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Why can't I find true love ? are there any honest guys

I've dated a couple of guys and after they sleep with me they disappear :( they say that they love me and after they get what they want they are gone :( plz no rude answers

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stop sleeping with a bunch of guys then you will know if they will actually love you or not. If you don't sleep with them and they still stay with you, it shows more that they care about you and don't want to just use you.

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I did that they don't call back :( they just want sex and if they called its for sex :(
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Then you don't need them...
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U gotta try the shy guys.

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yup
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Umm you probably come off as ( no offense) easy to get! It seems that you should take a brake from dating!

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I don't come of easy :(
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True Love is what you make it. No man or woman is perfect but there is someone out there for everyone in my opinion. Good luck!

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you are a true lover
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Loser.

You are are beautiful & they jerks. God has already promised you the perfect man & he's out their waiting for you.

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I think I wont find him :(
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Let them know you're daddy's little girl and he gives you all the money you want and you run away from a 700.00 restaurant bill. You'll find the perfect one for you.
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your so funny grandma !!
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@candybar still holdin on to that?! hahaha
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You bet! Se?orita is the most shallow person on ASK.
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the pic does look hot but if some one else does that to you then track them down and slap them

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Thanks but slapping them wont do Anything :(
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I emailed you reply please!
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really bro??^^^
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shut up
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I'm going through that now. Except I'm not that easy. Right now I'm trying the no contact rule to see if he contacts me to see what is going on with me. Men suck right now!!!!! Keep your chin up and quit sleeping with men. Make them wait.

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Ikr they suck ugh :( before bed you think that you are with the father of your children after couple of hrs no one is beside me when I called him back his number is out of service :( it hurts a lot
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Probably your too focused into finding the right one. Give it time. Heal, love, value yourself and love will come to you. There is a saying that's says "love comes to you when you least expect it". There may be a LOT of bad guys out there just playing games and looking for one thing but there are also those who are good and will respect you. Don't blame it on yourself, they didn't know how to value you. Good luck :)

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I mean if one or two did it it's ok but if maybe 9 guys did it, there is something wrong :( am I that unlucky !
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That's exactly why. Don't let them sleep with you. If you let them have you for your body, that's all they'll take you for. You need to be unique - wear pants/skirts that go to or below your knees and never wear them tight, and always completely hide your breasts. If a guy makes a perverted comment about you, ignore him. This way you'll get guys who will be friends with YOU and not your body.
Remember, there's a difference between love and sex.

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Whenever I remember that these guys slept with me and lied to me just for sex:( my heart breaks it hurts :(
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Hey, people have made worse mistakes. Just change your ways and everything will be fine, I promise.
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sounds like someone is an easy target
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What does that mean?
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Nevermind, Appleseed. The last time I've seen you say something nice was never. I don't think I'm fond of you so please leave me be.
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what can i say im a critic
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Aw, hun, I'm sorry. Been there, done that. My advice might not apply to your situation, but just in case...

Many years ago, I did some self examination and decided that the quality of guys I wanted didn't go to the places I was hanging out. So I went elsewhere. I also had to change how I reacted to things that guys would say to me. It seems like they would know just the things to say to disarm me, so I stayed close to some trusted friends who had my back in case I fell under some guy's spell. It took a while for me to learn some new habits, but I learned to hook up with the kind of guys where I liked who I was when I was with them. Hope this helps.

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Thanks yours so sweet :(
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You're welcome, hun. I thought of something else, too. I also tend to go for men who are several years older than me and have a decent education. Some of these guys are very sweet and are more inclined to want to take their time with a young lady and more willing to commit to a long term thing. Young guys can be hot and fun, but they mostly don't know where they are going to be in a few years so they are still experimenting with everything. So don't leave out the chance for you to meet someone who is older and see what that's like for you. Just remember that you are a worthwhile person and you need to find that man who makes you feel good about who you are. Good luck, sis! :)
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Good answer, Renata. But I think you forgot to mention that there's a distinct difference between love, crush and sex.
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Amen Renata
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great * difference*
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Thanks Marcus. I didn't have to say anything about the difference between love, and sex, since you already mentioned it in your post, right? Take care. :)
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@Renata: Oh, I got it. You too!
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ohhhhh the "journey".. of love.. of experiences... of life... i/we could write a book (actually i am :))
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make a more serious commitment, and make it mental than physical. And there are honest guys out there you need to switch your style up and get with a more normal/ original guy for a relationship, also when you do get physical make it count- cuz guys dont forget it when its great!lol

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If you are looking for true love...and true love comes with respect..Don't have sex. You seem to be easy. Start now and pledge that you come first and you are a person with feelings and a future. You are not a good time for some over sex male chauvinistic men.
Only you can demand the respect you deserve by living with high expectations.
All good things come to those who wait.

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*... pledge that you come first ...*

Wait, I thought you told her NOT to have sex! Haha sorry, couldn't resist! :-)
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I will do that thanks a lot ! I will not give up
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Senorita...I waited and I found the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you can too...
Tony!!! you devil you lol.....:)
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Stop sleeping with them so quick... That sounds like it might be the issue. You sound desperate. Sex for most men is purely physical, for women, it's emotional. If you're too easy, you're not a good choice for most guys. Stop looking for love in all of the wrong places. It took going through some bad relationships for me to realize when to cut communications with people and to stop seeking love. When I finally stopped looking for the perfect man, we stumbled into each other's lives.

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Yup, that's usually how it works! :-)
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Check where you are meeting these guys and try somewhere else.

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Your 18. My best advise is to stop dating for awhile. Also if you have dated a few and slept with a few,.... That's already a few too many for your age. Stick with guys 2-5 yrs older then yourself. Also don't date online. Meet ppl through ppl. As for true love, it takes some ppl a life time to find. It took me until I was 28 to meet my best friend 31 to date him and now engaged to him. So result vary.

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dateing website or try to meet someone that you are comfortable around and dont have trouble talklkiong to

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yes... friends first is usually the route.. i think
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:) me to
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you got it "friend" :)
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yes there is JUST wait he will come along

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Hey what ever happened with the older guy you were asking about last week? Is he the jerk in this question? I knew there was something wrong with that situation, when it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Like Rena said, change the type of environment where you're looking for guys, and adding to that, just don't look. You find it when you're not looking for it. Good luck!

*Somebody's out there, somewhere,
waiting for someone to come their way,
somebody's out there, somehwere,
sombody's out there, somewhere,
I will some how be sombody's someone, some day*

- Triumph

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He was one if them I was so stupid I believed him :( thanks tony
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U know his number is out of service !!!! What a looser
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Oh, don't be so hard on yourself - your not such a loser.
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And yes, the spelling is correct.
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Please, Tony... it's Renata. :)

"Rena" makes me think of kidney failure... lol
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when you stop looking, thats when you will find the right one, i am 23 and have been married for a year and a half, i was in your boat when i was 18, i stopped really trying and then found my husband, and it was online, some people are against it, but nowadays its the way that most people take! And most guys at that age really are just trying to get lucky. just have fun but be safe and don't let them get you down too much, guys are jerks, plain and simple, until they find the right girl and they are perfect to you.

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ALL of us are jerks? Really?
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ok not all of you, and i didnt say all, haha, but alot of you are, just like alot of girls a b****es
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Yes they are jerks I dated girls for a while because of them ! I hope at the end u will find my prince ?<3
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trust me, you are a pretty girl, you will find someone who will treat you like a princess and will do anything for you!
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Most of what everyone above said.. Especially ^Jennifermiller and Penelope101^

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First off your 18! stop sleeping with these guys, If the guy is really into you he wont care if your knocking boots or not, stick with a career instead, I have a 19 yr old daughter and she is still a virgin, she goes to a local college and lives at home, and it is her choice to remain in tact till she finds the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with.

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She was raised right! Good parenting!
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Good for her! Here's hoping that the one she finds will be worthy of her commitment.
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Great parent here!
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I've taken a look at your previous questions and from what I can see, you; hate America, aren't sure whether you're a teenager, seem to think Hitler's groovy, and want everyone to believe that's you in the picture (it's a copyrighted pic sweetie). Any guys you might have spent time with are probably concerned about your imaginary Sugar Daddy walking in.

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*I'm 18 and I liiiiiike it!* - Alice Cooper
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Lol you are so weird Idk what's your problem and it's me why are you that interested in me sir get a life :)
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Oooo ya Baby. Your probably a bitter 60 year old anyway. Tony seems to be interested though!
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Dave, you're crazy. Lol.
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It's like watching a cat toy with a mouse.
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She also asked a previous question about being a virgin. Def not a real person, made up photo and profile.
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She's too young for me, Dave! Haha
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Ya, but she wants (and seems to believe she deserves) an honest guy. Take one for the team Tony, and go give her a good rodgering.
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stop looking! it will jus come to you! i was 18 wen i got with the love of my life! who i am still with and living with at 21! alejandro is 28 now! he was NOT MY TYPE he was a cholo bald with baggy clothes! i thought he was to short n i never would have dated him but thn he started coming around all the time to c my bro n law who i was livin wit an my sis. n we started talking i looked past all the things tht made him not my type! n we fell in love! Im telling u that because sometimes the love of your life has been thr all along u just never stepped outside of your lil box to see! n give a chance! so if i can go from ew ur to short gangster n bald/ugly for me TO i cant live a day with out you To carriying hiz last name thn anything is possible! just stop looking and pay close attention to those who are NOT your type;) sorry if tht was to long or way off but hope i helpt a lil ;)

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Wow your answer is the best and inspiring ! Am happy for u :) I hope someday I will find someone who would love me
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Cool beans. Love does that
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You are the real woman like my mom.I love my mom.
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true love is out there for you you just have to find it :)

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you will likely fall in love several times. just the way it is. unless you are part of the 1% that falls and stays. my experiences say otherwise.. enJOY

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Well first off stop sleeping with them...you should've caught on after the 2nd time but it took a lil longer...you are beautiful so you should expect guys to come around that only see your outside and don't talk to you long enough...you are making it too by believing everything these guys say to you...if they can get you to change your mind you are eventually going to repeatedly change your mind and this is how they keep hurting you by f*****g you and leaving...my advice is to stop looking for your one true love while you are 18...it can happen, but the easiest test someone ^^^ way up there suggested is right, simply find one you think is good for you, and then give him NOTHING physically...see which ones stay around, then give JUST A LITTLE like kissing, then wait like 2 weeks or more and see which ones stay around...continue in comment

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by now it'll prolly be like 1 or 2...but if everytime you talk to someone they are trying to get you in bed, leave their b1tcha$$ and find someone better...and yes there are better guys out there i'm one of them (not even trying...don't take this wrong) i'm a honest guy and value a girl way more than her looks...you have to start looking for the shy ones and the ones that don't come at you all the time...then you'll find the good guys

and make a new email account bud and hit me back
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You asked a question before if it's ok that you are still a virgin at 19. Now I am sure you are not genuine. You
are just trying to illicit responses.

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Hi, Bellydncr. I want to talk to you, if you don't mind. It's more crap about Synesthesia. If you feel I need to shut up about it, tell me.
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Email Marcus, no problem.
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I can't email anymore. It's very complicated.
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Omg every question I post it's not about me and every thing I ask should not have to be a thing that happened to me :)
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If I asked why can't bears fly ? Does it mean I've seen one that do ? Lol sometimes I think you need to upgrade your mentality se?ora bellydncer ;( I feel sry for you trying to do your best to let me down
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I can't read your spelling.
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Yeah yeah of course u can't
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@Senorita: I think she's serious... I can't either.
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What part u can't understand ? :s am half Spanish btw so sry if my English not that good lol
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Let me type slower so you can read it. Remember you asked about dropping out of college? Not a good idea.
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@Bellydncr: LOL! I still read it the same speed.
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Every father deserves a child like you.every husband dreams about his wife to be like you.And every son want a mother like you -prasadbanala1@gmail.com
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Yeah bellydancer! This girl is so-o into herself and so shallow! Great comeback!

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do you want the honest Answer ???

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bets believe its somebody for everybody!

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Yeah, there are honest guys! Actually...that was a lie.

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If you're 18, and we all know you're not, you're a typical "I value what I can attract" type and you deserve what you get. Since you're not the age you say you are, seek help. Only adolescents and adolescent-minded people try to get attention...even if it's negative.

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Nice, sweet, honest guys ARE out there. Maybe you have just been looking in the wrong places.

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preach it girl :)
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Haha I will. :)
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You are in a right way my child.
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dont sleep with them right away, get to know each other if thats all he wants hes not worth it love is a delicate word to many people miss us it , and dont be in a hurry

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Yes there are nice men out there I found my man on a dating service called Lava life and there are some nice men in church too. One thing to remember never have sex with him until you really get to know him.So many guys Just want sex then they dump you.Hope this helps you and good luck.

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Answered like a mother.
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You'll find the perfect guy for you!

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the reason guys leave after sex are many. one is because of strings. Ever try to walk your cat on a leash? It doesn't work. Men are feline in that sense. They will either feign compliance or leave altogether. It's not your fault. Another reason is that some guys think of sex as a crime. After you pick someones pocket, you flee right? Again, it's just what happens in a society that labels male sexual desire as "bad". To counter this, let the guy know in your own way, that you like and are attracted to "bad". Finally, many guys leave after sex because the physical act of sex is such perfect fullfilment to a man that he needs space afterward. (like when everyone leaves the kitchen after thanksgiving dinner). but he needs months of space becuase he is wired different than a woman. sometimes he finds someone else during this time of "space". To counter that, make your sexual encounter to be preeceded by several days of foreplay and making out... letting him know that at the end of this foreplay, you will satisfy him completely. Then it will be so paramount in his mind that he will be more likely to return after he has had his space.

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don't try to find love let love find you... if you spend all your time looking for love your never going to find the right guy don't put yourself out there remember to be confident in your own self before you let a guy take advantage of you

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Okay, I have heard this before. Try to not jump into bed too early, and get to know them more. If they say they love you after 3-4 days its obviously not true. Wait for a while and the right guy will come. Try to stay open and kind. Get on with your life. If all he wants is sex don't give it to him. You deserve better.

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My dear golden mum, I think know you under stood that love is not only sex.True lover will not expect anything but accepts every thing.love means giving, not taking.If you be honest about your ca-rector than honest guy will follow your foot steps and asks "WILL YOU MARRY ME".

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Life is not a bed of roses... and we cant find love easily in our life... i think when ever we are trying to get some thing they go far away from us, and when we take that thing lightly then they come towards us... don't show too much closeness.... i am still single,,,, but i think i am in the relationship with the freedom of my life... so no tension enjoy the life.

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i am a straight serious good looking down to earth man that feels the same way like you women do, i just keep meeting the wrong women for me. too bad the good men and the good women can't seem to hook up with one another.

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