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I'm a 37 y/o single, never been married, gal. All my friends are married & have moved on. I get depressed sometime. What should I do?

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It can be really hard sometimes to be single and in the situation you described. Believe me I know, I am 41 and single never married. So, about five years ago I started talking to some of the old friends who are now married with families and everyone of them said if they had it to do over they would not have married. This really made me wonder if things were so bad for me. I started thinking about it and I actually do love my life. I have a lot of freedoms my married friends do not have, including the freedom to date. I also have a lot of passions in life that do not depend on my finding time around everyone else's needs to do them. Maybe that sounds selfish, but I don't think it can be since no one is asking me for anything LOL.

Anyway, I would really sit down and evaluate your situation. Do you really hate your life single? If so then start taking steps to change it. Get out and meet people and do things, join some local clubs you have an interest in, something to get you out and mingling with people.

If you are happy and just get depressed occasionally, think about all the great things in your life that would change drastically with a family. I do not mean day dreaming about romance, I mean reality.

Anyway you are not alone, hang in there Sandra

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make a new g.friend

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Start a club like a book club or craft club (sewing circle, etc...) broaden your circle of GFs. Most married GFs will try to fix you up with someone they know. This can open up opportunities.

Join clubs with single guys. Gyms, dating clubs, etc...

Take steps to meet new people of both sexes. NETWORK.

As for the depression, find other GFs in same sitch. Commiserate a bit but don't dwell. If the depression gets worse, seek professional help.

But do remember to count your blessings. As previous responder stated, the grass is not always greener.

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I am also 37 and single. I have as many divorced friends as I have single friends. It is a very complicated time of life. I would suggest looking for a mate but not settling for one. At least that is what I am doing. Good luck.

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As you said Odog DO NOT SETTLE. The grass really isn't greener on the other side!
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Maybe it's about time for you to start dating, starting your own family and moving on ...

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Consider yourself lucky. Married life is hard and raising kids is even harder and very expensive. I'm 34 and never married. All my friends complain all the time about their unhappy marriages and how they never have time for themselves or each other because of the kids. Many of them have divorced and remarried and got themselves right back into the stress and drama they tried to get away from. They never have money or the time to travel the world and explore different cultures like I do. They cant sleep in on the weekends because of their kids. They all think I have the best lifestyle. You just need to keep making new friends and meet new people. We single people are the few who can really enjoy living life without argument. You may be lonely sometimes but that is far better than going through a divorce and custody battles. It is far better than being trapped in a sexless or loveless marriage. Enjoy yourself and your life as it is. You are the envy of many.
SherryA had a great answer!

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Sherry, Odog, and highhopes are all right on the money !

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Get a life.

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You need to ask yourself what are you doing to get out there and meet a man. Are you dating? Have you tried online? A matchmaker? Going to a place where you know men frequent - Lowes, Best Buy, Home Depot, Sports Bars? You have to know what kind of man you want and yet you also have to be open. Next, you must occupy your damn time so that you are not always thinking about it. What are your hobbies/interests/passions outside of longing to be married? I know....I know....marriage is never too far from the brain but trust me.....you need to take the edge off. If you don't have any, that is okay. It is never too late to pick up some hobbies. Hiking, scrapbooking, poetry, dancing, writing, cooking class, a welding class, etc. It could be ANYTHING that makes you happy...think about it. Next, you need to make sure you are taking care of yourself - - physically and mentally. Try and stay active. I run 3 Xs a week and i take a zumba class. You need to stay ACTIVE. Also, drink water and eat green vegetables and fruits. This is to keep you healthy and you will feel better.

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