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Is late 30's - 40 too old to have a baby

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No it's not. Now a days you see more women having babies later in life, mid to late 30's & early 40's. My sister in law had her 1st at age 40 & her 2nd at age 42. I am 34 & we are trying for a baby right now, too. I want 2 kids about 2 years apart, so depending on when we finally get pregnant the 1st time, I too could end up having the 2nd baby in my 40's. I have has 4 miscarriages, so I don't know how long it will be before I have the 1st baby.

The doctors tend to watch you a little more carefully when you are pregnant in your 40's, but it's deffinantly not too late.

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Thanks for all your comments... I kno about the potential health risks... And also having children later in life after college and or careers, but also if my child would be ashamed to have "old" parents lol... Would I be able to handle the generations changing and going through that with my child so Im not so in the dark about things.
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I think even if you're a great parent your kids at some point will be embarassed by you, LOL, it's the nature of the job. Having a child is beyond any words I have, I would hate for you not to experience it out of fear for what " might" happen.
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I have three children already... 20,17,13... But I would like to have at least one child with my new husband. I'm very happy with mine and his but I wanted to complete us by having one of our own
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It depends on the state of health you're in at the time, but many people recommend not having children too far into your 30s, because of decreased fertility and a greater chance of certain health effects occurring (one I'm familiar with is Autism Spectrum Disorders).

It's really never too late to have a baby, as long as you're still physically able to and emotionally prepared for it. So menopause means it's not possible anymore ):

http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/health_wellness/pregnancy_over_35/article/perfect-age-pregnancy

Just be aware that being pregnant in your late 30s to early 40s will likely need to be monitored much more diligently than earlier age pregnancies.

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No!

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The older u r when u have a child increases the possibility of a birth defect. Down syndrome could happen

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40 years old= 55 years old when hes 15, 20 years old 60.... You get where im going

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My mother had me when she was 41 and I am pretty happy to be here so I don't know where you are going.
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Sdavies- yes I see where u are going with that. Imagine that, an actual adult with enough life experience to raise a child. Love it. Sure beats being a clueless teenager or immature 21 yr old.
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To be absolutely fair, age and maturity are not always connected. I know of some very mature parents that had children in their 20s and are doing quite well. Davies was just bringing up the concern with age gap between parent and child, which can have a substantial physical and emotional effect on both.
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Poindextra I believe I said immature 20 yr olds. Not ALL 20 yr olds.
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I can understand that... On one hand, I look very young for my age and I am still up on the latest "stuff" without my children thinking I am their friend... But that gets harder and harder as the years go by... But I think that it could be a blessing too... Jus that this one is going to have it alot easier than wen I had to raise my other three.. And not to mention... Be so spoiled too :)
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Thanks Poindextra!! Yes im just pointing out that there is a certain age where they should not get children because of such an age gap
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With many grandparents raising grandchildren today I don't think age is a factor. Nobody don't seem to think anything is wrong with the age gap when people drop their kids off with aging parents because they are In a financial bind or not emotionally stable. Older parents make great parents they get the job job.
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I've heard of ladies having babies well into their 70s and recently 80s!

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The poor kid would be planning their funeral by the age of 20... Yikes
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Agreed ^
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No

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Be aware that the rusk fir birth defects increase with age so you will be a high risk pregnancy having said that nothing is impossible for almighty God

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I wouldn't reccomend at that age

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too late have a kid when your young and the kid will have parent longer

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Although health risks are greater you have more to share w a child. Knowledge, life experience and maturity are pluses. If you are healthy go for it.

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So true well said :)
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Things to think about .... The later you have your kids, the longer you will be working. I know people who delay their retirement 'cause their kids are still in college.

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