At the end of 2010 I spent a couple of months in a cancer clinic and my prognosis is uncertain. It's too early to claim that it's in remission, but I'm optimistic.
During those two months I talked to many people who had all kinds of cancer. Some would recover, some had no hope and were just going through the motions. One woman said, quite matter-of-factly, that her treatment had failed so often that she was about to tell her oncologist that she would not be returning. She had decided to die.
Cancer therapy is improving so there may still be hope for you but if you have none left then you have only one option. Accept that death is inevitable - it gets all of us sooner or later - and try to pack as much enjoyment into each day as you can. Do the things you love to do. Give Death the finger.
Get a copy of Dr Rachel Remen’s book, “Kitchen Table Wisdom”. Some of the stories in it were meant to help people live; others make it easier for them to cope with dying. It’s an extraordinary book. http://www.rachelremen.com/ktw.html
I am so sorry to hear that. Just try to do as much fun things as possible. Get together with your best friends, go see a comedy, spend time with your family, or host a charity event, Make every second of your day the most fun you can. Try to look for the good in everything. What's your favorite hobby or music? If you need to talk, I have a forum: http://nowords.freeforums.org You can make an account and pm me if you need anymore help. Good luck! <3
Have you ever watched It's A Wonderful Life? If not, you should. If so, remember it. * Also remember that even if you pass (which you probably won't because I know alot of people kick cancer's butt, so I'm sure you will too if you try) you'll only go to a better place and live with God. * I'm not sure if it's true, but I heard dandelion tea makes cancer cells self-destruct, thus making cancer patients do MUCH better (it supposedly works better than chemotherapy). I heard this from my brother, a very trustworthy man. I know you probably get suggestions like this all of the time but if you ever feel like trying this, the idea has already been said; so go for it if you want.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. It's hard to move forward when you have no hope of getting better... when treatments have failed, and you are just a shell of your former self. I can relate in a lot of ways; just remember that you are not alone. I wouldn't recommend skydiving or anything, unless you really want to. See people that you love to see; spend time with those who matter most. Get your financial and material affairs in order- it's depressing to think about, but quite necessary! Rather than lament what you have NOT done, make a list of all the things that you have done, that you are proud of. Frame it, put it in a place that you will see every day, and read it once a day. If there is anything that you want to do, do it. On another piece of paper, write a list of all your regrets; burn the list, and pretend to cut imaginary "ropes" that tie you to people and things from your past. It's hard not to be depressed when you are sick, especially when you find out that you will not ever get better! Try to think of one thing, each day, for which you are grateful. Again, I will say it... you are not alone. Depression hurts, plain and simple. To lessen its hold on you, you need to find peace within yourself. If you are religious, pray for this; if you are not (or even if you are!) meditate on finding it. When you come to terms with what you are facing, you will be less depressed, and you will be able to move forward and enjoy whatever time you have left on Earth. I speak from experience on this- I am sorry to hear what is happening to you. Find support online or in a support group... and remember... you are not alone. I hope your New Year is fulfilling, and you find peace in your heart soon <3
Here is what helped me when my own situation was life-threatening...somehow, I found myself looking into what different people had to say about their near-death experiences...
I also came upon a book called TESTIMONY OF LIGHT, by Helen Greaves. Published around 1962 I think, the author actually wrote it posthumously (through telepathy) just to let people know what is is like, her after-death experiences...
And then, one of the gifts of my whole life was when a dear friend came to me in meditation every day during the week after his own death...he showed me what it was like for him...how delighted, how free he was then...
Just please do not be depressed. I am totally convinced death is a wonderful transition to a freer life, the crowning experience of our life.
I can't possibly add meaningfully to the answers above - they are all great and I hope they are all helpful. Now, I'm going to do what I said I couldn't - add to them!
One small thing that may help - stay on Ask.com - see other people's problems - many trivial, some heartfelt and important to the asker, and some as serious as yours. I think answering some might help you...
I am sorry about your situation. Can I ask what kind?
Last year I was at a lecture by a college professor. He advocated taking LSD. He pointed to a study that was done on a dozen or so terminally ill patients. They took LSD (I am not sure what kind or anything like that) and it was found that most of them had a peace of mind and an improved outlook on life. If you email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I can look him up and put you in contact with him.