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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

I believe that I'm FTM and my aunt told me today that its not possible. What should I do?

I came out to my two aunts, my three uncles, my great uncle, and he told my grandma. I've also told my grandpa's 3rd and current wife. they've all been very supportive. but yesterday grandpa's wife (Miss C) had taken me shopping and I kept trying to tell her that I didn't want to shop for girly things and she dragged me to a Stein Mart. there, we bought high heels, flats, and just over all shoes that girls I know would kill me to have them. I honestly didn't feel comfortable in any of them, and I acted for her. my Aunt S got me high heels for Christmas as well, before she knew. when I told my Aunt C, she had pulled me aside today to talk about me trans* thoughts and what she thought of it for real. She had basically told me that the music that I listened to and the shoes I had picked didn't fit for what I was going for. I tried to tell her that it was mostly for Cosplay and not for every day wear or anything and I didn't want to hurt Miss C's feelings. Aunt C has told me that I should try to "experiment" with the transgendered thing and try to see if it's perfectly right. She used to baby sit me back when she was 7. So she claimed she "knew me" and this wasn't me. It really hurt to hear this, but then, she works with people that are FTM and...she said im kind of like them, but I'm not at the same time. I don't know. I guess I'm just asking for help and support?

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I came out to my two aunts, my three uncles, my great uncle, and he told my grandma. I've also told my grandpa's 3rd and current wife. they've all been very supportive. but yesterday grandpa's wife (Miss C) had taken me shopping and I kept trying to tell her that I didn't want to shop for girly things and she dragged me to a Stein Mart. there, we bought high heels, flats, and just over all shoes that girls I know would kill me to have them. I honestly didn't feel comfortable in any of them, and I acted for her. my Aunt S got me high heels for Christmas as well, before she knew. when I told my Aunt C, she had pulled me aside today to talk about me trans* thoughts and what she thought of it for real. She had basically told me that the music that I listened to and the shoes I had picked didn't fit for what I was going for. I tried to tell her that it was mostly for Cosplay and not for every day wear or anything and I didn't want to hurt Miss C's feelings. Aunt C has told me that I should try to "experiment" with the transgendered thing and try to see if it's perfectly right. She used to baby sit me back when she was 7. So she claimed she "knew me" and this wasn't me. It really hurt to hear this, but then, she works with people that are FTM and...she said im kind of like them, but I'm not at the same time. I don't know. I guess I'm just asking for help and support?

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Sea_Trish: 1 year ago via iPhone

Look Sweetie, let go of all these expectations from your relatives, and be yourself. There's a peace that comes with living as yourself. You're not a label, not a group. Just you. And you're perfect just the way you are.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

Thanks. (: That means a lot. I'm so glad that the Internet is so helpful and kind. That's kinda what my Aunt C had said, and she said that I should ditch the labels, be me, but keep playing with this thought before making it official and what not. She said to keep cosplaying as male characters, too. So, I do. Thanks for your answer. (:

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Sea_Trish: 1 year ago via iPhone

Remember to live for today. The past is gone and the future isn't here, but you are. If this was a greeting card it would say: "Make yourself some happy every day!" Glad I was able to help a little.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

Hahah! Thanks, really! :)

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millicentmach: 1 year ago

If you believe that you are an FTM then the best thing is to first accept yourself. Secondly, talk to your mum or someone who you feel you can trust, about the issue. Let her talk to your relatives into accepting you for who you are and accepting the change.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago

I've pretty much accepted it. I'm afraid to tell my mum because I've been binding the past few weeks (safely, promise!) and she saw the second strap for one of two things I've been using (a slimming stomach tank top and a sports bra; she saw the slimming shirt's strap) and have me a disgusted look. I however talked to my Aunt S for help and she even helped me with the binding Christmas day. I haven't gotten the chance to talk to her much away from my other family members. It's pretty much my whole family knows except for my cousin, my parents, and my grandpa. ._.; So... I also added a little bit more details to the details box thing.

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npurdue2002: 1 year ago via iPhone

Go seek psychiatric help.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

Would getting help from my aunt who's a psychologist count?

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msedwina: 1 year ago via iPhone

Yes. That would be a great help.

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Sea_Trish: 1 year ago via iPhone

That's not logical. Sexual Identity isn't an illness.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

Yet so many people claim it is, Trish.

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Sea_Trish: 1 year ago via iPhone

Well, in my world sexual identity might be confusing, may cause some family discord, could be considered uncool, but its not an illness, not a disorder, and not a mental disease. We are what we are, start by loving yourself and it's uphill from there.

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Julia26: 1 year ago via iPhone

What is FTM and binding? If I knew what they meant, maybe I could help you.

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HarveyHero: 1 year ago via iPhone

FTM stands for Female to Male. That means physically I'm female, but mentally I'm male and I want to physically be male with that, but cannot achieve that without surgery and hormones, which I am not willing to do for a good ten years or so.

Binding is when you take something and literally bind your chest down so you look more flat. I use a tank top that's used for slimming down your stomach to help you fit into a dress a little better. But I put it on in a fashion it presses my breasts to my rib cage. I then put a sports bra over it for extra squishing and to keep the tank top together with how I've folded it. (:

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Julia26: 1 year ago via iPhone

Be who you are! It's ok if some people don't accept you. Not everyone is going to. Just don't listen to them and be who you want to be. Your Aunt that says your not who you used to be--- she is just caught up in the moment. If you never told her you are FTM then she would have thought you were exactly how you were when you were little. But your not. Everybody makes changes and this is one that you chose to make. She is your Aunt. Eventually she will begin to accept You for You. Give it a little time, she will come around. She just can't grasp the fact that you want to change. Don't let her hold you back! Be who you are!
FOLLOW ME :)

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