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Do you cut off a friend with benefits relationship if you start to get feelings?

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Personally, I don't understand how you can have a physical relationship with someone if there are no feelings involved, from both participants. I think it's unnatural. I realize I'm probably in the minority with my opinion, but that's how I feel anyway.

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I totally agree!
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I also agree :)
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I third the motion. Great answer ! :)
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Definitely a "Star" answer ! :)
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Count me in, I'm the same way !
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Thank you all. :)
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You're welcome. Have a great day. :)
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I don't know which number I am, but I'll join
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Hey there, Josh! Welcome aboard! :)
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Ditto
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It'd be a tragedy if you were in the minority, Rav.
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@Ravin! Star! Count me in! :0)
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Thank you guys. You're very kind! :)
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There is no way to answer this in general. If you think that you would work as a couple, then you can just go for it. But if you know that you wouldn't work then you need to make that clear. With yourself. You can have romantic feelings for a friend; benefits or no benefits. But if you don't make it clear and accept that, you might start building in your head that you are in a "relationship" or might be someday. Of course sex makes things all kinds of confusing but you can keep the benefit if you trust yourself about your feelings. But keeping in mind that feelings are not at all trustworthy, if you have doubts, it is better to cut the benefit to save the friendship.

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Only if there is absolutely no chance that the person will reciprocate your feelings. Talk to the person though.

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This is a good question now my answer will be very honest friends with benefit relationship means a business arrangements between 2 adults that means it's all about what you can get from each other now you want to know if you should start a true relationship and the answer will be no because from the beginning both of you had no respect for each other

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I feel friends with fringe benes is a cop out title.. Your body is a valuable place that you live. You can share your love, your personality, and your views with everyone and anything around you. But, your body is where you are located at the moment and it needs to be respected by anyone who shares it or allowed into it.
Friends are people whom you respect, trust, honor, and care for. Anyone who enters your body better darn well be your "friend." Since you both have consented to the benefit factor, she/he too is in the turmoil. Separating the difference now is a little late. You "could" do it. You did. You "would" do it. You did. "Should" you stop it now after 2 consenting adults have taken it to this extreme? NO. Don't stop it. The, "could haves, would haves, and should haves, are already in place. Emotions don't turn on and off like a light switch. You have overstepped your boundary. Go for it. Unless you both hear the music and call it quits, you can't rob yourself of the other because of hindsight. Just one of you can't do it without the other.

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