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I am 15 and i have had many sexual partners, i gain no pleasure from sex and feel nothing from it but also crave it. do i seek a doc?

I have had many sexual partners and am not proud of it. I’ve been sexually active since 4 and I’m 15 now. I feel no actual pleasure from sex or sexual activity’s but still crave to do them. I dirty talk with many guys and I feel so ashamed but brings me nothing but shame. I am also i very weak minded, I always give in to persistence and hate that I do but can’t stop myself.

I think this is called sex addiction but I don’t know.
Am ijust a horny person or do I have a problem??? Should I seek therapy or medical help?

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I'm so sorry for whatever happened to you at 4. A toddler doesn't come up with the idea to act sexually on their own. Whatever happened is not your fault nor was it deserved. When you're molested/raped, it distorts your understanding of sex and your self worth. It makes you feel like your body is not your own. As if you didn't have any right to say no, but you did and still do!

You need to stop to prevent further damage. You're valuable because of who you are, not what you're willing to allow someone to do to you.

I was raped when I was 4. I understand what you're going through. I went to counseling, but it wasn't helpful.

I found healing in Christ. If you read the Bible, you'll find that God loves you and only His love can fill the void that you're trying to fill with meaningless sex. His love is true and not predicated on what you can do for Him. You have value because God created you in His image. You are more valuable than any other of His creations for that reason. He sent his son to die to pay the price for your sins because He wanted to reconcile you to him. I pray that you will come to know these truths and also find healing because He's the only one who can help you.

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I'm sorry to tell you this, but I think you might just be horny like every other teenager. The reason behind why you do not enjoy sex could be that you're not emotionally connected to the person and just don't love them. Many people do not enjoy sex if they aren't in love with their partner. If you are still worried that you are a sex addict you could try googling the symptoms of sex addicts and see if you have any of them. Or maybe try a screning quiz like this one:
http://psychcentral.com/sexquiz.htm
good luck!

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