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How do I know if my husband is gay?

my husband and I separated for 6 months after being married for 26 years. My husband has had terrible anger problems everytime I ask him about some of his sexual behaviors. I have noticed lately after our separation that he looks at men a lot and stares at them almost like a flirting look. he constantly threatens me w/ leaving again.

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dross1958

Well you have pretty much answered your own question.

If you as his wife/ ex wife were married to him, and you suspect he is, then the odds are pretty good that he in fact is.

Without meeting him in person, nobody here can tell you for sure. My gaydar does not project through the computer too well.

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Dross, I agree who would know better, I second guess myself because he reminds me about giving your spouse the benefit of a doubt, but I think he abuses that.
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I can't tell you how many gay men pretend to be straight that I have come across over the years. Usually they are not officially out, or are embarassed because they are still close to their parents and figure they won't approve, or who knows what, I we have at least 6 couple friends where the wife is either A) naively oblivious or B) in it as a business arrangement

It is sad and not fair to the kids or spouse to be like that.

We also know 3 men that finally came out, once their kids were over 16 in one case and in the other in college.
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I agree, you have answered your own question and since the chance of getting a non-hostile or a truthful answer, is nill..the next time he threatens to leave, tell him goodbye and change the locks.

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Casi, thanks for your advice and even though it sounds like a hard think to do...I am thinking that I am at the end of my rope.
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