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my best friend knows that the guy i like has a crush on my other bff so she decides to make a bet with the guy and if he wins he gets my other bff and if he loses, he gets me. i think thats wrong and makes me look desperate. which im not. what do yhu think?

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Wow - this guy and friend are not for you. dont waste your time on someone who would take a bet that involves human beings feelings. A relationship isnt meant to be like that. Think about what your goal is here...is it to just get the guy? Or is your goal to find a kind , funny ,loving respectful guy to have a relationship with...a husband??? No hurry. A piece of advice that was given to me and turned out to be sooooo true...watch a guy when you are not involved with him, when he is not aware of you , how does he treat his sisters and mother or young children when no one is paying attention...the guy who is kind, patient and all good things when he is not "on"...one worth your time....because that is how he will truly be with his girlfriend or wife later on down the road.
Dont forget you are truly wonderful and having this guy or any guy does not make you - God is in control...if you are up for a challenge...I know the title sounds cheesy, but it is a good read, read the book -
When God Writes your Love Story , by Eric & Leslie Ludy....even if you dont think about God , the insights in this book really make you think outside the traditional box...you can order it or probably get it on inter-library loan.
Take care

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Thanks! I really like yhur answer! :)
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I am glad you commented, I was wondering how you were...my daughter says I am a little too empathetic, I think it can be a gift...I hope you will read the book.
Have a great rest of the week.
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I don't think your best friend is that great of a friend. And this guy agreed to this bet? I wouldn't play along with it. For one thing if he likes your other friend, and he loses the bet, he's still going to like your friend. I'd forget about him and tell your friend you don't play those types of games. If she wants to be your friend then she needs to show you some respect.

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Even the guy in this bet thinks my friend is annoying. I do too, and everyone else. So this happens more than once. Thanks for yhur help! :)
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Yea you should. If he dosen't like you for you and just goes on a date with you for a stupid bet you shouldn't go out with him. Plus if you go out with him make sure he's nice and a gentlemen and if not and he's mean and rude you should dump him.

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Yes u should be mad. That's really messed up of ur friend to do this. And if the guy was cool with the bet, don't waste ur time. Unlessssss...he is purposely gonna lose so he can have u cuz he secretly likes u ;) otherwise ya be mad ;)

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xD i like yhur answer x]
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Haha thanks ;) and who knows...? Anythings possible! ;)
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Ouch. Heck yea. Why do you have to be the "losing" prize?

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He likes my bff better and my friend made this bet thinking it would help me but just makes me look stupid.
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Bad friend, bad guy. Get outta there fast and tell them how you feel about being the second choice. The losing prize. Ask them how that would make them feel. Do you always feel second best when you are with this friend? If so, get out of that relationship fast. It's unhealthy. Trust me, I was in that situation for a looonnggg time and it really hurt me as a person. Don't take that kind of abuse. You're worth more than that.

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Thanks for yhur answer.. It will probally help x]
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I hope it does:) good luck
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