Nope, not disrespectful, but it shows lack of trust... I don't have my husbands passwords for anything, phone, iPad, computer, nothing and I could care less either way... The way I see it is if someone's going to cheat or betray you somehow, they'll do it one way or another... The sloppy ones get caught... Not all of them actually are dumb enough to leave evidence... There's nothing you can say or do to prevent someone else from doing you wrong... If it happens, it happens and how you deal with it will lay the foundation for future relationships.... Good luck... You are who you are and you teach others how to treat you, so keep that in mind....
I don't suggest doing it behind his back. Ask if you can look at his phone and see if he has anything to hide. Respect his personal items. However if you suspect something you do need to find out and I guess snooping at the phone is one way.
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no it is wise and every time that you can without getting caught and i am a man ! why would you Want too? and you shouldnt have too ! the reason i said no is i suspect that you suspect that he is cheated or cheating other than that it could be considered Rude but why would or why should it unless they have something to hide and i despise a cheat and a liar!
I agree with Happy Momma above. When I first remarried, I used to want to check everything out. But I soon realized that he really wasn't giving me any real legitimate reason to suspect him of anything. However, I also knew that if he really wanted to cheat, he would find a way to do it - no matter what I looked at.
Sounds like there are trust issues there...if you do it sneaky, and find stuff then what...what if you misinterpet some message, confront him, and it was nothing he was doing wrong, but you misunderstood the writing...but you confront him about it, and you were wrong, then he now has trust issues with you...and he knows you snooped....