean it. I'm always trying to improve myself. I tend to compliment people but sometimes I can be a little blunt if I'm saying something that I think someone needs to hear but if I get too blunt, sometimes it puts people off. I'm working on that. Just yesterday I said something on here that someone considered obnoxious. I'll still be me if I learn to be a little more diplomatic.

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Hey JD ! Long time no see ! Hope you are well !
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Yeah, I was actually thinking about you the other day. I hope things are ok with you.
I'm going in for surgery on Thursday. I have a Bi-lateral inguinal hernia. Sounds like fun but I'll be up and around again before too long.
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Hope everything goes well for you, my friend !
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JD : No, they are not working out. Time for me to move on !
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I'm sorry to learn that. It seemed so promising. I hope things do work out for you soon.
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I'm hoping so. I've dated this nurse from the VA twice now and I really like her. Plus she's right here near me. You stay in touch more, hear ?
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Mr. JDBoDean, good luck with the surgery.
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Mr. JW, I'm sorry to hear that. :(
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I hope things go well with the nurse. I have a special place in my heart for nurses. My grandmother and two of her sisters were nurses.
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Thanks MM I'm not too worried about it but I will be glad when it's over.
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Be praying for you JD.
God bless!
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Thank you sumpthinsup. I appreciate all the prayer I can get. I'm confident that it will be ok. I just don't want to wake up during the surgery and hear the surgeon say oops. I'll need to be back in action ASAP. Those bills keep coming. I have a lot of friends that are very supportive. I'm thankful for my friends and family. Including the friends I have on here.
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Bills! don't you wish they would just send one?!
But no.
One from the guy who puts you out. (How do you like me getting around that nasty bit of spelling, lol.)
One from each doc who peeks in the room.
One from the lunch lady, the lunch lady's cousin's dog,
One from the,....you get the idea.
We actually got one two years after the procedures!
Hubby sent the check # and amount proving it was paid already.
Goodness they hit you when you are not able to deal with it all.
Hope yours will be better, :)
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By the way, my bro had that op.
He said they told him to get up and moving about right away.
He answered that it felt like his, well, to word it so they don't take this off, like his chest was sewn to his privates.
But he said it didn't last long and he recovered quickly and the walking really does help a lot.
But they are serious about that not lifting for two weeks.
He only tried that once.
It amazed him how quickly he decided to not try it again.
Keep the humor, I know you will.
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Yeah i mean its still you
just try to doing what makes you feel comfortable

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Only you can change yourself, and it is very possible to change. Just try to hold back a little more, force yourself to do it if you need to. After a while you won't compliment people all the time, and then you can only say stuff when you truly mean it.

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Hey Marcus! Gotta say my friend you are who you are! Straightforward is not such a bad place to be! It generally cuts down on all of the BS you get out of life...as far as compliments getting old or seeming cheap...never! Maybe just find some different ways to say the same thing! I don't think any girls or....err...women ever get tired of hearing "you're pretty"

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Hi, AZ. Thanks for your input. :)
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I guess I just don't feel like a respectable or likable person. I think most people get bored of me and only talk to me to be nice.
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You're welcome Marcus! Well then THAT is what you need to work on! Your being straightforward is not the problem! I must tell you, the way you view yourself is probably not how the majority of people view you! If you view yourself in a positive light, so will the majority of others! You seem very respectable and friendly to me, albeit I don't know you, still, from what I've seen you are!
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Of course I don't know you personally but you seem likable and respectable to me.
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That's my thought!
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Thanks, you two. :) I appreciate it.
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You're welcome! :)
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This is very true. I sure never get tired of being called pretty, because I usually don't get called pretty in the first place except by maybe relatives, lol. :)
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Elli, I think you're pretty. Honest. :)
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Thanks Marcus, you're sweet. :)
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Nice.....Marcus!
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Lol you all are just flattering me. :)
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Haha! Shhhh...be quiet and take a compliment!
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Lol... Oh thank you all!
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Marcus : Just be yourself ! We all like you just as you are. Don't change, just be you. I know someone who wants me to be the way she wants me, not the way I am. Always just be yourself!
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Hey Marcus, it goes back to what we were talking about before. If people compliment you, accept it gracefully.
A compliment is to tell someone honestly something that you like about them. Flattery is trying to use their Ego to get something you want from them. Flattery is phony and selfish. I don't think what you're seeing here is flattery.
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Bob are things not working out the way you had hoped? If that's the case I hope they get better.
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JDBD: Great statement!
MJW: Don't change....not ever :)
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Okay maybe you all are being honest. I can feel it. Thank you. :):):)
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Yep ! We're being honest, Marcus. Known you a long time. You've grown up a great young man!
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You're my buddy, Mr. JW. :)
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Hey, we've been here a long time. Myself with two different names, but same picture. Course we're buds ! :)
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Hey me too!
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AZ, you're my buddy, too. Everyone in this thread is my buddy, actually LOL. No joke.
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AZ is a real nice lady. Good sense of humor.
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Yes absolutely. Despite her username LOL. I enjoy talking to her. :)
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I do too. She's a smart one !
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Hey, I'm still here! And thanks to you! I LIKE my username, throws people off!
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Lol AZ, I can't tell if you're a really smart child or a really joyful adult.
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Marcus! lol! Just to let you know I'm a really joyful adult!
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AZ - Your joy spreads. Your aura is so "alive"! :)
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That it is my friend! I'm at a good place, a happy place in life, so.....Yes, I feel alive and joyous! :)
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A happy place? Can I ask what that is? Just curious, hope I'm not prying.
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You are not prying, the best I can explain it is throughout your life you will make decisions, some good, some bad....happens to everyone.....but then one day, everything just comes together, everything aligns, and when that happens.....it's pure bliss! :)
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That's good to know! Thank you! Are you saying it's sure to happen some day?
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Also I'm glad you're happy. :):):)
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Used to be that I wouldn't have believed that...came close to giving up on that...then, everything changed, so yes, I believe it will happen some day! Different times for different people! And thank you! :)
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You've given me something to look forward to, Miss. That helps my worrying problem. Thanks. :)
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You are very welcome Marcus. :)
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You don't necessarily have to change, just learn to think before you speak. You will learn that it's not always appropriate to give a response. But it's a good thing to be polite and considerate.

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Hi, Lady Wood. Thank you, Miss. :)
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I take that advice to thanks
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Peaches and ice cream cookies :)
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http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=firework+katy+perry&sm=1 YOU MAKE YOURSELF. YOU DON'T NEED PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING YOUR NOT. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF ALWAYS!

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Sure, we can always refine ourselves!
Think of it as developing yourself.
(You will know if it seems too odd to suit you. Then try something else.)
'you're pretty' = 'Wow, God outdid Himself making you!'
'You are like sunshine on a gloomy day.'

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Thank you, Sumpthinsup!!!
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You are welcome.
Sorry for the delay hubby got home, lol.
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That's quite alright. :) How you been?
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Well, put it this way, I am doing a lot better lol!
My icd unit shocked me 5 times last month because it thought I was in cardiac arrest. No, I was just exerting myself.
We have it changed now so my heart rate has to get up to 185 beats per minute for it to do that again.
Took me awhile to recover from that ordeal. Three days in the hospital.
Then home and I got a gout attack that caused a great deal of pain.
Three weeks of hobbling about.
Called for prayer and am suddenly doing MUCH better, thank God!
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Oh may God continue to bless you, Miss! You have my prayer.
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Thank you love. I appreciate the prayer and the blessing.
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Can I ask exactly what I'm praying about?
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My heart needs to gain strength back after being shocked five times for no reason.
I am expecting a divine miracle so I don't even need a c-pap for sleeping each night either.
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