Find out how your husband feels about you, that's the only person who should matter because he is your husband. If he loves you and cares about you, he will protect you from both his family and his ex and you will know it. If you have doubts about it, then you need to seek marriage counseling.

I hope you take this ad intended. Your husband must have little or no backbone or he would have put a stop to this. How you may ask? By telling family that you are his chosen one and if they choose to listen to the ex then he will have no contact. He should stand by you. He should have put her in her place and out of his life long ago. The ex would not be this persistent without some type of reinforcement.

Tell your dead beat husband to tell his ex to leave both of you alone !!!! That's the whole point of being an "ex" you don't date anymore stay out of that persons life there's no way you can come between another persons marriage get her to understand that it's over between her and YOUR husband !!!! =)

Ever considered a restraining order? Gather up all the evidence you have of this ex contacting you. If you have no evidence, start keeping a log...audio files, e-mails, write down times and location in a notebook of when she bothers the two of you, and take her butt to court.

Your husband is the one who should be doing something. He should put up a boundary with her and protect you.
Take good care of him as a wife and be adult about it not whiny or crying. Be diplomatic about it all. Pull out your self respect guns and show him respect and to those who give it to you. If she is around all the time when you are, you need to make for short visit. And go have a good time with your man somewhere eles.