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How do parents with children from previous marriages and one child together agree on parenting/discipline?

Me & my husband have a child each from previous marriages and now just had a new baby. We have already had disagreements on parenting/discipline. Me, if a child does something intentionally wrong there should be a punishment (time out, grounding, etc.) on the other hand my husband believes if its already done why say anything about it. Isent that teaching your children theres no consiquences for their actions? Also, I believe in teaching your children morals and manors. He believes in whatever makes them happy. And, I dont believe children should be cursing, his child does. How can we come to a middle ground and be a happy family that can agree on things and make it fair for all the kids. Also, how do you just change the way they have been brought up so far. For example, if one child has been aloud to cuse and say bad words and the other hasnt. how do u make it far for all now that the families have became one. This whole issue has been the only problem me and my husband has really had that we dont agree on. He also believe if $20 is all that you have to your name and your kid wants another PS3 game, he should get it. Regardless if you may really need it later.

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You've got some sticky problems here that would have been good to talk over before getting married. Didn't you notice his child's behavior and language before?
Regardless, you're all a family now. If the two of you can't resolve them on your own, you may need to see a family counselor. Maybe have a time when just the two of you go out for dinner and have a long discussion. Keep it calm, be willing to compromise.
Regarding the finances question, this is the #1 thing couples disagree on. You might want to let each of you have an "allowance" of a certain amount that can be spent however that person wants, with no questions asked. All other money is for important stuff and is to be used only for real needs the family has.

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I think your right, I think we do need a family counselor. But getting him to agree to that would be a problem. Sometimes I think it would just be easier to just give in and let the kids do whatever whenever, and when they ask for something "yes". I dont understand him really at all. He thinks in his mind that if he punishes them for something the do wrong or dont give them what they want when they want it. That their not going to love him anymore. I have tried to tell him different, That by teach them morals and rules and having structer they will have more repect for him. I dont know...
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In my opinion I think its best you just sit down and talk about it, by strategizing the best way to deal with the situation. It's very important to avoid any disagreements or argument that will bring a problem to your marriage. Also let both of you come to an understanding.

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Have tried to talk to him several times and always ends up in a argument. He never agrees to anything. I feel like he just wants me to give in and let all the kids do whatever they want whenever they want. And everything they ask for is a "yes". I dont think that I ask for much. I beleive and have been raised that we are the people our children learn from, if we dont teach them right from wrong, how else are they going to learn.
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Two words!! FAMILY THERAPY!!
And fast.

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If my addition is right, it sounds to me like you've got FOUR to raise. I think your husband is waaaaaay off in left field, but then you already knew that. Children who aren't disciplined are basically suffering from parental neglect. You need family counseling and fast. I just hope and pray that your husband will agree to that, because he sounds very immature. God bless!

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Ask your attorney to refer you to a mediator. With their help, you can sit down with your ex-husband and discuss your concerns. The mediator is completely objective, and you can hash out everything, and hopefully reach an agreement.

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Been living your life for over 20 years. In my case my husbands kids did not live with us and only visited so he wanted to shower them with gifts all the time. It's called guilt or trying to buy their love. They are adults now and he still has a little bit of that going on. All I can say is good luck - it has been a very hard thing to deal with. I think the family therapy idea is great. Save you years of arguing or maybe even divorce.

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Get your husband into counseling... no wait.. treatment

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Sounds like you found a winner, this won't be your last problem. As far as answering your question, these are things you should be talking to him about.

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