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Is it child-abuse if your mom hits you with a rubber spatula?Or is it discapline?

my mom says that when she hit me with a spatula it was "discipline" but i think that it is child abuse. so i'm asking all of you who answer.

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If it doesn't leave a bruise, then she didn't smack you hard enough for you to call it child abuse. Some parents use belts, their hands, other objects... If you know your actions are going to warrant a smack from a spoon... Don't do whatever you did. That's the dang problem with society today... Any time a parent smacks or spanks their own child, everyone wants to call child abuse. It's bullshit if you want to know. More children need some form of discipline today... Then there wouldn't be so many problems with today's teens... There is a HUGE difference between Child Abuse and discipline. A HUGE difference. The bible clearly states, spare the rid spoil the child. I myself spank and smack my children when it's necessary... But NEVER have I EVER abused my children! NEVER! The way I see it is, I lay down the rules, they know the rules and the consequences... Every action has a reaction... Meaning every broken rule has a consequence and I'd rather my children learn this lesson as early as possible instead of walking around thinking they are invincible!

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Well said momma
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I agree with you. But I think people can go over the edge sometimes.
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Me either! But my ex husband Pastors wife called DCF on me! Not my ex...
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ditto on spare the rod spoil the child
about three quarters of the children
today need a trip to the wood shed
to get their backside warmed up
their manners and mouths would improve
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Mr_FadedGlory
I spilled grape juice in the living room, even though you told me not to eat or drink in there. Was there some sort of spanking or discipline you plan on dispensing on me Victoria?
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well said happy momma my standing applaouce to you
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Thanks everyone...



FORMER... I think you just want some discipline!!!!
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Mr_FadedGlory
WHAT!!?? NOO! Why would you even think that? Anyway, I'll be waiting patiently for what ever you deem fit as my punishment. Don't make me wait too long though. (wink wink)
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Well....let's see... Maybe I should restrain you and just... Just kidding... I forgot, this is a kid friendly site! Lol... Gnite Former;)))
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Mr_FadedGlory
Good night Victoria! Thanks for the laugh! Merry Christmas!
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Merry Christmas Former....<3......
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I agree with 100%.
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What did you do?

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Depends if she even hitted you hard to make a bruse or something

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its hit not hitted llol jk h=idrc
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Life's so crazy parents can't even punish their kids without it being child abuse now a days. So sure why not. It is in 2011

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days are not far when a child will like to know more about the dos ans dont of the parents rather than their duty towards the parents
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What?
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a spanking s discipline, sending someone to their room is discipline a rubber spatula? it depends on what you did, if you did something BAD it's discipline, if you did something not so bad, it's child abuse, but of you report your mother you either go to your father or an orphanage. I hope your situation is figured out, Have A blessed Christmas.

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U can take it either way it depends on how u interpret it

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No one should ever have to use something to punish a child. I was beat with everything they could get their hands on. Yes, I would be concerned if this is something that happens a lot. How about talking to your parents about it. Letting them know how you feel may allow them to see how your feeling. Parents are not perfect and we do try to listen. I just hope your in a loving situation where you can open up to your parents.

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Trust me.. If you think that's child abuse you should stay in my house for a few days.. You wouldn't think that then. In conclusion, THAT'S NO WHERE NEAR CHILD ABUSE. I am sorry if that sounded offending, I am just telling you there is far worse things your mom could have done then hit you with a RUBBER spatula for the matter..

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what happens at *your* house? :(
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Well it's worse then a spatula.. (Murmurs)
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uh oh...TELL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
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I think you should talk to someone. All parties involved in any form of abuse should suffer from the situation. Even the abuser. And nobody deserves to be abused at any time or place, or in any form...
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It all depends? Is it plastic? Is she angry ? Because if you access the situation? Just look at the millions of kids that Social Services have taken away from their home. And are now. statistics from a violent crime. God bless you.. MERRY CHRISTmas!
My kids don't even know what time out is..

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well, thats probably abuse, unless she loves you. ask her! also at least she dosent squirt your mouth full of dish washing soap, and shoot your donkey with a bebe gun. :( (like me)
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That sounds like animal Abuse! Why does She torture your Donkey because you did something wrong that poor animal soap is not bad but a bebe gun is Gosh!
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...unless *donkey* is code for something else?
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Well it depends what you did? Did you rob a bank or did you take something without permission? My mom told me that when she was little my grandma beat her with a bat and my grandpa punched her in the face and gave her a black eye

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Families each exercise their own forms of discipline, who are we to interfere?

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does she hit u on te hands or does she wack it against ur face ?

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Its discipline, not abuse (uuughhh getting into cheesiness) ur parents beat u because they care about u...OK (MUHUHAHAHA)

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I don't think its child abuse. Especially if you did something that you knew that you weren't supposed to do. Now, if she kept on hitting you with it for a while I would say it was abuse. If she just smacked you like 3 or 4 times with it then I think that's discipline. I think that's what some kids need now days is to get a spanking, instead of being threatened to get a spanking over and over again. I dont believe it was abuse at all.. If she didnt take it overboard.

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Call the cops and ask them.

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There is no need to call the cops over a rubber spatula lol
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Lol. I don't know how old ya are. But we use to get hit with worse then that. My moms broken wooden spoons on me as a kid. If you've done something wrong and is not abuse. And u know if u did. Then u deserve it. It bumps in life. Respect your elders. Be good!

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depends on what you did i guess

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Its Discipline if you did something wrong. But if it's for no reason then it's not right

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In the state of Massachusetts it is abuse if a parent hits a minor child with a closed fist or with an object.

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Really? Wow that's sad
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^ how is that sad? Would you like to be hit with an object?
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you have announced globally about your mothers action but not a word about your misdeeds-

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A rubber spatula seriously that won't kill you. I get hit with belts,wires, and even got slapped and way worse( but I guss I sidecar it). Well abot a year ago then I became a better kid and stopes pinching and slapping my lil bro. Any how if you consider it "child abuse" because you did nothing then I guss it's called child abuse.

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Wires? A belt? Woah don't you think that's a little too far?
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It depends what you did, but either way i think it's child abuse. Especially if they do it often or for no reason. My family didn't raise us like that, so maybe that's why I think so. But there Are other people who take it way to far.

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If she hit you hard enough to leave a bruise for 2 weeks, then it is child abuse.

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A bruise for 2 weeks? that sounds like a pretty terrible bruise!
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Abuse!!! I used to get beat with all types of objects. Report her ass to the cops or just tell her to stop.

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OK, if she always does it and she hurts you (bruises, cuts), tell. Make sure that you did not do something to deserve it, though. Hope this helps!!!

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it depends on what u did... (did it hurt?) Merry Christmas and happy new year

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in my days in school they had the strap behaver was under control now look at today

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No. It's just discipline.

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did she leave marks on you?

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